*~* would you date an sp? *~*
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Hmmm... I suppose I'm wise beyond my years then. Maybe I've just seen so much and known so many people, that I've learned my lessons faster than others...
It would certainly make some activities and positions a lot more interesting.
Wow,...a brain that weighs 14.5 lbs........... How did they weigh it ??????......Did they remove it ????
Would you date an FP
Food for thought.
So, you meet someone and after a couple of dates they provide you with the finest meal you have ever had. Several months and many exquisite meals pass. One day they admit to you that they are a professional chef, and that people pay big bucks for the culinary creations you get for just being you.
Do they have to quit being a chef? Should you dump them?
Food for thought.
(Apologies if this has already been said. I'm not reading through all 22 pages )
Food for thought.
So, you meet someone and after a couple of dates they provide you with the finest meal you have ever had. Several months and many exquisite meals pass. One day they admit to you that they are a professional chef, and that people pay big bucks for the culinary creations you get for just being you.
Do they have to quit being a chef? Should you dump them?
Food for thought.
(Apologies if this has already been said. I'm not reading through all 22 pages
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It doesn't necessarily need to be YOUR SP or an SP that you ever saw as a paying client...
Right, if you can see it that way.... I'm not sure I agree with the "many months" bit, as usually when entering a relationship, there is some kind of talk of monogamy. If you agree to be monogamous but are still working as an SP, you are being dishonest. I would think that at that point the issue wouldn't be that you are an SP, but that you are a total liar...
Food for thought.
So, you meet someone and after a couple of dates they provide you with the finest meal you have ever had. Several months and many exquisite meals pass. One day they admit to you that they are a professional chef, and that people pay big bucks for the culinary creations you get for just being you.
Do they have to quit being a chef? Should you dump them?
Food for thought.
(Apologies if this has already been said. I'm not reading through all 22 pages
Loyal, reliable and bullshit free people generally are.
I'd say you should consider leaving them if they lied to your about their profession for weeks. I'd also say that sex is completely different thing than cooking, particularly if people believe in traditional, monogamous relationships.Food for thought.
So, you meet someone and after a couple of dates they provide you with the finest meal you have ever had. Several months and many exquisite meals pass. One day they admit to you that they are a professional chef, and that people pay big bucks for the culinary creations you get for just being you.
Do they have to quit being a chef? Should you dump them?
Food for thought.
(Apologies if this has already been said. I'm not reading through all 22 pages
That's what I've been saying the whole time, I don't think there is any going back to a normal relationship if you have paid someone for sex. Expectations are on a completely different scale.
Is this a standard service?
Loyal, honest and BS free people are actually quite plentiful, but they often don't come in the right "packaging" for most people out there, romantically speaking. We see them as great friends, but often the sexual spark isn't there, regardless of their intentions.
Society views sex and the sex industry in a very strange way. Privately, it thrives on it. Publicly, it denounces it. That public peer pressure is very strong... but even if society had no hang ups about it, I'm guessing most men would take issue with their S/O being engaged sexually by other people. It really comes down to basic instincts, something we really can't control very well.
Paying for sex can change your expectations, or it can loosen your inhibitions. It should give you a wider appreciation for certain things, sexually speaking... and also really drive home the disconnect between love and sex. It *can* make you appreciate the need for a real connection even more than you would've before getting involved in the industry/hobby.
Society views sex and the sex industry in a very strange way. Privately, it thrives on it. Publicly, it denounces it. That public peer pressure is very strong... but even if society had no hang ups about it, I'm guessing most men would take issue with their S/O being engaged sexually by other people. It really comes down to basic instincts, something we really can't control very well.
Paying for sex can change your expectations, or it can loosen your inhibitions. It should give you a wider appreciation for certain things, sexually speaking... and also really drive home the disconnect between love and sex. It *can* make you appreciate the need for a real connection even more than you would've before getting involved in the industry/hobby.
...dude! I think she likes you!
Very insightful, and quite in depth... I appreciate your input very much and I'm sure you've given us all a lot to think about...
An interesting comment.
And true to some extent.
Lots of girls think, when your young and want to have fun, you pick more of a bad boy to have some fun.
But when its time for marriage and grow old and chase your grandchildren around.
Bad boys are fun but can you live with them for the rest of your life.
Its like the same sentiment nice guys finish last. But do they.
A guy at work told me last week, I like you ______ but your a nice guy and nice guys finish last.
I kind of just inwardly laughed and walked away,
He brags about how much money he has, and all of his sexual conquests.
He actually knows nothing about me because I don't brag all day long.
And it works both ways girls might not like me, because Im boring and loyal and all of that a nice guy,
It doesn't mean I actually want them or could put up with them either they are making the assumption that I actually want to waste my time on them.
Will this thread ever end.
sure if some guys go around looking for a potential girlfriend by means of faceless ad pix on erslist. hey that chick has a really glorious buttocks i think shes the one! lol
Cami you always have really good threads. I find this one the most interesting one of them all.
I had a friend who use to be an SP and over time I "fell" for her and I got really jealous. I wanted to be understanding and she never lied to me at once but she drove me crazy. I thought I was capable of handling it but on the other hand in the back of my head I was thinking why does she want sleep with random strangers and not spend an evening out with me. Maybe I didnt know her full story of why she did what she did. In the end I lost a friend.
I had a friend who use to be an SP and over time I "fell" for her and I got really jealous. I wanted to be understanding and she never lied to me at once but she drove me crazy. I thought I was capable of handling it but on the other hand in the back of my head I was thinking why does she want sleep with random strangers and not spend an evening out with me. Maybe I didnt know her full story of why she did what she did. In the end I lost a friend.
Work always comes first. That's why. It's kinda like dating a cop or firefighter or anyone w/ an on-call job (code blue!!! someone needs his dick sucked! Stat!!! LOL). Work happens and leisure time gets pushed. Granted, not every SP schedules this way. Some ladies are so financially unstable/inconsistent that any opportunity to make cash trumps everything else. Just gotta deal with it.Cami you always have really good threads. I find this one the most interesting one of them all.
I had a friend who use to be an SP and over time I "fell" for her and I got really jealous. I wanted to be understanding and she never lied to me at once but she drove me crazy. I thought I was capable of handling it but on the other hand in the back of my head I was thinking why does she want sleep with random strangers and not spend an evening out with me. Maybe I didnt know her full story of why she did what she did. In the end I lost a friend.
Loyal, reliable and bullshit free people are easy to find when things are easy and fun, when things get hard, people will rationalize and explain away poor behaviour by either blaming others or ignoring the problem or lying to themselves that are not being disloyal, unreliable and full of bullshit.
sure if some guys go around looking for a potential girlfriend by means of faceless ad pix on erslist. hey that chick has a really glorious buttocks i think shes the one! lol[/QUOTE]
Happens to me all the time!
I think that truthfully, "bad boys" are really lonely and hollow inside... They wish they possessed the great qualities nice guys have.
Why do you want this thread to end? I think it's a very interesting discussion topic, I'm enjoying everyone's input very much and I'm finding it to be incredibly insightful...
Why do you want this thread to end? I think it's a very interesting discussion topic, I'm enjoying everyone's input very much and I'm finding it to be incredibly insightful...
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