Shower Upon Arrival To Incall Mandatory?

[twelvetwentytwoam]

This happened to me a while back and I've seen some ladies post on here that are pretty adamant on clients taking a shower upon arrival before anything happens. Anyways I just wanna tell my story and see what you guys and ladies think.

I'm a respectful guy. I understand how disgusting it is to be forced in the same room with somebody who smell like shit not to mention get intimate with. I literally have a ritual that I follow before seeing a lady. Part of it includes scrubbing down head to toe meticulously before I leave for a ladies' place. When I say meticulous I mean I leave no spot on my body unscrubbed. I put on light cologne (usually Lacoste Essential. least offensive scent out there) and leave the house half an hour before my date. I do this ritual religiously before every appointment and I actually get compliments from ladies about how good I smell.

Anyways, so this one time I do my thang and I head to the incall. She opens the door, we take care of the business end of things and everything is going well so far. Then she asks me to take a shower. I tell her I actually just took one before I came. She says okay but take another anyways. Then I said I'll wash my hands and use mouthwash is that cool? Note that I already listerined the hell out of my mouth as part of my ritual and put product in my long hair which the second shower is totally going to ruin (yes my hairstyle is very important to me). She was like we're not doing anything else until you shower. I was like screw it I don't wanna argue with her fine I'll go rinse up.

So now I'm pretty annoyed and slightly offended. Not only has this never happened to me, most SPs I see don't even bother offering me a shower because I show up with a fresh scent and breath (not trying to brag or anything). I mean I take pride in taking my time to get ready for the ladies I see. And she pretty much just completely ignored the fact and acted stubbornly for whatever reason. The worse thing was that her incall was an absolute mess. Garbage and clothes everywhere. Used condoms and baby wipes clearly visible in trash can (at least try to hide it with other garbage like fuck....) And she had the audacity to refuse service before I take an unnecessarily excessive shower.

Anyways, there's my rant guys and gals. What do you think? Should a shower be necessary upon arrival regardless of anything else? Was she in the wrong or was I? Feel free to rip me apart if you feel I was acting like a shithead

P.S. And she was definitely not allergic to my cologne because she drowned herself in a ridiculous amount of Chanel No. 5. Yes I know my fragrances.

 

[badbadboy]

Yes, discussed many times. Take the towel and go wash the boys if you want a nice time.

 

[BORKO]

This happened to me a while back and I've seen some ladies post on here that are pretty adamant on clients taking a shower upon arrival before anything happens. Anyways I just wanna tell my story and see what you guys and ladies think.

I'm a respectful guy. I understand how disgusting it is to be forced in the same room with somebody who smell like shit not to mention get intimate with. I literally have a ritual that I follow before seeing a lady. Part of it includes scrubbing down head to toe meticulously before I leave for a ladies' place. When I say meticulous I mean I leave no spot on my body unscrubbed. I put on light cologne (usually Lacoste Essential. least offensive scent out there) and leave the house half an hour before my date. I do this ritual religiously before every appointment and I actually get compliments from ladies about how good I smell.

Anyways, so this one time I do my thang and I head to the incall. She opens the door, we take care of the business end of things and everything is going well so far. Then she asks me to take a shower. I tell her I actually just took one before I came. She says okay but take another anyways. Then I said I'll wash my hands and use mouthwash is that cool? Note that I already listerined the hell out of my mouth as part of my ritual and put product in my long hair which the second shower is totally going to ruin (yes my hairstyle is very important to me). She was like we're not doing anything else until you shower. I was like screw it I don't wanna argue with her fine I'll go rinse up.

So now I'm pretty annoyed and slightly offended. Not only has this never happened to me, most SPs I see don't even bother offering me a shower because I show up with a fresh scent and breath (not trying to brag or anything). I mean I take pride in taking my time to get ready for the ladies I see. And she pretty much just completely ignored the fact and acted stubbornly for whatever reason. The worse thing was that her incall was an absolute mess. Garbage and clothes everywhere. Used condoms and baby wipes clearly visible in trash can (at least try to hide it with other garbage like fuck....) And she had the audacity to refuse service before I take an unnecessarily excessive shower.

Anyways, there's my rant guys and gals. What do you think? Should a shower be necessary upon arrival regardless of anything else? Was she in the wrong or was I? Feel free to rip me apart if you feel I was acting like a shithead

P.S. And she was definitely not allergic to my cologne because she drowned herself in a ridiculous amount of Chanel No. 5. Yes I know my fragrances.

There's not much point arguing with a SP your about to fuck, it's not a relationship so you're not going to end up in extra hot argu-sex/hatefucking.

I'd shower every time, unless it's someone that you've seen before and that trusts you to be squeaky clean upon arrival.

Also, if her place is so gross and she is so stinky, then you could have either walked or put it in a review.

 

[kauffman]

This happened to me a while back and I've seen some ladies post on here that are pretty adamant on clients taking a shower upon arrival before anything happens. Anyways I just wanna tell my story and see what you guys and ladies think.

I'm a respectful guy. I understand how disgusting it is to be forced in the same room with somebody who smell like shit not to mention get intimate with. I literally have a ritual that I follow before seeing a lady. Part of it includes scrubbing down head to toe meticulously before I leave for a ladies' place. When I say meticulous I mean I leave no spot on my body unscrubbed. I put on light cologne (usually Lacoste Essential. least offensive scent out there) and leave the house half an hour before my date. I do this ritual religiously before every appointment and I actually get compliments from ladies about how good I smell.

Anyways, so this one time I do my thang and I head to the incall. She opens the door, we take care of the business end of things and everything is going well so far. Then she asks me to take a shower. I tell her I actually just took one before I came. She says okay but take another anyways. Then I said I'll wash my hands and use mouthwash is that cool? Note that I already listerined the hell out of my mouth as part of my ritual and put product in my long hair which the second shower is totally going to ruin (yes my hairstyle is very important to me). She was like we're not doing anything else until you shower. I was like screw it I don't wanna argue with her fine I'll go rinse up.

So now I'm pretty annoyed and slightly offended. Not only has this never happened to me, most SPs I see don't even bother offering me a shower because I show up with a fresh scent and breath (not trying to brag or anything). I mean I take pride in taking my time to get ready for the ladies I see. And she pretty much just completely ignored the fact and acted stubbornly for whatever reason. The worse thing was that her incall was an absolute mess. Garbage and clothes everywhere. Used condoms and baby wipes clearly visible in trash can (at least try to hide it with other garbage like fuck....) And she had the audacity to refuse service before I take an unnecessarily excessive shower.

Anyways, there's my rant guys and gals. What do you think? Should a shower be necessary upon arrival regardless of anything else? Was she in the wrong or was I? Feel free to rip me apart if you feel I was acting like a shithead

P.S. And she was definitely not allergic to my cologne because she drowned herself in a ridiculous amount of Chanel No. 5. Yes I know my fragrances.

im sure her insistence wasnt about you personally. its a good rule to have as many people are unaware of their own body odor and it doesnt hurt to be freshly showered. probably was for her own piece of mind. I dont understand why anyone would argue about this

 

[Tugela]

Did it occur to you that maybe she wants to take care of the envelope without prying eyes present? There are other reasons for sending you to the shower beyond your need for a shower (why should she go just on your say so anyway?).

And from her point of view, no matter how much cologne you have slathered all over yourself, the only way she knows that you are clean is if you take the shower.

Otherwise, if she just has to take your word for it, the fact that you are getting defensive probably tells her that she has good reason for insisting. The more you push back, the more determined she is going to become.

 

[normisanas]

You should shower before having sex. So should she!

People don't know how bad they smell because they're used to themselves. It's just common sense.

 

[VanessaofBC]

This happened to me a while back and I've seen some ladies post on here that are pretty adamant on clients taking a shower upon arrival before anything happens. Anyways I just wanna tell my story and see what you guys and ladies think.

I'm a respectful guy. I understand how disgusting it is to be forced in the same room with somebody who smell like shit not to mention get intimate with. I literally have a ritual that I follow before seeing a lady. Part of it includes scrubbing down head to toe meticulously before I leave for a ladies' place. When I say meticulous I mean I leave no spot on my body unscrubbed. I put on light cologne (usually Lacoste Essential. least offensive scent out there) and leave the house half an hour before my date. I do this ritual religiously before every appointment and I actually get compliments from ladies about how good I smell.

Anyways, so this one time I do my thang and I head to the incall. She opens the door, we take care of the business end of things and everything is going well so far. Then she asks me to take a shower. I tell her I actually just took one before I came. She says okay but take another anyways. Then I said I'll wash my hands and use mouthwash is that cool? Note that I already listerined the hell out of my mouth as part of my ritual and put product in my long hair which the second shower is totally going to ruin (yes my hairstyle is very important to me). She was like we're not doing anything else until you shower. I was like screw it I don't wanna argue with her fine I'll go rinse up.

So now I'm pretty annoyed and slightly offended. Not only has this never happened to me, most SPs I see don't even bother offering me a shower because I show up with a fresh scent and breath (not trying to brag or anything). I mean I take pride in taking my time to get ready for the ladies I see. And she pretty much just completely ignored the fact and acted stubbornly for whatever reason. The worse thing was that her incall was an absolute mess. Garbage and clothes everywhere. Used condoms and baby wipes clearly visible in trash can (at least try to hide it with other garbage like fuck....) And she had the audacity to refuse service before I take an unnecessarily excessive shower.

Anyways, there's my rant guys and gals. What do you think? Should a shower be necessary upon arrival regardless of anything else? Was she in the wrong or was I? Feel free to rip me apart if you feel I was acting like a shithead

P.S. And she was definitely not allergic to my cologne because she drowned herself in a ridiculous amount of Chanel No. 5. Yes I know my fragrances.

I ALWAYS ALWAYS offer my bathroom facilities. You would be surprised by how many people say no. This makes me think they have come straight from the shower and are clean. BUT in actuality. he has been sitting on the computer all day working, so in HIS eyes he is not "dirty".

Now I do not do BBBJs, BUT if did a shower upon arrival would be mandatory. Also keep in mind Chanel may also be less offensive to her than your Lacoste. I am never insistent a client use my bathroom (I imagine they think many girls do not have clean facilities or do not clean properly, but I always offer and quickly prepare it if the answer is yes). I always have clean towels and an assortment of fresh soaps!!

edit: I had someone book the other day and they specifically asked: "I am coming from my house, and I just took a shower. I will be there in about 10 minutes, do I have to take another?

Oh and another after thought. I would be more alarmed if she DID NOT offer her bathroom facilities to you

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I really appreciate the detail you go to, to get ready for your appointments, 20-20-2am...

However, you are taking a big risk on having an attitude about this when it's your first time with a lady.

You cannot imagine how many guys will say they just had a shower, yet the lady can tell very quickly that was a big fat lie!

You cannot imagine how many times a guy will get out of her shower with smelly armpits and a smelly ass crack.

She will likely be putting her nose in some pretty risky places.

Some girls will just hold their breath and bear it. But that guy's number will go on her DNA list, and he'll forever wonder why she's always busy when he calls.

Some girls will use a baby wipe on the guy...potentially embarrassing...

Some girls will refuse to go there at all, once she picks up a certain unpleasant scent.

Some girls will simply stop the session.

Some girls will write a bad review in a LOL somewhere.

So think a little deeper here, 20-20...this is what she has to deal with on a daily basis.

Who are you to her? You've just shown up for the first time. She sees a reasonably well-groomed guy in her doorway, with long hair. Do you think she's supposed to assume that you are the one guy that really did shower, and not 5 hours ago, but just 45 minutes ago?

The fact that the lady in your original post had a messy place is a topic for your review. It has nothing to do with where her nose is going to go.

If you prefer to be with a lady who has a clean home environment, there's nothing wrong with that. So you won't be repeating with this lady, fine.

But if you like her enough to repeat, and her home is suitable to your preferences, why wouldn't you say something at the end of the session, particularly if this is such an issue with you?

Something like: how much you enjoyed yourself, how much you'd like to come back, how this is your typical grooming repertoire, and how much you'd really appreciate if she made a note of this for next time, so that you wouldn't have to shower when you arrived in the future.

I really think this is one of those issues that should be handled on a case-by-case basis.

And if the lady in question doesn't acquiesce to your needs, then she goes on your not-repeat list, while you search for the right lady for you.

Issue resolved... :nod:

PS I'm sure you smell good...

 

[myselftheother]

Yes. Shower.

Why argue and piss off the lady you're seeing? What the hell is wrong with washing yourself even if you just showered before leaving your home? Have a quick one, no need to wash your hair and if you can't seem to manage to wash your body without getting your long hair wet...jeez, man.

Take the shower, scrub up and use soap, then everyone's happy. I find taking a shower once I arrive gets me in the groove for what's about to happen...and I can double check that everything on my body is clean and ready for her to explore. Maybe that toilet water you put on is not as nice a smell as you think...

BTW...ladies...please have a soap that's not a bar soap, and something that doesn't have an odour to it that's girly...and maybe some sort of washcloth? Hard to scrub the boys using only your hand and liquid soap.

 

[twelvetwentytwoam]

Thanks for the reply guys. I think I was more offended by the fact that she impied I stunk (she probably didn't imply anything) than me actually having to take another shower. My long hair part was just a joke. But to clarify a bit I always ask to use the bathroom even if I'm not taking a shower to wash my face, hands etc... which gives the lady a chance to take care of the donation or what not. I guess the general consensus is fair enough. The boys will be scrubbed down upon arrival from now on :thumb:

 

[Frank Dux]

Echoing the other posters' comments here. Everything you do to make an SP feel comfortable with you will likely affect the quality and enjoyment of this and future sessions, simple as that.

Did it occur to you that maybe she wants to take care of the envelope without prying eyes present? There are other reasons for sending you to the shower beyond your need for a shower (why should she go just on your say so anyway?).

It's also an opportunity for her to call or text her safety contact to let them know she is safe and will be starting the session. It's probably even more awkward than counting the bills in the envelope in front of the client.

 

[VanessaofBC]

Keep in mind the things you have touched since leaving your last shower ...

the shower taps, bathroom door knob, tied your shoes (ew), car door handle, steering wheel, hotel door handle, elevator buttons (double eww), money (triple ewww) .... need I go on?

plus.... I don't own a pair personally, but from my experience with them, balls get pretty sweaty in 30 degree weather .... just sayin'

Benefits to providing unscented shower gel for your clients ... he doesn't want to use the same bar of soap as the last guy and he doesn't want to smell like roses, or even a scent that isn't used at home.

I solved this problem by buying bars in bulk in the states. I tell clients, they are welcome to anything they see as it is all clean. I just toss the unwrapped bar of soap when they are done with it. I prefer liquid soap myself.

 

[vanessa kelly]

This may sound silly but I personally think its fun to wash my client myself before and after the session. I think its much more intimate and decreases nervousness because we get to talk and giggle and joke around plus its a nice pampering option which I have always thought was the whole point of seeing an escort in the first place.

I love to be pampered so I just put myself in his shoes and just do what I think would make him feel special . There are ways to go the extra mile that really feel like ten miles especially with someone who is nervous or new to the whole escort deal. Being militant about hygiene is a complete turn off so instead I make it fun and do it myself. Attitude is everything showing a good attitude costs nothing and its a wonderful gift not just to the client but for everyone.

cheers!

I agree JJ ... I have been doing this from day one ... I always undress my clients , not only because its like unwrapping a present I also have the opportunity to do a little inspection are his nails clean and so on, this is then followed by my famous cock wash I am not going to force a man to shower if all things demonstrate he is clean at the same time if I feel that it is necessary then of course...


Anywho time to go enjoy the Sunshine

Have a great day everyone
Dr.Vanessa Kelly

 

[jw90]

I wouldn't ever take offense (and haven't) when asked to shower upon arrival to a session. With some ladies, it is just their policy and they ask everyone to no matter what. It doesn't always mean she has observed you are unclean or "smell". It just depends on the lady, for some it is more important to them and just makes them feel more comfortable if they know you are freshly showered.

I wouldn't say you need to make it part of your routine to scrub down again upon arrival everytime. I shower throughly as well right before leaving for a session, assuming I won't again before the encounter. If the topic isn't brought up by the lady when I arrive, I won't ask to shower. If I am asked to directly, I always will of course.

Some may ask you if you would like to shower, they might just be genuinely offering it to you if you would like, or it might be their way of politely asking you to. I will usually respond "I showered right before I left but definitely will again if you would like", I've got both responses to this, some have said "oh, we're good" and some have suggested another rinse.

 

[emilioa4]

I don't get offended either, it's usually common practice to shower quickly before anything happens. On the flip side though, I have never seen or heard of anyone demanding that the lady shower also before the session. Why is that?? Shouldn't you ladies also want to show that you care to freshen up a little for us to maximize the fun? Seems like a lot of dudes here care about their hygiene, I think we would expect the same from you. Sure you may say you do so after every session but what's good for the goose.......... Something to think about, no?

 

[jw90]

I don't get offended either, it's usually common practice to shower quickly before anything happens. On the flip side though, I have never seen or heard of anyone demanding that the lady shower also before the session. Why is that?? Shouldn't you ladies also want to show that you care to freshen up a little for us to maximize the fun? Seems like a lot of dudes here care about their hygiene, I think we would expect the same from you. Sure you may say you do so after every session but what's good for the goose.......... Something to think about, no?

I think it is assumed in most cases (maybe incorrectly sometimes) that providers have an extensive hygiene routine when getting ready for a session. Assuming we are talking about incall sessions, they also haven't just travelled and walked to the location (maybe on a hot day), as was mentioned above. They also likely just spent time doing their hair and makeup and don't want to ruin it (not that it's an excuse if they are unclean).

Overall though, I think there is an assumption and an expectation that when you are dealing with reputable and professional SPs that as the provider they prepared for the session appropriately from a hygiene perspective. Clients don't get the benefit of the doubt like that, as they probably shouldn't.

Also, if an SP's hygiene wasn't up to par for a session, she has her reputation on the line as it could be mentioned in a review.

 

[twelvetwentytwoam]

This may sound silly but I personally think its fun to wash my client myself before and after the session. I think its much more intimate and decreases nervousness because we get to talk and giggle and joke around plus its a nice pampering option which I have always thought was the whole point of seeing an escort in the first place.

I don't think it's silly at all. I've asked SPs to jump in the shower with me after a hot and heavy session. I think it's the best way to spend the last part of the hour. Even if MSOG is offered I usually don't want to force myself or her to pretty much work for a second shot just for the hell of it. Taking a shower together at the end would be an awesome way to end a session.

 

[BORKO]

I don't think it's silly at all. I've asked SPs to jump in the shower with me after a hot and heavy session. I think it's the best way to spend the last part of the hour. Even if MSOG is offered I usually don't want to force myself or her to pretty much work for a second shot just for the hell of it. Taking a shower together at the end would be an awesome way to end a session.

I think the willingness for accompanied showers can vary by the SP, some ladies seem pretty concerned about ruining their make up and hair...

 

[Gotee-man]

Yeah, if a lady asks me to shower, I would. Even if I already did, it's good to keep the lady happy and will probably result in a better session. Couple times, the lady said I looked fine and we just got business, even though one time I thot I should of taken a shower and freshen up a bit. *LOL*

 

[MyNameWasStolen]

What is the big deal about taking a shower? I don't know about you but it just makes me feel more comfortable that all my smelly places are 100% clean.