Thanks for the replies. There has been a couple of people who has given me some great advice. Hopefully everything works out because really isn't this hobby suppose to be fun.
Thanks again
I hope it works out for you (and the lady in question) whatever decision you decide to make! I hope you don't mind if we continue the discussion that branched off about whether or not it's possible to consider an SP "close" or a "friend"?
You packaged up your reply very conveniently by defining it singularly. You are incorrect in that friends doesn't say it has to be mutual. Friendship infers there is a mutual respect, admiration and freely gives assistance on good terms with one another. Perhaps you are inferring that your definition of friends really means they are acquaintances. I have tons of acquaintances and few true friends.
By the way I pay my accountant to do my taxes, the serviceman to repair my furnace etc and if I don't pay them they will withdraw services. I do not make friends with business associates because if things to go off the rails friends wise, it is bad for business. Similarly if you become a true friend with a SP and things go off the rails then services are withdrawn which indicates it was strictly business.
I never said how
I personally defined "friendship"
There are no hard and fast rules. My points were that there are many different types and levels of friendship, we all have different ideas about who we would consider a friend, and that a business relationship does not automatically preclude having some kind of friendship at the same time (or separately/later). Yes, of course it may be wise to not become friends with someone with whom you do business if the business is more important to you than the potential friendship. But regardless many people do, in various scenarios (not just referring to sex work). We can't pretend everyone is the same or that it doesn't happen. Friendship also doesn't mean that that friend provides services that one would normally pay for for free; likewise services being withdrawn does not indicate there was never a friendship there or can't continue to be one. Likewise, developing a friendship does not automatically necessitate withdrawal of services.
and that point of that is ??
Let's face it, attraction to an SP in the first place is a visual thing. You visit their websites, like what you see, make a date and establish a physical attraction. You have sex sometimes many times because of the physical attraction and then you start sharing tidbits of information about each other.
Then you become friends and don't fuck anymore? I suppose it happens. Unlikely in my personal case but I understand some guys pay for a couple of hours and talk with the SP for half of that time. Loneliness perhaps and that is quite common for both SP's and Pooners. We are basically islands to each other and the rest of the general public wouldn't approve nor understand what we are all about IMHO.
Maybe you should replace your "you"s with "I"s
I totally agree with your last 2 sentences though.
