Ah, have you ever had a relationship with a provider that progressed into something more? Where common sense went out the window due to 'electric chemistry' and fabulous sex? I have had it happen once many years ago, it didn't end well for me, although I am far better off and wish the best for the gal. I just had an atf come back into my life, and God help me, I can see things progressing in the same manner. The sex is physically and emotionally draining. the type of sex where you just want to go to sleep afterwards. This isn't the run of the mill gfe, at least not that I have ever had. This is more. There is no way I can stop seeing this woman. She dropped her rate substantially, and has suggested going out socially. I know I am an old fool (middle aged lol) but I wonder, am I alone in the boat?
Have you ever fallen 'In Love" with a provider?
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Ay, carumba. As long as you don't have a problem with bald, sweaty truckers with halitosis banging/having banged your wife, then sure, go for it. And as long as you are confident that you'll never get in a fight and Richard Gere her with a whore comment, why not. Other than that, as long as the "heart" doesn't get invested too badly, enjoy it! Just ensure you have an exit strategy for both you and your feelings.
Good luck...
Good luck...
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While I might have put it more delicately you're bang on with your advice.
Over the years I definitely have had special feelings for a couple of SP's where we had a special coonection, and had I not been attached I may have considered taking it to the next level with one or two of them, however having said that, or even thought that..I also realized the complexities of it all, and not sure how/if I would be able to handle the fact that whenever you would go out in a social setting, and wander who/if she had slept with anyone in the room. As much as I may try to fool myself that it wouldn't matter, ....I'm pretty sure in some situations I would be jealous/judgemental...even though it is a double standard. One girl I saw twice a month for over 3 years.....and another I saw almost every week , for over 2 years, and for over a year after she "retired"..in both cases the rate was dropped considerably, and time was never a factor, and we both shared everything about our private lives....both were definitely very special , and both were top girls in the city at the time
I had one very special girl tell me quite frankly, "once a cheater, always a cheater" and that if I was not attached, she would really have to think about seeing me socially, because if she was in a relationship, she expected total loyalty from both ( in other words she would not see anyone in a serious relationship while being a sp) ....and that she would not be sure if she could trust me. Just prior to her retirement , she also told me about how many guys begged her to keep working, how many guys asked her to marry them , and they where going to leave there wives for her,...as they thought they had something special.......she laughed and told them "sorry..I'm only fucking you for the $$ and I'm not at all interested in dating you or marrying you" ......harsh, but reality! Its a fine line between doing your job extremely well , and truly caring. Once the thrill of the sex wears off, and real life stares at you every day, things may not be as rosey as one thinks.
Having said all that......if both are very open with each other ,get along great in and out of the bedroom.....and both are unattached..then hell yes..why not pursue that option and see where it leads, because it really should not matter what either of yours profession is, as both are already involved in it anyhow..one as the provider and one as a client, and both of you have to make sure they can handle some of the obvious obstacles that will arise.
Just be truthful to each other and enjoy. Life is to short to miss out on something that may be fantastic for both! Good luck!
I had one very special girl tell me quite frankly, "once a cheater, always a cheater" and that if I was not attached, she would really have to think about seeing me socially, because if she was in a relationship, she expected total loyalty from both ( in other words she would not see anyone in a serious relationship while being a sp) ....and that she would not be sure if she could trust me. Just prior to her retirement , she also told me about how many guys begged her to keep working, how many guys asked her to marry them , and they where going to leave there wives for her,...as they thought they had something special.......she laughed and told them "sorry..I'm only fucking you for the $$ and I'm not at all interested in dating you or marrying you" ......harsh, but reality! Its a fine line between doing your job extremely well , and truly caring. Once the thrill of the sex wears off, and real life stares at you every day, things may not be as rosey as one thinks.
Having said all that......if both are very open with each other ,get along great in and out of the bedroom.....and both are unattached..then hell yes..why not pursue that option and see where it leads, because it really should not matter what either of yours profession is, as both are already involved in it anyhow..one as the provider and one as a client, and both of you have to make sure they can handle some of the obvious obstacles that will arise.
Just be truthful to each other and enjoy. Life is to short to miss out on something that may be fantastic for both! Good luck!
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Yes I have been there and done that more than once. The first time didn't work so well she just took off but we sort of keep in touch. Since then there have been a couple that if I saw them more regular I could see myself falling again. They both work in Winnipeg and when I do see them we talk like more like old friends then sp/client maybe it is all an act. I know nothing will ever become of it but it sure is fun when we are together.
I always tried to avoid women who were closer to my age, especially ones that fell into the sultry brunette category... as I have a definite attraction to those kinds of women. I know that I attach fairly easily, so keeping out of a situation where my heart might start to ache... well, it's easier. Since I had a problem free run, it seem to have worked. I think that it's been proven time and time again, that falling for SP's is destined for failure, barring the very occasional exception to the rule.
Basically, if you've seen her as a client, it probably isn't going to work out. If not, you may have a shot at happiness.
Basically, if you've seen her as a client, it probably isn't going to work out. If not, you may have a shot at happiness.
Great thread. I still see a SP occasionally that doesn't advertise anymore. We definitely seem to have chemistry with each other. This has been almost a two year process. We constantly text and talk on the phone. I call her and she calls me. It's got to the point where we are very comfortable with each other. Lately we have been texting quite a lot but when she recently called me and I heard her voice it hit me hard. There is something there and I know something is brewing. Not sure how things will work out but it's something I will not push. Whatever happens will happen. It's not this way with any of the other ladies I see.
Maxfield:
We'd like to move this thread to the lounge forum.
There have been a few threads similar to this one recently. But yours is more one of asking for advice and input. We think it has merit. Plus it has the potential of help many members. You'll also attract more responses from ladies.
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We'd like to move this thread to the lounge forum.
There have been a few threads similar to this one recently. But yours is more one of asking for advice and input. We think it has merit. Plus it has the potential of help many members. You'll also attract more responses from ladies.
Can you approve the move?
Max, and everybody else, all women are SPs; some charge a specified fee, others just ask you for food, shelter and helping with the kids. I am serious about this: the only difference between the SPs we enjoy and discuss here, and the SPs some of us (not everybody is married/togetherwithsomebody here, I suppose) have, is the hours of operation and the form of payment.
Go for it, but with your eyes VERY open!
Go for it, but with your eyes VERY open!
Why do you have to bring othrr people`s SO into this discussion? Your understanding of a relationship is not universal and insulting. Keep it to yourself.
Balrog has support......from Enigma, the tantric SP. I like the way she put it once:
"With an SP you get it in the front-end; with a wife you get it in the back-end"
ound:Wow! You all either misunderstand me or have a VERY poor view of the SPs!
Two things:
1. I adore women. I respect them and love them, wheter I know them personally or not. No desire or lust has to be involved for me to actually care for a lady. I would always step up for a lady if someone was to disrespect her (and that includes all the SPs I've seen, I will see, or I'll never see).
2. Therefore, I don't have any problems calling all women SPs: they are! Just like we are also, sometimes, in a way, but, at least in our society (and most, with just a few exceptions) what I said is true. The feminist movement will surely disagree with me, and maybe some women dislike having to provide these services to obtain what they want and prefer to obtain it by other methods like hard work, etc. Regardless, marriage's foundations is that the male will provide (food, shelter, care, etc) for the female who will provide sex, caring for the home and children. If a male is a dad-at-home and the lady is who provides de financial recourses, then you can call him a SP. If both work, as in most cases, both are SPs. Love is a cover. Sure, you love them, they love you, but that is just an extension of the SP contract of marriage (which is restricted in the SP that we have with the ladies often discussed here). Therefore, if the OP wants to extended his contract to include love, I see nothing wrong with it.
I feel disappointed at some of you that have protested for the term SP applied to your SOs, that speaks tons of the concept you have for the SPs...
Two things:
1. I adore women. I respect them and love them, wheter I know them personally or not. No desire or lust has to be involved for me to actually care for a lady. I would always step up for a lady if someone was to disrespect her (and that includes all the SPs I've seen, I will see, or I'll never see).
2. Therefore, I don't have any problems calling all women SPs: they are! Just like we are also, sometimes, in a way, but, at least in our society (and most, with just a few exceptions) what I said is true. The feminist movement will surely disagree with me, and maybe some women dislike having to provide these services to obtain what they want and prefer to obtain it by other methods like hard work, etc. Regardless, marriage's foundations is that the male will provide (food, shelter, care, etc) for the female who will provide sex, caring for the home and children. If a male is a dad-at-home and the lady is who provides de financial recourses, then you can call him a SP. If both work, as in most cases, both are SPs. Love is a cover. Sure, you love them, they love you, but that is just an extension of the SP contract of marriage (which is restricted in the SP that we have with the ladies often discussed here). Therefore, if the OP wants to extended his contract to include love, I see nothing wrong with it.
I feel disappointed at some of you that have protested for the term SP applied to your SOs, that speaks tons of the concept you have for the SPs...
Why don't you practice what you preach and keep your "understanding" of my words to yourself?
