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Communication Conduct - Sending Mixed Messages

Man Mountain

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There's a certain SP in whom I've been interested for some time. In her ads, she explicitly states that contact is to be made only by calling -- "No blocked calls or texts!" I've only actually gotten through to her once or twice and in those cases, schedules simply didn't align. But all communications have been positive and amicable, so when a window of opportunity presents itself, she's still one of the ladies I attempt to contact. Yesterday, while I was thinking of seeing someone, I decided to give her a call. As has been the case on a number of occasions now, there was no answer and the voice mail was full, so it wasn't even possible to leave a message. Actually, in the past, on her previous phone number, she didn't even have a voice mail. In any case, I was just about to give up on my search for the afternoon when I saw Cecily Blitz's ad freshly bumped. As she was also someone in whom I've been interested since having a couple of very pleasant chats with her on the previous incarnation of erslist (back when they still had ersbook), I contacted her and was lucky enough to be able to schedule a time with her.

So, it's almost an hour later and I'm in my car about 5 minutes away from Ms. Blitz' place when I get a text. I stop at a red light and thinking it could be Cecily, I check the text. However, it's from the other SP. It reads something like: "Just noticed that I missed your call. I'll be home in 30 minutes." Under normal circumstances, to be polite, I would probably have replied by text that I had made other plans. But again, part of her explicit contact instructions is the "no texting" rule. So, I err on the side of caution and do not reply to the text.

This is actually not the first time something like this has happened. About a year and a half ago, I had a session with a woman who similarly had a no texting rule. I was just returning home after the session when I received a text from her that was akin to a thank you for seeing her. Again, I have no issue with that but it leaves me being uncertain as to whether I should respond or not since she has a strict "no texting" policy. My personal sense of etiquette is to want to reply but I also want to be respectful of their terms. Therein lies my dilemma.

So... Opinions...? Thoughts...?
 
If she initiated the texting I would have continued to text her.

Some ladies use landline for taking calls, that is why some have a no texting policy.

Also, some people do not like text message for initial contact. They want to hear your voice or get to know you through email/IM exchanges.
 

Toon

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Don't initiate contact via text, but if she texts you, it's clearly ok to respond in kind.

(head slap)
 

Man Mountain

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Don't initiate contact via text, but if she texts you, it's clearly ok to respond in kind.

(head slap)
I know that seems like the obvious answer but if she hasn't explicitly noted that a return text is okay and the message that she sends is basically this:

"Just noticed that I missed your call. I'll be home in 30 minutes."

Wouldn't that suggest to you that the implication is that she will be free to take your call in 30 minutes and that she still expects that you phone her instead of texting? Not sure if you see what I'm getting at...

If she initiated the texting I would have continued to text her.
Yeah... The thing is... I was a little busy at that point :D
 
I know that seems like the obvious answer but if she hasn't explicitly noted that a return text is okay and the message that she sends is basically this:

"Just noticed that I missed your call. I'll be home in 30 minutes."

Wouldn't that suggest to you that the implication is that she will be free to take your call in 30 minutes and that she still expects that you phone her instead of texting? Not sure if you see what I'm getting at...



Yeah... The thing is... I was a little busy at that point :D
I just hope she did not "rush" home only to never hear bac from you, is all.
 

kauffman

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There's a certain SP in whom I've been interested for some time. In her ads, she explicitly states that contact is to be made only by calling -- "No blocked calls or texts!" I've only actually gotten through to her once or twice and in those cases, schedules simply didn't align. But all communications have been positive and amicable, so when a window of opportunity presents itself, she's still one of the ladies I attempt to contact. Yesterday, while I was thinking of seeing someone, I decided to give her a call. As has been the case on a number of occasions now, there was no answer and the voice mail was full, so it wasn't even possible to leave a message. Actually, in the past, on her previous phone number, she didn't even have a voice mail. In any case, I was just about to give up on my search for the afternoon when I saw Cecily Blitz's ad freshly bumped. As she was also someone in whom I've been interested since having a couple of very pleasant chats with her on the previous incarnation of erslist (back when they still had ersbook), I contacted her and was lucky enough to be able to schedule a time with her.

So, it's almost an hour later and I'm in my car about 5 minutes away from Ms. Blitz' place when I get a text. I stop at a red light and thinking it could be Cecily, I check the text. However, it's from the other SP. It reads something like: "Just noticed that I missed your call. I'll be home in 30 minutes." Under normal circumstances, to be polite, I would probably have replied by text that I had made other plans. But again, part of her explicit contact instructions is the "no texting" rule. So, I err on the side of caution and do not reply to the text.

This is actually not the first time something like this has happened. About a year and a half ago, I had a session with a woman who similarly had a no texting rule. I was just returning home after the session when I received a text from her that was akin to a thank you for seeing her. Again, I have no issue with that but it leaves me being uncertain as to whether I should respond or not since she has a strict "no texting" policy. My personal sense of etiquette is to want to reply but I also want to be respectful of their terms. Therein lies my dilemma.

So... Opinions...? Thoughts...?
Wouldnt it make the most sense to ask her these questions? POlicies and Rules are not always applied the same for everyone. INitially for me my rules are unbendable. However my rules change depending on the type of relationship I form with each client over time. Some are very respectful and comfortable to be around and do not push or have situations that are different or requests that over time I may consider accomodating . THose decisions I make based on how the choices each client makes affect me or make me feel. I do not extend these decisions to all clients. If there is confusion about what is okay with an sp ask her. Maybe she will text you because she knows you better now... or maybe there was someone around so that she was unable to speak out loud to you.
 

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Wouldnt it make the most sense to ask her these questions? POlicies and Rules are not always applied the same for everyone. INitially for me my rules are unbendable. However my rules change depending on the type of relationship I form with each client over time. Some are very respectful and comfortable to be around and do not push or have situations that are different or requests that over time I may consider accomodating . THose decisions I make based on how the choices each client makes affect me or make me feel. I do not extend these decisions to all clients. If there is confusion about what is okay with an sp ask her. Maybe she will text you because she knows you better now... or maybe there was someone around so that she was unable to speak out loud to you.
this all sounds very good in theory, but if even her voicemail is full most of the time, she is NOT making it easy to communicate with her to even find out what the customer's protocol should be in every case that might arise
 

Man Mountain

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Wouldnt it make the most sense to ask her these questions?
That would make the most sense. But if I was unable to get through on the phone and unable to leave a message as there was no room on the voice mail and I was respecting her very explicit instruction not to text, how exactly am I supposed to ask her the question?

Also, I have no reason to believe that she could feel like "she knows me better now". We have not yet met in person and the one or two times we did chat on the phone were on her previous number (she very recently started advertising a new one) and even then, while amicable, they were relatively brief conversations.

this all sounds very good in theory, but if even her voicemail is full most of the time, she is NOT making it easy to communicate with her to even find out what the customer's protocol should be in every case that might arise
You type faster than me, cowboy! :D
 

kauffman

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this all sounds very good in theory, but if even her voicemail is full most of the time, she is NOT making it easy to communicate with her to even find out what the customer's protocol should be in every case that might arise
Well then perhaps the message is that you should find someone else until she gets back to you and not worry about it. Send email
 

kauffman

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this all sounds very good in theory, but if even her voicemail is full most of the time, she is NOT making it easy to communicate with her to even find out what the customer's protocol should be in every case that might arise
I say show up where she lives with a huge wad of cash and let her know how much she means to you and then ask her if you can purchase some walkie talkies so that you can always have a direct line to her.
 

sevenofnine

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I have noticed women have rules for you, you better dam well follow.

But when it comes to them, they do what they want no rules apply.
 

CSG

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I just hope she did not "rush" home only to never hear bac from you, is all.
I don't think he's on the hook for any commitment to her at all. She noticed he called. That is all. He never agreed to set something up.
 

uncleg

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I'm busy...the money is good = my rules apply. It's slow, I need extra cash = what rules ?
 

kauffman

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I have noticed women have rules for you, you better dam well follow.

But when it comes to them, they do what they want no rules apply.

You better believe it. In this profession thats the way it is!
 

kauffman

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I have noticed women have rules for you, you better dam well follow.

But when it comes to them, they do what they want no rules apply.

You better believe it. In this profession thats the way it is! Women have had rules dictated to them by men for ages. When it comes to women's bodies and their homes, I dont think it's unreasonable for men to realize thatr on her turf and with her body, her rules are pretty important.
 
You better believe it. In this profession thats the way it is! Women have had rules dictated to them by men for ages. When it comes to women's bodies and their homes, I dont think it's unreasonable for men to realize thatr on her turf and with her body, her rules are pretty important.

+1



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sevenofnine

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My sp wondered along time ago, who holds the power in this the men or the women.

Women have the pussy, and if you want it you had better tow the line.

But there is always another pussy somewhere.

I guess it depends on how bad you need hers.

I guess for the women the same applies there is always another dick with a wad of cash.
 
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