MEET and Greet!!!!

[frostycreole]

Anyone ladies up for a meet and greet?

Would love to do one in the afternoon, meet some ladies and then go off to have some fun.... Anyone up for it?

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Ahhhh this is where we differ. I go to them to meet other girls and board members. This is a community and you get out what you put in. I'd be more happy to go to a meet and greet purely for the socializing where I can talk with others about escorting in an open way because I don't always get that in my life.
I'm new to the Alberta scene and the meet and greets have been a fantastic way for me to put faces to the names and vice versa. I've met some incredible women that way, friends in a city that would otherwise be filled with strangers.
I think meet and greets are a sign of a healthy happy community, people are too suspicious here, they have their hackles up all the time

I agree...if someone was new in a city, and their identity wasn't an issue, what a great way to get to know a few more friendly faces. In your own city, when your identity is private for a reason (SPs or pooners), I imagine most wouldn't attend.

 

[Ricky Ricardo]

When I lived in Portland, we used to have M&G four times a year, one of them was even a Christmas party.
Great way to break the ice and meet the locals

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Most the people who attend in Alberta are local...otherwise it's a bunch of girls from out of town, not guys and really that provides no network, it's pointless!
People have no trust here.
GUYS! Guys! Guys (said in my best Peter Griffin voice)...we all have something to lose here, how about having a little faith in your fellow human.
If the meet and greets are restricted to approved guests only and we have some faith in the one doing the approving then we can all have a good time

Well I'm glad you're meeting great folks in Alberta!

 

[Sleepmonger]

Most the people who attend in Alberta are local...otherwise it's a bunch of girls from out of town, not guys and really that provides no network, it's pointless!
People have no trust here.
GUYS! Guys! Guys (said in my best Peter Griffin voice)...we all have something to lose here, how about having a little faith in your fellow human.
If the meet and greets are restricted to approved guests only and we have some faith in the one doing the approving then we can all have a good time

There are meet and greets in Alberta?

I've met a fair number of people from the board and everyone tends to be pretty decent. A meet and greet with approved guests only sounds like good times. I'd attend if I was in Vancouver when it happened, which seems unlikely at the moment. Anything going on in Alberta?

 

[yazoo]

Don't take this the wrong way but. I always thought this whole "fantasy" was about anonymity and discretion. Somehow the whole idea of a meet and greet seem contrary to the entire whole discretion of the business.

Quite honestly there are a few people on here I personally never ever want to meet, see or discuss anything with

I would say it is up to the individual. If you want to remain anonymous then I'm sure that everyone here is happy to respect that. But I know that I wouldn't mind meeting a few PERBites for a drink and chatter. Where's the harm? We're all so one-dimensional when we are just typing. I've met a couple of people from the board in real life, and I can tell you - you get a whole different perspective on the person when you meet them in person.

 

[badbadboy]

I am a very social person and would normally say Yes I will be there but being outed is my number one concern.

I told a colleague over a few drinks about my hobby then I found out he had also told someone else in my industry. It had its fallout for sure and decided I am here to see SP's and am happy doing just that :nod:

I may have offended someone here and would never give them the chance at some payback if they met me in person.

Paradisio does have my interest though . . .

 

[vancity_cowboy]

you know that no matter how carefully the invite list is managed, that there will be some people find out where and when it is that were purposely left off the invite list

i remember m&g's from the past when there were these 'mysterious characters' sitting all by themselves a short distance away from the crowd, but sort of within earshot. in those days cell phones didn't have the camera (or recording) capabilities that they have now

these are the characters i'd be concerned about, not the invited attendees

 

[Sleepmonger]

Married and family yes but unless this professional career is one that has you under the public microscope or in the media then I can't see how a meet and greet would be detrimental. As I said WE ALL HAVE SOMETHING TO LOSE, I don't think people would go out and sabotage someone for fun.

Actually, professional career is one of the largest risks for me personally with regard to this hobby, and it has nothing to do with public opinion. The business world is largely conservative, and very political, meeting up with a gossipy fellow who knows me professionally could have a negative effect on future contracts or positions. Family is less of a concern for me, but even if it wasnt, anyone who knew me personally would stand to lose just as much if not more if they intended to out me. I also believe that people wouldn't sabotage someone personally, but I know they would professionally if given the chance.

...I told a colleague over a few drinks about my hobby then I found out he had also told someone else in my industry. It had its fallout for sure and decided I am here to see SP's and am happy doing just that :nod:...

Exactly...

you know that no matter how carefully the invite list is managed, that there will be some people find out where and when it is that were purposely left off the invite list...

This is true, I think a private location would be much more comfortable than bars or restaraunts, but difficult to sort out.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Actually, professional career is one of the largest risks for me personally with regard to this hobby, and it has nothing to do with public opinion. The business world is largely conservative, and very political, meeting up with a gossipy fellow who knows me professionally could have a negative effect on future contracts or positions. Family is less of a concern for me, but even if it wasnt, anyone who knew me personally would stand to lose just as much if not more if they intended to out me.

I feel that your point is likely the most accurate representation for those who just cannot take a risk of being out in a public way, sharing in the joviality of a M&G. As much as they might like to...

 

[Sleepmonger]

I think the safest way to develop a social group in this industry is for two or three people who've met and established a level of trust, to each invite another person they've met, trust and would vouch for to the group, so it grows slowly but exponentially that way.

To assemble with a random group of people that 'somebody else' approved is probably the riskiest, if you have something to lose.

Um, other than the two or three people that you have met, and the person you invite, everyone else would be a random group of people that "somebody else" approved, regardless of the method, no? I'm not all that paranoid that some creepy dude is going to take pictures for blackmail purposes, it's more that someone else might invite someone who runs in my own private or professional circles. Theres no way to protect against that by screening out weirdos.

For example, recently I randomly found out that one of the members here and I run in the same circles in our private lives. Neither of us have any interest in exposing each others identity with mutual friends or family, but what if instead of an acquantance he was a staff member that had recently been let go?

I mean, the risks are there and pretty unavoidable... but I'd still go if it was a group of reasonable size, because the risk will always be there. I either take the chance or miss out on meeting with an interesting group of likeminded individuals.

 

[gerri]

I would be interested in another M&G. We had a few in Victoria, private settings are best for this a Hotel suite, or residence...private invites only

 

[CJ Tylers]

Many moons ago, PERB used to have semi regular M&G's... which took place at the Drake, the Cecil and I think once in a while Muggs & Juggs (now the G-spot). They died out because of board drama & people getting bored with them (turnout dropped).

Despite the alcohol and concentration of testosterone, this worked because:
a) There was always wild life to check out
b) There was always a firm hand ready to check any nonsense.
c) Cameras were usually not an issue (see B), as nobody is stupid enough to bring out a camera or camera phone to a strip club.

By and large, there was never any sort of guest list (which is both elitist and kind of counter productive). Everyone does have something of a shared risk, although there isn't too much judgement that can come from within a strip club (the sleazier the better, perhaps). In such a place, decorum is enforced (by and large) and nobody feels too left out (and, of course, can go elsewhere without losing face if a pretty girl is on stage).

The biggest benefit to the ladies, of course, is actually meeting gentlemen that haven't booked with them... both sides get a chance to veto the other in a social setting, which can lead to a booking or avoid a date where there's no compatibility. The old M&G's had lurkers and low volume posters showing up, which I'm sure lead to appointments later on down the road. If all you do is invite vetted reviewers, or people that are known clients, you're basically double dipping in a limited pool of potential buyers... there's limited business sense in that, and honestly, I'd only recommend that if you're going somewhere that requires far more discretion than a shady bar or strip club.

That said, there were down sides... as the men don't get that not all women will arrive done up to the nines (which, IMHO, is just fine), and may be turned off if they are expecting something other than casual from the girls. Other times, vetted clients might get clingy or attempt to monopolize the woman's time. Don't assume that just because you've put someone on a special list, that they won't be troublesome (especially once they've had a few drinks).

Just $0.05 from someone who's been there & done that

 

[vancity_cowboy]

Don't assume that just because you've put someone on a special list, that they won't be troublesome (especially once they've had a few drinks).

a group of us had a private m&g years ago. who knew that one of the long-time well respected posters was a brittle alcoholic, until of course he polished off the hard bar and proceeded to make a royal arse of himself. the girls all withdrew to a separate room in fear and the night was essentially ruined

lesson learned about m&g's with anonymous posters off the internet