*~* would you date an sp? *~*

[Cami Parker]

I am currently working & in a LTR. Next month it will be 8 years since I first got into the business. Over the course of time I've been in several relationships. For me they've always started out with the guy saying he's ok with it but the relationships deteriorated because of jealousy. Everyone I've been with has always been aware of my job from the start. I've always been up front and honest about it. I hate lying! I can't do it! & I hate being lied to!! I've been with my current partner for 4 years now. In the past my job became too much for him to handle so I quit. I returned a few months ago by my own choice. Life is expensive my partner has a decent job but Its hard living off one income with a family & I like having a house with a yard & I'm a total health food junkie so our grocery bills are a small fortune lol. I have college education but in our situation I only have time to work a few hours a week so It just made sense for me to return to this industry. I'm lucky my partner is for the most part supportive. It does bother him sometimes & I understand. I try not to discuss my work or answer calls in front of him. It is difficult I'm not going to lie but life isn't perfect & no relationship is perfect so we manage.

Good for you. Sounds like you guys have found a way to work it out. You seem to handle it in a way where he doesn't gave to have it thrown in his face all the time, which I think is nice.

I only date SPs now. I gave up on regular ladies it gets to complicated other wise. When find a good SP and I like long dates and travel dates so it can roll into a so called relationship. Problem is they never last but at leastit is not as messy as so called real relationships. I am done with the games. Dating a SP is as real as it xan get.

I know a few people who think the exact same way as you

To Ms Lolita: After reading several posts on this topic this one is the most revealing and the one that, I believe, speaks most honestly about the concerns that would affect a relationship between an SP and a "civilian". This is an industry with complicating and often limiting factors in allowng for a mutual relationship. Foremost, in my mind, would be the male libido. My guess is that on average, despite initial vows of open mindedness, despite claims that he (especially a younger he) will be able to earnestly cope and even forget about what his girlfriend is doing "on hours", jabs of insecurity and vanity will eventually prevail. Sorry for sounding so negative but, in my mind, it takes an extremely confident and uninhibited male (or female) to navigate such a unique relationship.

I guess it really depends on the individuals involved

I'm late to the party, but nonetheless arrived.

Getting back to Cami's original's question....yes, I would. Why? Because I have never done that before

I would have no trouble dating a FORMER SP.

I am one of the most open minded, fair handed and laid back individuals you will ever come across, but when I dated my last GF who was also an SP, I just couldn't let it go. I really tried to not let it get to me, but could not get past it.

Plus the fact that when we fought, (which was often) she would bring up her line of work and throw it in my face.

Also, when your GF has serviced a bunch of fellas all day, and then you want to have a go, don't be surprised if she tells you she has a headache.

Mind you, the sex, when it was on, was awesome.

So I would rather just have a "friends with benefits" arrangement with a current SP. It would save me alot of heart ache in the long run.

But that's just me.

 

[Cami Parker]

I would date an sp. Using the same attitude as with any other woman. She must have a very big brain to keep me interested in her. Intellectual compatibility is extremely important to me. Dumbasses frustrate me sooooo much.

AGREED!!! :nod:

 

[CJ Tylers]

momentary pleasure is not worth a life time of pain or regret

 

[Moonwalker]

I became friends with an SP a number of months ago. I stopped seeing her as a client and we just hung out as friends.

She then started dating someone and told him about her job. He said he was cool with it and that he had seen SPs in the past. However, within a couple of months he had become very insecure about her line of work and, particularly, her being friends with former clients. So our friendship is off (for now) but I wish her all the best. It's not easy. I hope she finds another line of work soon.

 

[Cami Parker]

That's all too common... Guys often don't realize it's much easier to "be ok with it" in theory than in practice until it's too late.

I became friends with an SP a number of months ago. I stopped seeing her as a client and we just hung out as friends.

She then started dating someone and told him about her job. He said he was cool with it and that he had seen SPs in the past. However, within a couple of months he had become very insecure about her line of work and, particularly, her being friends with former clients. So our friendship is off (for now) but I wish her all the best. It's not easy. I hope she finds another line of work soon.

 

[HunkyBill]

As for the porn actors, I have heard and understand many of them work with the same people because it is more comfortable and they tend to like to use the same partners ...for a lot of reasons I imagine

One of the actors, Mika Tan stresses this over and over again to the point of being annoying. She says she will not have sex with anyone outside the industry because of the STD risk.

That's all too common... Guys often don't realize it's much easier to "be ok with it" in theory than in practice until it's too late.

Sure, especially if he begins to notice that his gf is not as interested in him as before. That's usually the trigger.

 

[badbadboy]

I work in sales and a huge part of my job is forecasting with excel spreadsheets. Some days I go cross eyed trying to make the numbers make sense. When I shut down I don't want to have anything to do with excel or computers for that matter. If I had to do it to help a GF I would but honestly I wouldn't enjoy it.

Shoe on the other foot - GF has five dates the same day.

Do you think this is a good scenario for a successful relationship? I don't.

Do you think she would be responsive to being sexual with her BF after having sex already with five guys?

I think I answered my own question :nod:

 

[HunkyBill]

I work in sales and a huge part of my job is forecasting with excel spreadsheets. Some days I go cross eyed trying to make the numbers make sense. When I shut down I don't want to have anything to do with excel or computers for that matter. If I had to do it to help a GF I would but honestly I wouldn't enjoy it.

Shoe on the other foot - GF has five dates the same day.

Do you think this is a good scenario for a successful relationship? I don't.

Do you think she would be responsive to being sexual with her BF after having sex already with five guys?

I think I answered my own question :nod:

And that is exactly why a sp likey cant have a "meaningful" relationship unless her SO is in the industry as well. Of course, the two will more or less be just roommates until they both no longer are in the industry.

 

[anybody]

i would love to date an sp, but i'm one of those guys that would be turned on by it and want the detailed accounts. i've only visited as sp once, and while the experience was fine (not great, but fine) i realized that i'd rather get to know and date an sp that to have a professional relationship. that said, i don't really know how i'd go about meeting one on a personal level, so i just read perb and dream instead lol.

 

[Cami Parker]

I know Mika. She's so fun and awesome and it's true, she doesn't sleep with civilians.

One of the actors, Mika Tan stresses this over and over again to the point of being annoying. She says she will not have sex with anyone outside the industry because of the STD risk.


Sure, especially if he begins to notice that his gf is not as interested in him as before. That's usually the trigger.

 

[Cami Parker]

I know Mika. She's so fun and awesome and it's true, she doesn't sleep with civilians.

One of the actors, Mika Tan stresses this over and over again to the point of being annoying. She says she will not have sex with anyone outside the industry because of the STD risk.


Sure, especially if he begins to notice that his gf is not as interested in him as before. That's usually the trigger.

 

[Cami Parker]

Sex with your SO is sooooopp not even close to the same thing, but you guys won't understand that...

And that is exactly why a sp likey cant have a "meaningful" relationship unless her SO is in the industry as well. Of course, the two will more or less be just roommates until they both no longer are in the industry.

 

[JaJaBinks]

Hi Cami,

I thought I would just add my 2 cents in seeing as how this thread is now a couple of months old. Believe it or not, there are guys out there who would have no problem with what you do for a living. You just have to find them. And they have to find you.

My wife and I are swingers and have been so for a few years now. It took me a while for the idea to set in, but now, I enjoy watching her with another man or 2. She gets great pleasure playing with other men. I love her and I that includes wanting her to be happy and pleased in ways that a single partner can't do. We have been together for a long time and I know she will not leave me and vice versa. We have great sex during her play time with other men, and also after that, reliving the experience. These other men she plays with could be one time events, or a regular. Just like the men in your business. I am excited and look forward to our sessions with other men.

Therefore, I am saying that out there, there is a man that if he loves you very much, would have no problems with you seeing other men for sex. He will know that you enjoy your work, and he might even want you to relate your experiences that day to him. He will get excited hearing them, like I am excited to hear what my wife did and had done to her. And don't forget too, that for many men, this is a power trip. They are happy to have a wife so beautiful and sexually talented that other men would pay money for her services, whereas, he gets a better experience with her for free. It makes them feel superior that they have a wife of GF that only other men can dream off.

I also know an SP many years ago in Richmond that had the same experience with her husband. She would tell her husband about all the guys that she had sex with during the day, and he got excited hearing about them. So, I am sure you will find someone like this. Hope this helps.

 

[JaJaBinks]

Sex with your SO is sooooopp not even close to the same thing, but you guys won't understand that...

Hi Cami,

I thought I would just add my 2 cents in seeing as how this thread is now a couple of months old. Believe it or not, there are guys out there who would have no problem with what you do for a living. You just have to find them. And they have to find you.

My wife and I are swingers and have been so for a few years now. It took me a while for the idea to set in, but now, I enjoy watching her with another man or 2. She gets great pleasure playing with other men. I love her and I that includes wanting her to be happy and pleased in ways that a single partner can't do. We have been together for a long time and I know she will not leave me and vice versa. We have great sex during her play time with other men, and also after that, reliving the experience. These other men she plays with could be one time events, or a regular. Just like the men in your business. I am excited and look forward to our sessions with other men.

Therefore, I am saying that out there, there is a man that if he loves you very much, would have no problems with you seeing other men for sex. He will know that you enjoy your work, and he might even want you to relate your experiences that day to him. He will get excited hearing them, like I am excited to hear what my wife did and had done to her. And don't forget too, that for many men, this is a power trip. They are happy to have a wife so beautiful and sexually talented that other men would pay money for her services, whereas, he gets a better experience with her for free. It makes them feel superior that they have a wife of GF that only other men can dream off.

I also know an SP many years ago in Richmond that had the same experience with her husband. She would tell her husband about all the guys that she had sex with during the day, and he got excited hearing about them. So, I am sure you will find someone like this. Hope this helps.

 

[JaJaBinks]

Hi Cami,

I thought I would just add my 2 cents in seeing as how this thread is now a couple of months old. Believe it or not, there are guys out there who would have no problem with what you do for a living. You just have to find them. And they have to find you.

My wife and I are swingers and have been so for a few years now. It took me a while for the idea to set in, but now, I enjoy watching her with another man or 2. She gets great pleasure playing with other men. I love her and I that includes wanting her to be happy and pleased in ways that a single partner can't do. We have been together for a long time and I know she will not leave me and vice versa. We have great sex during her play time with other men, and also after that, reliving the experience. These other men she plays with could be one time events, or a regular. Just like the men in your business. I am excited and look forward to our sessions with other men.

Therefore, I am saying that out there, there is a man that if he loves you very much, would have no problems with you seeing other men for sex. He will know that you enjoy your work, and he might even want you to relate your experiences that day to him. He will get excited hearing them, like I am excited to hear what my wife did and had done to her. And don't forget too, that for many men, this is a power trip. They are happy to have a wife so beautiful and sexually talented that other men would pay money for her services, whereas, he gets a better experience with her for free. It makes them feel superior that they have a wife of GF that only other men can dream off.

I also know an SP many years ago in Richmond that had the same experience with her husband. She would tell her husband about all the guys that she had sex with during the day, and he got excited hearing about them. So, I am sure you will find someone like this. Hope this helps.

 

[BORKO]

Hi Cami,

I thought I would just add my 2 cents in seeing as how this thread is now a couple of months old. Believe it or not, there are guys out there who would have no problem with what you do for a living. You just have to find them. And they have to find you.

My wife and I are swingers and have been so for a few years now. It took me a while for the idea to set in, but now, I enjoy watching her with another man or 2. She gets great pleasure playing with other men. I love her and I that includes wanting her to be happy and pleased in ways that a single partner can't do. We have been together for a long time and I know she will not leave me and vice versa. We have great sex during her play time with other men, and also after that, reliving the experience. These other men she plays with could be one time events, or a regular. Just like the men in your business. I am excited and look forward to our sessions with other men.

Therefore, I am saying that out there, there is a man that if he loves you very much, would have no problems with you seeing other men for sex. He will know that you enjoy your work, and he might even want you to relate your experiences that day to him. He will get excited hearing them, like I am excited to hear what my wife did and had done to her. And don't forget too, that for many men, this is a power trip. They are happy to have a wife so beautiful and sexually talented that other men would pay money for her services, whereas, he gets a better experience with her for free. It makes them feel superior that they have a wife of GF that only other men can dream off.

I also know an SP many years ago in Richmond that had the same experience with her husband. She would tell her husband about all the guys that she had sex with during the day, and he got excited hearing about them. So, I am sure you will find someone like this. Hope this helps.

That's about 6 cents.

 

[JaJaBinks]

sorry, trying to figure out the delete button, but no success so far. 2 posts too many.

 

[just the facts]

So many platitudes, so many hollow niceties, so many 'I don't want to hurt your feeling', too many 'lets work together on a solution'. All bullshit.
I am married and having an affair with a SP and let me tell you - it ain't working. Man by nature does not take kindly to another bull in his territory. So don't tell me that husbands, lovers, partners get off on listening to stories of their loved ones getting laid, getting penetrated for money. who are you fooling. Unless, of course the partners have an emotional deficiency they cannot deal with.

 

[VanessaofBC]

So many platitudes, so many hollow niceties, so many 'I don't want to hurt your feeling', too many 'lets work together on a solution'. All bullshit.
I am married and having an affair with a SP and let me tell you - it ain't working. Man by nature does not take kindly to another bull in his territory. So don't tell me that husbands, lovers, partners get off on listening to stories of their loved ones getting laid, getting penetrated for money. who are you fooling. Unless, of course the partners have an emotional deficiency they cannot deal with.

Now this post definitely deserves a thumbs down.

 

[UhOh]

Im not going to disagree with JTF. The guy thats okay with his girl banging other guys is probably a guy without a lot of other options and therefore not likely all that appealing to the SP either. My guess would be that most guys saying they're cool with it up front slowly find out they not so cool with it later. A guy will say anything to fuck a girl, absolutely ANYTHING.

Sure there will be exceptions and some will be totally cool with it but it will be like finding a needle in a haystack. Seriously what percentage of men would you expect to be into it?

That ain't the fairytale ending the girls want to hear but I'm a straight shooting dude.