So you want to take an Asian SP out socially? Add your ideas how it's best done

[kauffman]

oh great, just what we need a thread encouraging a bunch of guys to start bugging the girls with propositions

a better thread, if you must, would be about hitting on girls that work at grocery stores or at the mall or in college, why focus at all on sp's when the whole thing is 100000% more complicated right from the start because the initial meeting (and most likely any after that even off the clock) are focused on money

just be happy with the 45 minutes and then move the fuck on, this is ridiculous

i 100% agree. Perhaps if you need help trying to figure out how to ask a woman out, instead of trying to ask out an sp which to her will likely seem like you are trying to use up her time without paying for it, perhaps use some of the time you have paid for with her to ask for her advice on how she prefers to be approached and use that advice elsewhere. Sp's can be A great source of information . Dont forget. This is her JOB

 

[kauffman]

Let me explain it to you then, you're calling a comment that vastly generalizes an entire race realistic. I find that comment offensive as it basically says that every little Asian SP's goal is to get rescued by and marry some Westerner which gives her a giant boost in status and save her from her sad horrid little life. Sounds like you are buying into poverty porn and believe that just because someone from another country that isn't as rich as Canada means that they need or want to be saved.

I'd say that people even in those poverty porn countries can have fun too and maybe, just maybe, they can choose to go out and have fun too just for fun's sake rather than as an evil master plan to trap some poor Western man into marriage. Oh also note how it might be a little offensive to suggest that marrying Western is a status upgrade and that most Asian girls believe that... Just because some of you have met one or two or three Asian girls that might believe that, doesn't mean that they can speak for an entire race.

I respond by asking you if it's the same case with white SPs... no apparently it isn't because white SPs are different because Western SPs are not from marginalized countries and aren't here illegally. Any time a person' opinion of a group changes when their race changes starts to sound like you're generalizing an entire race, but I guess you didn't see my point there and I guess you chose to take that out of context and call it flaming. Just because someone disagrees with you doesn't mean they're flaming you, especially if they disagree with you because you are calling something ridiculous realistic.

But hey, I'm just a guy that believes everyone is a snowflake, even if it's a yellow snowflake instead of a white one, and every little snowflake might have different reasons for doing things because every little snowflake is different.

Oh and before you suggest that I am defending taking advantage of these downtrodden Asian sex slaves because I'm a cheapass, I almost exclusively frequent independent Western SPs, many of whom advertise or have advertised on this board.

Ever heard of Mail Order Brides? Go direct

 

[VanessaofBC]

http://www.rosebrides.com/canadian-brides.html

That's the first google result...

Good one!!!!

 

[tantalizeme]

I've learnt quite a bit from this thread

...i kinda want this thread to die.

Most threads on PERB sink like lead balloons—so it`s gratifying to see the healthy debate sparked by this topic.

But I agree, this thread has had a long enough life.

Time to start a couple new threads on how to recruit Asian SPs for off-the-clock social time.

Here is the first: https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthrea...e-is-best-for-my-button&p=1393729#post1393729

 

[PlayfulAlex]

The truth hurts, doesn't it.

Please note though I did mention that there are woman who are gung ho NOT to have a husband to depend on.

This is how we were raised. Isn't it how were we all raised?

Graduate
Get a job
Get engaged (aka, get the ring)
Get married
Work
Have kids
Work
Send kids to school
Work, work, work
Retire?

Actually, I'll stick with this thread for a minute (I'm not quite brave enough to venture into the new thread yet :fear!

My feeling is that it isn't just the ladies who want this. It's human beings, yes we actually love the idea of partnership. But we all have a little sour grapes in us and often, after a number of failed attempts, we talk about giving up on love. It's too much trouble, too expensive when it goes wrong, too fraught with perilous, unpleasant outcomes...and the infamous "I can't seem to get my way!" :violin: .

From Cobra Starship: You Make Me Feel... (featuring Sabi)

La la la la la
La la na na na
La la la la la
La la na na na

[Verse 1]
Girl I've been all over the world
Looking for you
I'm known for taking what I think I deserve
And you're overdue

And if you listen you can hear me through the radio
In that bright white noise
What I been missing in my life
What I been dreaming of
You'll be that girl
You'll be that girl
You'll be

[Sabi]
Everything you want so let me get up there
I'm the baddest baby in the atmosphere
Tell me what you want so we can do just what you like

[Chorus]
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You, you make me feel that

[Verse 2]
Get a little closer to me girl
And you'll understand
'Cause if you want a guy that knows what you need
Well, then I'm your man

And if I listen I can hear you through my radio
In that bright white noise
What I been missing in my life
What I been dreaming of
You'll be that girl
You'll be that girl
You'll be

[Sabi]
Everything you want so let me get up there
I'm the baddest baby in the atmosphere
Tell me what you want so we can do just what you like

Ooh
Everything you know I'm flipping upside down
Take you 'round the world
You know I like it loud
Tell me what you want 'cause we can do just what you like

[Chorus]
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You make me feel, oh
La la la la la
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You make me feel, oh
La la la la la

Put your hands up
Put your hands up
Let the lights drop
Let the lights drop
Make my world stop
Make my world stop

La la la la la
La la na na na
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You make me feel, oh
La la la la la
You make me feel that
La la la la la
You make me feel so
La la la la la
You make me feel that
La la la la la

 

[VanessaofBC]

(I'm not quite brave enough to venture into the new thread yet )!

Come...come to the other side, Alex.....:wave:

 

[mimi]

^:clap2:

Yep, been in university bathrooms, and college bathrooms, (and office bathrooms at Christmas parties)...and the discussion groups where you are supposed to focus on the material at hand, but, all a gal has to do is mention a word associated with romance, and, zoom...off topic.

As someone states above, we are human. I don't understand the negative attitude about women wanting life partners or husbands. When did that become an awful thing? Christ, without that drive to make babies we'd have died out a long time ago...we aren't a terribly robust species.

The idea that 'tough' women don't have serious feelings and cannot be hurt cause they know the score, is pretty naive.

I never wanted marriage, or a regular bf for that matter. I was into the career thing, but damn, it kept creeping up in the equation every time I went out with a guy and he wanted to introduce me to his family.

I am first generation Canadian, and I know what it's like for a traditional family to look at you in askance when you don't tow 'the company line' and get with the program of marriage. You watch your siblings get hitched (and it didn't spark my interest) and when they're all settled they all look at you. That didn't influence my decision to get married...some fucking weird hormonal thing was responsible for that.

What I was getting at.....was that it ain't fair to be vague. Draw the line in the sand. That goes the same for women. There are lots of lonely fellows who want a nice partner (not here of course ) it's not fair for a woman to ask a guy on dates and hang out with him, without making the intentions clear. She should tell him on the first date if she has any intention of fucking him, and he should tell her if he has any intention of marrying her...but I'm just old fashioned, I guess.

If you are going to take a very clear, straight forward transaction, like sexual services, and start mixing that up with off the clock fun, then be sure to indicate, very early on, that it ain't going anywhere...

Tant, this thread has been quite interesting. I learned more here than from that Mars and Venus book. Small wonder relationships are a struggle!

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Forgive me for spoiling the fun here (tant, you really are the epitome of shit-disturber) but hasn't this been going on since time immemorial?

Men give love to get sex, women give sex to get love. I don't think you've come up with something extraordinarily new and outrageous!

 

[SixShooter]

Do tell more about this.

Probably because of the rise in popularity of in plastic surgery in S. Korea, the ladies of DPRK are more varied in looks and thus possess the natural beauty Tourist9394 was referring to.

http://gawker.com/plastic-surgery-blamed-for-making-all-miss-korea-contes-480907455

6.

 

[SFMIKE]

Once upon a time I became very friendly with a Micro girl. Saw her often, and we both seemed to enjoy each other's company.

One night she asked me to meet her the next morning for an early lunch and some shopping. (eyes rolling, right?)

I agreed to her idea, knowing it was something different from someone I had come to feel a little fond of.

We met downtown, went to lunch and she insisted to pay.

Then came that dreaded shopping trip. Turns out she did not want anything for herself, but something for her dad. She apparently did not understand how to find what she needed. It was so easy, even for someone from out of town.

All she wanted was a baseball cap. When she told me which team's cap he wanted, I tried to talk her out of it, but it seems that the Yankees were the only team he knew. So she got the cap and back to the micro we went.

Nobody was there when we arrived, so off to the bedroom we went. As usual, it was all fun with her.

After about an hour the papa showed up, and she left the room for a minute. When she returned she said she had told him that we just arrived, so that he could start the clock.

Almost two hours we spent, and all that it cost me was the damn Yankee cap (I had paid for it) plus her usual 45 minute price.

 

[myselftheother]

Once upon a time I became very friendly with a Micro girl. Saw her often, and we both seemed to enjoy each other's company.

One night she asked me to meet her the next morning for an early lunch and some shopping. (eyes rolling, right?)

I agreed to her idea, knowing it was something different from someone I had come to feel a little fond of.

We met downtown, went to lunch and she insisted to pay.

Then came that dreaded shopping trip. Turns out she did not want anything for herself, but something for her dad. She apparently did not understand how to find what she needed. It was so easy, even for someone from out of town.

All she wanted was a baseball cap. When she told me which team's cap he wanted, I tried to talk her out of it, but it seems that the Yankees were the only team he knew. So she got the cap and back to the micro we went.

Nobody was there when we arrived, so off to the bedroom we went. As usual, it was all fun with her.

After about an hour the papa showed up, and she left the room for a minute. When she returned she said she had told him that we just arrived, so that he could start the clock.

Almost two hours we spent, and all that it cost me was the damn Yankee cap (I had paid for it) plus her usual 45 minute price.

Sounds like it was a very nice time.

 

[grusse]

Once upon a time I became very friendly with a Micro girl. Saw her often, and we both seemed to enjoy each other's company.

One night she asked me to meet her the next morning for an early lunch and some shopping. (eyes rolling, right?)

I agreed to her idea, knowing it was something different from someone I had come to feel a little fond of.

We met downtown, went to lunch and she insisted to pay.

Then came that dreaded shopping trip. Turns out she did not want anything for herself, but something for her dad. She apparently did not understand how to find what she needed. It was so easy, even for someone from out of town.

All she wanted was a baseball cap. When she told me which team's cap he wanted, I tried to talk her out of it, but it seems that the Yankees were the only team he knew. So she got the cap and back to the micro we went.

Nobody was there when we arrived, so off to the bedroom we went. As usual, it was all fun with her.

After about an hour the papa showed up, and she left the room for a minute. When she returned she said she had told him that we just arrived, so that he could start the clock.

Almost two hours we spent, and all that it cost me was the damn Yankee cap (I had paid for it) plus her usual 45 minute price.

I've got a feeling that did not make you a Yankees' fan.

 

[87112]

Better topic is how to date a White upper class women as a socially shy Chinese guy?

 

[CJ Tylers]

Look like a movie star and have load of cash.

Same way a shy Caucasian man has to go about dating "White Upper Class". :|

 

[SFMIKE]

I've got a feeling that did not make you a Yankees' fan.

Not in this lifetime. Besides, the Yankees are so yesterday's team. Time to unload salary and rebuild. It has happened before, but they have the bucks to rebuild quickly. If only baseball had the same salary cap rules as the NHL. Then teams like the Yankees would not have players making more money than other teams' whole payrolls.