*~* would you date an sp? *~*

[Feenix]

Are you referring to me, Honda?

 

[VanessaofBC]

Women have historically been drawn/steered into nurturing professions - teacher, nurse, cook/maid or secretary. In each case there is an intimacy involved with that work that parallels the traditional gender roles of a woman in a relationship (raising children, healing and comforting, preparing meals/keeping house and supporting the head of household/boss.) And yet you rarely hear of jealous men upset that their significant other is "spreading it out around town."

Sad that we have been conditioned to such a quixotic standard when it comes to sex.

Reminds me of these lyrics from Lana Del Ray - Off to the Races

He doesn't mind I have a Las Vegas past
He doesn't mind I have an LA crass way about me
He loves me with every beat of his heart

 

[CJ Tylers]

For the right person, of course, especially if it was an "in the past, but not now" kind of thing...that would be easily put aside.

For a currently working girl, it would really have to be the right person (or even "the one'), and my head was in the right space (not in a OMG she's hot and I'm horny! place). She'd have to be amazing and trusting, as I'd be trusting her. What else can be said?

 

[mercyshooter]

Let's try on a short term first.

 

[BORKO]

I sure would. I think it would have to be someone that I did not meet as a client though.

 

[badbadboy]

We have had this this thread a few times and I said "ya no prob"; then a few more senior posters said what if " such and such wanted an appointment or if some guy who really pushed the BBFS thing? I know some who posted here were into the BBFS and if they didn't get it, they would go the extra mile to out the SP whether it be on The Dirty or slander them here.

So my answer would be yes, if we both consentually agreed to quit pooning and being an SP.

Nothing against the SP's but some pooners are real D Bags.

Rant over, my $0.02 worth.

 

[google_123]

We have had this this thread a few times and I said "ya no prob"; then a few more senior posters said what if " such and such wanted an appointment or if some guy who really pushed the BBFS thing? I know some who posted here were into the BBFS and if they didn't get it, they would go the extra mile to out the SP whether it be on The Dirty or slander them here.

So my answer would be yes, if we both consentually agreed to quit pooning and being an SP.

At first I went, this doesn't makes sense.
Then re-read and went oh, so as a possible S.O to the SP, the S.O will always be fearful that she might accept the incredibly handsome or $$$$ offer for bbfs? Then her profile/name will be slandered on thedirty, thereby embarrassing the SP and the S.O?

So the only way the relationship can work is if the pooner quits pooning and the SP quits escorting.

I don't think the SP can quit in a dime, it's her job/career. Whereas the pooning is a hobby.

Here's my take,
Either tell him that you're an SP on the first/second date, before things become more. After that, your chance is gone. It'd be too far to go back and say you're an SP, when you realize you're in love. etc etc.

 

[BORKO]

I've heard many guys say that once money is exchanged, it can never be the same as if it didn't. I've tried to understand that and figure out why it matters so much. What do you think?

Because she's the big fake SP version of her when you meet her and she will never be that version again when you start dating the real her with all the normal girlfriend problems. What attracted you to her the first time, other than the looks, will never be there again when you date her.

 

[google_123]

Because she's the big fake SP version of her when you meet her and she will never be that version again when you start dating the real her with all the normal girlfriend problems. What attracted you to her the first time, other than the looks, will never be there again when you date her.

Not unless she was a crappy escort to begin with :fear:

 

[superhappyfun]

I've heard many guys say that once money is exchanged, it can never be the same as if it didn't. I've tried to understand that and figure out why it matters so much. What do you think?

I think it may have to do with the artificial separation between the SP's personal life and her professional life. If she has a track record of dating clients, then it becomes more difficult to buy the story that her work is purely business, which is an important distinction in avoiding jealousy. That said, it seems most of us on this board are far more likely to meet an SP through her work than otherwise. For myself, I think it would be very difficult to have a serious relationship with an active SP.

 

[BORKO]

Not unless she was a crappy escort to begin with :fear:

Yeah, but I would never have seen her or dated her in the first place then...

 

[westcoast555]

SoOo.... I'm currently single and loving it. It uncomplicates my life. However, I have had relationships in the 6 years I've been in this business. Of course, in the interest of full disclosure, I strongly believe you must always always be 100% honest about what it is you do when perusing a relationship of the dating/"monogamous" nature. I have had some boyfriends who couldn't care less.... I tell them once they say ok, and never think about it again as they believe (correctly) that it doesn't effect our relationship. I have had boyfriends that absolutely love it. They think it's so hot and want to use detailed accounts of my exploits as fodder for our own personal sex life. I've had guys that thought they were ok with it initially, but found themselves unexpectedly driven insane with jealousy (needless to say, that didn't work out! Lol) And I've had guys that have said "No Way! Thanks, but No Thanks! No Judgement!" (Understandably so, I'd say.... I don't necessarily blame them for their stance on the issue... I don't like to share either lol)

So the question is this:

GUYS: Have you/Would you date an SP? Why or why not?

LADIES: Would you care to share some of your "real world relationship" experiences while working? I prefer running my business while blissfully unattached... Makes my life easier... How about you?

I CAN't wait to hear everyone's insight. I'm sure it will be fascinating.....

I would date an SP, it would not be a problem for me all personally... but having family and friends know would be problematic. But casual dating would be fine.

 

[UhOh]

The chance of a fairy tale ending is reduced once you become an sp.
Or at least the size of the pool to find your prince is reduced.

But if you're not looking for a prince then I'm your guy.

Disclaimer: The answers found on an sp review board may not reflect the views of the general public.

 

[shyboy123]

I have hung out and travelled with a few but always kept it pretty light. A few I would have considered getting serious with but usually we are pretty far apart age-wise, or lifestyle so regardless of how well we gel together I usually just adopt an informal sugar daddy or book sessions like anyone else and hang out here and there.

 

[AA_Train]

SoOo.... I'm currently single and loving it. It uncomplicates my life. However, I have had relationships in the 6 years I've been in this business. Of course, in the interest of full disclosure, I strongly believe you must always always be 100% honest about what it is you do when perusing a relationship of the dating/"monogamous" nature. I have had some boyfriends who couldn't care less.... I tell them once they say ok, and never think about it again as they believe (correctly) that it doesn't effect our relationship. I have had boyfriends that absolutely love it. They think it's so hot and want to use detailed accounts of my exploits as fodder for our own personal sex life. I've had guys that thought they were ok with it initially, but found themselves unexpectedly driven insane with jealousy (needless to say, that didn't work out! Lol) And I've had guys that have said "No Way! Thanks, but No Thanks! No Judgement!" (Understandably so, I'd say.... I don't necessarily blame them for their stance on the issue... I don't like to share either lol)

So the question is this:

GUYS: Have you/Would you date an SP? Why or why not?

LADIES: Would you care to share some of your "real world relationship" experiences while working? I prefer running my business while blissfully unattached... Makes my life easier... How about you?

I CAN't wait to hear everyone's insight. I'm sure it will be fascinating.....

Short answer no but if it was someone I truly loved, I could accept most anything about them, although this would be trying for two reasons. One, for her personal health and safety. I'm a pretty protective guy so I would always fret every time I knew she was working because it just takes one psycho to injure or even kill a women in this job. It's a risky business and even the most diligent of ladies can get caught in a bad situation.

While that would be tough to deal with, I think I could get over that. But my second reason would take its toll over time. As a guy, it gives me great pride being in a relationship with a beautiful, sweet, smart, great all round woman. It makes you feel special because she could have any guy in the world but she picked you. But if she shares a bed with someone else, even just for work, over time, it would make me feel a little less special every day. To me, a monogamous relationship encompasses all aspects of your life, job included and part of that special feeling is that she chooses you as her only sexual partner. Maybe that's just ego, but that's how I feel about the whole situation. It's not that I wouldn't trust her or anything, it's just that I think we should be each others only ones. At least that's how I see it.

 

[Pacific Coast]

I don't make dating decisions based on profession. I make them based on connections. How about you Cami? Would you date a lawyer?

 

[blackcad]

I've heard many guys say that once money is exchanged, it can never be the same as if it didn't. I've tried to understand that and figure out why it matters so much. What do you think?

I wonder who these guys are that made this black and white rule. There is no black and white here...all the colours are present..each relationship different.

In general, a client is far more likely to fall for an escort than vice versa....but probably because he hasn't really fallen for her....he's just fallen prey to the rush of hormones with the convincing "girlfriend act".

True love is having feelings that take into consideration the "real" person...the woman with baggage, temper, irritability and problems.....yet still...having those feelings. This can only happen once the "girlfriend experience act" is put away.....and you see the real "her"....not very likely to happen in a session where she is on the clock.

Women are much better at compartmentalizing.....and separating these two lives than us guys are.

I'm pretty sure that some sp's really do consider this "just a job", like any other, with zero romantic interests in any guy that they see as a client. Romance is much more likely with a client.....over time...if he's no longer a client.

I know first hand that an escort or ex-escort is a completely different person when off the clock......and so is the client. He no longer expects xyz for $$$.....because real romance is as unpredictable as the weather....that's the beauty and magic of real love.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Short answer no but if it was someone I truly loved, I could accept most anything about them, although this would be trying for two reasons. One, for her personal health and safety. I'm a pretty protective guy so I would always fret every time I knew she was working because it just takes one psycho to injure or even kill a women in this job. It's a risky business and even the most diligent of ladies can get caught in a bad situation.

While that would be tough to deal with, I think I could get over that. But my second reason would take its toll over time. As a guy, it gives me great pride being in a relationship with a beautiful, sweet, smart, great all round woman. It makes you feel special because she could have any guy in the world but she picked you. But if she shares a bed with someone else, even just for work, over time, it would make me feel a little less special every day. To me, a monogamous relationship encompasses all aspects of your life, job included and part of that special feeling is that she chooses you as her only sexual partner. Maybe that's just ego, but that's how I feel about the whole situation. It's not that I wouldn't trust her or anything, it's just that I think we should be each others only ones. At least that's how I see it.

My question is this:

Is monogamy really possible in this highly-sexed society? Very few men seem to think so (based on responses in other threads), even though many women claim that's what they want in their SO relationship.

 

[Pacific Coast]

My question is this:

Is monogamy really possible in this highly-sexed society? Very few men seem to think so (based on responses in other threads), even though many women claim that's what they want in their SO relationship.

If your impression of men is even remotely based on what you have read on PERB threads may I suggest you look elsewhere for opinions on human interaction?

 

[BORKO]

My question is this:

Is monogamy really possible in this highly-sexed society? Very few men seem to think so (based on responses in other threads), even though many women claim that's what they want in their SO relationship.

Yes. Why wouldn't it be? If men are struggling to remain monogamous or faithful then one of the people or both of them in the relationship are doing something wrong.