Bullying

[amigo67]

I am gonna try that one day, thanks!

I learned that from a shrink. It's the truth. Anyone who feels good about themselves want others to feel the same about themselves.
People with high self-esteem are happy people and want to share it with others.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

I learned that from a shrink. It's the truth. Anyone who feels good about themselves want others to feel the same about themselves.
People with high self-esteem are happy people and want to share it with others.

Thus the reason I enjoy saying hello and having conversations with 'strangers', because every single friend I have, be it online or in real life, was once a stranger!

 

[rickoshadows]

Excellent point. People these days seem to have lost their resilience. They are far too likely roll over to these cowards.
I am a small guy. I was bullied mercilessly when I was in school. I know how it feels. I had one kid who used to wait for me when I walked home from school everyday. He would push me down and hit me ect. One day I just said "enough" ... and I beat the living shit out of him. I never had a problem with him or anyone else at school after that... he was the "tough kid" at school.

Most victims are unable to fight back, or beat up the larger stronger person who is bullying them. All this type of anecdote does is blame the victims becasue they don't beat up the person who is bullying them.

Even today, I still get people who try to bully me and talk shit sometimes at clubs/bars. I never let them. I will go as far to say why don't you step outside and say that.... then they show their cowardly true selves.

Now, who is the bully?

Hear this and believe it: Anyone who treats another person badly has low self-esteem.

Sometimes just pointing it out will pop their bullying balloon.
" Wow... I'm sorry that you have such low self-esteem that you feel the need to treat me badly"

Try that and watch the reaction.

If stopping a bully when you are physically weaker was that easy, bullying wouldn't be a problem. Can I come and live in your world?

There are many types of bullying, malicious rumors and social isolation, to name a couple. Abuse via authority, as in calling in an anonymous complaint to child protective services is another form of harassment/bullying.

People who say the victims should just stand up for themselves are not part of the solution, which makes them part of the problem.


Yes I was a victim of bullying all through school. I spent 12 years of my life in survival mode. I joined the military right our of school in the seventies and the old school basic training was the happiest time of my life because it was the first time I really was part of a group. I have since acquired the tools to no longer be vulnerable to bullies. but it took a long time and I still have difficulty meeting people or maintaining social relationships. The statement about bullies needing a victim, so don't be one is not very helpful to a person that doesn't have the skills to not be a victim.

 

[agentwhite]

I learned that from a shrink. It's the truth. Anyone who feels good about themselves want others to feel the same about themselves.
People with high self-esteem are happy people and want to share it with others.

I totally agree. If you are happy with your life you're not going to go out of your way to put others down in order to make them feel bad. If you are happy and are confident in yourself and what you're doing then definitely you want to spread the positivity around with as many people as possible.

It really makes me feel sorry for other people who bully others or only want to point out negative things about anything.