A review not like any before

[SFMIKE]

I found this on another board and could not resist sharing. Not trying to be judgmental, just wanting to point out how this hobby can affect people, even people not involved in the hobby itself:


HEARTBROKEN

Price: $1,000,000

Smokes: No

Review: I love my child with all my heart. She was my pride and joy, she is now my shame. I don't contact my dearest friends any more for fear they will ask how she is doing. I've been contacted by insane people this year because of her line of work. They put me through hell, and they are too cowardly and sick to even say who they are. All they do is torment. She says she likes manly men, but all I have known of are thugs and bullies, breathing pieces of garbage. They treat her like shit and she sucks up to them like a whipped dog. I'm depressed and I cry all the time. She's so bright and beautiful and has so much to offer the world, but she doesn't work, she doesn't go to school, she fucks. She calls me crying because her life is garbage and she wonders why. She doesn't do anything to help herself, and she seems incapable of providing the most basic of needs for herself. I used to be so proud of her, now I live my life in fear for her.

Looks: face 9.5, body 10

 

[badbadboy]

Very good post SFMike

I always bear in mind with the SP's I see or the SW I see on the stroll on the Downtown Eastside are somebody's daughter. Always treat someone the same way you would like to be treated is something I try to live by each day.

 

[tantalizeme]

Isn't this the usual sex-negative lament of conservative parents?

She's so bright and beautiful and has so much to offer the world, but she doesn't work, she doesn't go to school, she fucks.

I totally agree that we pooners should treat all SPs as vulnerable human beings and respect their limits.

But what this father articulates, in an emotion-charged tone, is an all too common perspective among parents of SPs.

It's the old prejudice that sex work isn't meaningful work and only brings shame to the family.

Haters of sex work usually state this point as a rhetorical question: "Would you want your daughter to become a prostitute?"

The implied answer is, of course, that nobody does. Anti-prostitution crusaders then triumphantly conclude that supporters of legalized sex work are hypocrites.

My answer would be, "There's nothing wrong with a job that involves touching other human beings. So yes, I'd respect my daughter's choice to become an SP. It's an important social contribution. I'd just hope she gets to work under conditions that are reasonably safe."

It's precisely society's prejudices toward sex work—along with legal restrictions—that contribute greatly to making sex work so often unsafe.
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Sure hope Holly Taylor chimes in. She has written sensibly about this, a while ago, on the another Board.

 

[Dgodus]

That's a hard read.

 

[badbadboy]

If you love your children unconditionally then there is no need for an ad such as that father's.

Do you cut them off if they are gay, transgendered, hooked on drugs or whatever? Not me anyways. You accept them as they are and if they come to you asking for help getting out of the place they have put themselves; then you help them.

 

[SFMIKE]

Whoever said this was written by the father? Or a jealous boyfriend or a jilted suitor.

The consensus on the board where I found this seems to favor the idea it was written by the mother (if it is authentic, and not bogus) and, not the father.

The OP points out in his introduction that he has seen the girl 3 times but would refrain in the future. Yet, oddly, others have chimed in and say how something like this might make them want to see her for a first time. Some pooners can be very heartless, can't we?

 

[badbadboy]

Whoever said this was written by the father? Or a jealous boyfriend or a jilted suitor.

I re read it and really, how would one know who wrote it? If it is true, it makes no difference who wrote it.

I don't get how some pooners would want to seek out someone possibly fragile and vulnerable. :doh:

 

[jesuschrist]

My answer would be, "There's nothing wrong with a job that involves touching other human beings. So yes, I'd respect my daughter's choice to become an SP. It's an important social contribution. I'd just hope she gets to work under conditions that are reasonably safe."

Ah yes of course, I heartily concur.

If I had kids, and I raised them, and fed them, and payed for their college education, and one day my daughter and I over dinner:

Me: "So you don't seem to be very focused on your studies to be a Doctor. You're going to be done in a year aren't you? How is medical school going?"

Her: "Oh well I've decided to drop out. I found something better to do"

Me: "But you were getting straight A's, then suddenly you seemed to completely lose interest and you never seem to answer the phone anymore, then I find out you're always up late at night. Now you have all these new clothes, new purse, etc. What's going on here?"

Her: "Well, if you must know, I'm probably going to stop my schooling. I've found a new career and I've been making good money."

Me: "Really? Well obviously you're doing well, I guess that's great! What is it?"

Her: "I'm a high class call girl"

Me: "You're a prostitute?"

Her: "No, I'm a call girl. A high class call girl. I am a companion to classy men, men like you daddy"

Me: "You spread your legs, suck cock, swallow their sperm and take it up the ass?"

Her: "Yes daddy. That's what I do, and I love it."

Me: "In that order?"

Her: "No sometimes I do the ass thing first before oral."

Me: "That's GREAT! Let me call my friends, they've always wanted to fuck you. Can you give them a discount for your dear old dad?"

Her: "Sure!"

Me: "I can get you lots of work, it's only right that your father help you out in your chosen career. Lots of other guys at my office would love to fuck you senseless. I'm so PROUD of you!!!!"

 

[Dgodus]

If I had kids, and I raised them, and fed them, and payed for their college education, and one day my daughter and I over dinner:

Me: "So you don't seem to be very focused on your studies to be a Doctor. You're going to be done in a year aren't you? How is medical school going?"

Her: "Oh well I've decided to drop out. I found something better to do"

Me: "But you were getting straight A's, then suddenly you seemed to completely lose interest and you never seem to answer the phone anymore, then I find out you're always up late at night. Now you have all these new clothes, new purse, etc. What's going on here?"

Her: "Well, if you must know, I'm probably going to stop my schooling. I've found a new career and I've been making good money."

Me: "Really? Well obviously you're doing well, I guess that's great! What is it?"

Her: "I'm a high class call girl"

Me: "You're a prostitute?"

Her: "No, I'm a call girl. A high class call girl. I am a companion to classy men, men like you daddy"

Me: "You spread your legs, suck cock, swallow their sperm and take it up the ass?"

Her: "Yes daddy. That's what I do, and I love it."

Me: "In that order?"

Her: "No sometimes I do the ass thing first before oral."

Me: "That's GREAT! Let me call my friends, they've always wanted to fuck you. Can you give them a discount for your dear old dad?"

Her: "Sure!"

Me: "I'm so PROUD of you!!!!"

Jesus Christ....

Oh hey now I get your handle!

 

[Sonny]

Review: I love my child with all my heart. She was my pride and joy, she is now my shame. I don't contact my dearest friends any more for fear they will ask how she is doing. I've been contacted by insane people this year because of her line of work. They put me through hell, and they are too cowardly and sick to even say who they are. All they do is torment. She says she likes manly men, but all I have known of are thugs and bullies, breathing pieces of garbage. They treat her like shit and she sucks up to them like a whipped dog. I'm depressed and I cry all the time. She's so bright and beautiful and has so much to offer the world, but she doesn't work, she doesn't go to school, she fucks. She calls me crying because her life is garbage and she wonders why. She doesn't do anything to help herself, and she seems incapable of providing the most basic of needs for herself. I used to be so proud of her, now I live my life in fear for her. Looks: face 9.5, body 10

My impression is that this piece is bogus, a fictitious creation to stir controversy.

"I love my child with all my heart. She was my pride and joy, she is now my shame." I don't buy it as authentic from the start.
Any parent who loves their child with all their heart will never say "she is my shame". Their child is always their child.
If a child is in trouble, then the loving parent is concerned and worried but never ashamed.

"Insane people... cowardly... put me through hell". Why are folks contacting this parent? To tell the parent the daughter is a prostitute?
How many callers, how many times? Why speak about it? Who cares? Nothing to do with the issue of a kid in dire straits.

"I used to be so proud of her, now I live my life in fear for her." Parental pride has nothing to do with the issue.
Other people's opinions do not matter at all. Parental shame is ego-self-centred. Love finds no room for shame.
A "loving" parent would only worry about the welfare of the daughter... only that, and that simple.

 

[the old maxx50]

I AM NOT SURE WHAT SHE DOES .. ..
or why people are contacting the parent and put them throw hell ..

They seem to think that she does not work but just fucks .. it does not say if she get payed for fucking or not or if she works for a pimp .. That would explain a lot //

But if she is escorting or SW then she is working and making money .. but she could have some other problems .. she seems to come from a family with problems if e writer is an example ..

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i'm with sonny on this one

the piece is too carefully written, presenting a 'unisex' face so as to appeal to both males and females, to be the work of either

didn't we just go through all this a week ago in the thread on whether or not prostitution was a victimless crime?

 

[wilde]

The OP points out in his introduction that he has seen the girl 3 times but would refrain in the future.

Consider me confused. The OP included the review in your 1st post which is possibly written by the SPs father or mother in a thread about this SP!?

What a load of bollocks...

 

[Justin Beaver]

What a piece of hysterical hogwash that reeks of sensationalization.

 

[Tugela]

You will notice that most of that post is not about the daughter at all, it is about the person writing it. There is a lot of judgemental negativity running through the piece.

I think that if an SP did have a parent like that, their relationship would be troubled, especially when the SP tries to explain herself to the parent. That in turn would be interpreted as her hating her life and not knowing what to do about it, when in actual fact she is really just having an issue explaining her life in a way the parent will accept.

 

[jesuschrist]

I love mother daughter duo's!

And sister-sister MFF is fun too. As in Woody Allen's movie, Love And Death: "I have come to the conclusion that the best thing [in life] is ... blonde xx-year-old girls. Two of them, whenever possible."

Yes, sex work should become socially acceptable. They should give college degrees in sex. Girls should get real sex education in high school, imagine what that would be like. "Look what I can do with a hot dog daddy!", and "I want a bachelor's degree in ass fucking when I grow up".

 

[LADY-VIA]

If you love your children unconditionally then there is no need for an ad such as that father's.

Do you cut them off if they are gay, transgendered, hooked on drugs or whatever? Not me anyways. You accept them as they are and if they come to you asking for help getting out of the place they have put themselves; then you help them.

I WAS outed to my entire family...... everyone as tianna... it was tough I felt isolated I HAD A VERY INTENSE NERVOUS BREAKDOWN.. rough I dissapeared off the map for 6 months... with time.. my family missed me so much they pretty much begged for me to come around... regardless of what I do... they realized it did not define who I am as a person... and I know that I am a good person I have a big huge heart I give back whenever I can.. Im very good to my family,, Im always there when ever anybody really needs me... when I care I care huge and passionately

I did leave the biz for 4 years... I have since come back... have I told them no !!!!

they might know they might not.. however I dont believe they will ever bring the subject up to me.. for fear of me dissapearing...( although at this point and time in my life I am very comfortable with who I am .. and if you dont like me and cant accept me.. then walk away. !!!! )

I have a very close relationship with my mother and father.. and siblings.. no word of a lie my mom texts me every single day and tells me she loves me and wishes me sweet dreams... and i talk to her all day long. Its sad when at the end of the day some people forget that we are all human beings and nobody is perfect...

sincerely true

LADY VIA xo

 

[yazoo]

You will notice that most of that post is not about the daughter at all, it is about the person writing it. There is a lot of judgemental negativity running through the piece.

Totally agree, and it is a form of judgementalism that most of us in this culture share - even those of us that would prefer to exorcise it - it's in our cultural dna.

I was reading a good op-ed from an Indian women following the recent rapes and murder in India. She was saying that the offence in India is not 'rape' but 'taking her honour'. She argued that a woman is just as honourable after as before.

We're so much more progressive in Canada, right? Yet we persist in not challenging those who refer to women as 'selling themselves' when speaking of service providers. What are those people saying - women are just empty vessels after whatever it is they are selling is sucked out of them? And what is this unsaid irreplacable thing they are selling if not their 'honour'?

An SP is not selling 'herself' any more than any other entertainer is selling themselves.

And just when we think we've gotten beyond the sexual 'honour' thing, some emotive crap like this comes along. Maybe it is contrived, maybe it is heartfelt, but regardless it says that a woman who has dishonoured herself is worthless. Lets call it for what it is, a blatent play on our cultural prejudices.

 

[Sexiaccent]

and I know that I am a good person I have a big huge heart I give back whenever I can.. Im very good to my family,, Im always there when ever anybody really needs me... when I care I care huge and passionately


Yes you are a good person with a huge heart!!!

Sincerely Yours

Sexiaccent

 

[Sonny]

that's how parents are, they want this life they envision for you, whether you want it personally or not.

Parents who truly love their children do not view them as extensions of themselves, but as individuals in their own right, with choices and aspirations of their own. Unconditional love.