Money no object - How long is a the perfect session?
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I've had a couple of all nighters I think that's pretty much the limit for one encounter..course if money wasn't an issue, it could be repeated multiple times.
Interesting topic
You're right—pooners' preferences differ in amazing ways.
Obviously, a pooner for whom SPs are the only women he ever gets to touch intimately—and who seeks emotional as well as sexual contact—will be very differently motivated than a pooner who has an affectionate SO at home and just craves sexual variety.
Myself, I mostly just seek intense erotic play with reasonably attractive, friendly and arousable partners, and usually I find about an hour at a time quite sufficient. I've repeated from 5 to 13 times with a few ladies, but for the most part I find my excitement is at its height with someone new. If Greek is on the menu, I'll probably see her a few more times.
But if an SP were "perfect"—physically alluring, kinky and terrific in the sack, affectionate, communicative and seemingly excited about hanging out with me—wow, I'd put no set limit on our togetherness if I my supply of time and money were endless.
But that's not reality. In Vancouver, most ordinary guys will find even overnighters highly punitive financially, and not many actual SPs approach "perfection."
So let me change your question a bit: how much time would I ideally want to spend with a reasonably congenial and affordable SP (who'd realistically be Asian)?
I'd definitely consider "more than 3 nights" in places like Thailand or the Philippines, where lovely ladies happily keep you company for a week at a time, for relatively modest compensation.
The problem is that, once my erotic cravings are satiated, I'd want someone I can talk to and hang out with in a relaxed way; and that's a tall order for most Asian SPs, who usually can't speak English.
Hey yazoo,
You're right—pooners' preferences differ in amazing ways.
Obviously, a pooner for whom SPs are the only women he ever gets to touch intimately—and who seeks emotional as well as sexual contact—will be very differently motivated than a pooner who has an affectionate SO at home and just craves sexual variety.
Myself, I mostly just seek intense erotic play with reasonably attractive, friendly and arousable partners, and usually I find about an hour at a time quite sufficient. I've repeated from 5 to 13 times with a few ladies, but for the most part I find my excitement is at its height with someone new. If Greek is on the menu, I'll probably see her a few more times.
But if an SP were "perfect"—physically alluring, kinky and terrific in the sack, affectionate, communicative and seemingly excited about hanging out with me—wow, I'd put no set limit on our togetherness if I my supply of time and money were endless.
But that's not reality. In Vancouver, most ordinary guys will find even overnighters highly punitive financially, and not many actual SPs approach "perfection."
So let me change your question a bit: how much time would I ideally want to spend with a reasonably congenial and affordable SP (who'd realistically be Asian)?
I'd definitely consider "more than 3 nights" in places like Thailand or the Philippines, where lovely ladies happily keep you company for a week at a time, for relatively modest compensation.
The problem is that, once my erotic cravings are satiated, I'd want someone I can talk to and hang out with in a relaxed way; and that's a tall order for most Asian SPs, who usually can't speak English.
Or some people just want to be sexually pleasured, while others enjoy 'exploring' a new relationship - in all its nooks and crannies. The great thing about pooning for me is that you can go explore what a relationship would be like with new wonderful lady - literally on demand.
Yes, money is a factor. And that is the interesting part. For local punters in Asia, who earn their paycheques in baht, or pesos, the cost of punting is about the same as here. One hour of an SP's time costs them about 8 hours of their labour. So their habits are probably pretty similar to ours. They want to see as many ladies as possible, so spend an hour or so with each one, rather than blowing a weeks wages on an overnighter.
For lucky us, the big thing is the exchange rate. An hour of an SP's time costs us pretty close to only an hour of our labour. So with the restriction of budget lifted, we are free to spend as long as we want.
I am not too surprised at the results so far. If you lump the first three responses as 'Short Time' and the last three as 'Long Time', short time is winning 56%:44%.
I just wonder how much of that is habit. If someone has been doing one hour sessions for a long time, why change a good thing? For me it is the opposite. I was 'raised' on the overnighters. Budget forces me into one hour sessions here, and just when I've gotten started, it is time to go.
My norm is 90 or 120 minutes
Hit it off nicely then we do an overnight.
Hit it off great then it's a 3 - 7 day holiday
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Hit it off nicely then we do an overnight.
Hit it off great then it's a 3 - 7 day holiday
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Hazards of "exploring what a relationship would be like with a new wonderful lady"
In anticipation of my Thailand trip later this year, I've been pondering the pros and cons of going "short term" vs. "long-term" with a lady.
I know from your stories that you're big on staying with your ladies in Asia for days at a time. But I've found, when it comes to common interests, there's usually a huge gap between us in terms of gender, culture and age—which usually makes extended togetherness stressful, frustrating or even boring.
That's especially true when you consider the opportunity cost.
And worst of all, there's the inevitable creep of expectations that begin to weigh down the interaction. Here's a cautionary tale I found fascinating: Mike's story, followed by Noi's story (just click on the "Confusion" tap). http://www.pattayapages.com/girls/mike.html
Another really fascinating article is Erik Cohen's "OPEN-ENDED PROSTITUTION AS A SKILLFUL GAME OF LUCK: OPPORTUNITY, RISK AND SECURITY AMONG TOURIST-ORIENTED PROSTITUTES IN BANGKOK" under the "Academic" tap. http://www.pattayapages.com/girls/academic.html
I wonder how you feel about tearful goodbyes, after spending a week with a girl and encouraging mutual emotions to develop.
In some ways I, too, might find it tempting to hang out with a lovely Thai SP for days on end. But, when I consider the downside, I think I'll continue my style of just relishing the incredibly intense joy of a few hours' erotic play.
Hey yazoo,
In anticipation of my Thailand trip later this year, I've been pondering the pros and cons of going "short term" vs. "long-term" with a lady.
I know from your stories that you're big on staying with your ladies in Asia for days at a time. But I've found, when it comes to common interests, there's usually a huge gap between us in terms of gender, culture and age—which usually makes extended togetherness stressful, frustrating or even boring.
That's especially true when you consider the opportunity cost.
And worst of all, there's the inevitable creep of expectations that begin to weigh down the interaction. Here's a cautionary tale I found fascinating: Mike's story, followed by Noi's story (just click on the "Confusion" tap). http://www.pattayapages.com/girls/mike.html
Another really fascinating article is Erik Cohen's "OPEN-ENDED PROSTITUTION AS A SKILLFUL GAME OF LUCK: OPPORTUNITY, RISK AND SECURITY AMONG TOURIST-ORIENTED PROSTITUTES IN BANGKOK" under the "Academic" tap. http://www.pattayapages.com/girls/academic.html
I wonder how you feel about tearful goodbyes, after spending a week with a girl and encouraging mutual emotions to develop.
In some ways I, too, might find it tempting to hang out with a lovely Thai SP for days on end. But, when I consider the downside, I think I'll continue my style of just relishing the incredibly intense joy of a few hours' erotic play.
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I wouldn't suggest engaging for more than one day at a time. Each morning renew the contract. Or not. Sometimes you have to 'rest for a day'. Sometimes she has to 'help a friend'. Sometimes, however, you just hit it off, and fly off to another city or something. Also there are bargirls of all ages, you don't have to go for the super young ones. 40 year old Thai women hold their age well, the pro's have been around westerners for decades and know how we tick. Many of them have lived overseas, courtesy of people like Mike in your link.
Also, a TGF is an amazing tour guide. I've seen places on the back of a girl's motorbike that I never would have discovered on my own. I've been taken to temples and been hand-led through the ritual of the Buddhist prayers, all from my tourguide who was honking on bobo an hour earlier.
I never let the threat of an emotional hangover stop me from enjoying the party. And goodbye is never totally goodbye. It's kind of backwards to dating. With dating you hang out, and if you find each other compatible you end up in bed. With an LT you fuck first, and if you are compatible you end up poking each other on facebook.
Always remember, you are engaging the services of a professional GFE provider. It is blissfully real for the days you are together but the girls are mongers just like you and me. Accept each other for who you are and good mutual friendships can result.
There's someone for everyone and absolutely nothing wrong with your approach. Folks like me are in the minority. Many SP's prefer ST too, for the same reasons, and also because they can make more money. It certainly is the emotionally safer route as you are much less likely to catch the love bug. But, headfirst and headstrong, I've never gone for CBJ either. I would encourage you to sample bareback emotional mongering - even if only once. If you find the right provider, she'll convert you to a LT pooner.
