update on the divorce

SamGomez

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She told everybody we knew and trashed me. Probably thought I care what people think. She made it sound like I beat her.
 

storm rider

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I dealt with something along those lines when I seperated from my now EX-wife.She blabbed to sob
story to people she worked and dealt with and got re-inforced with the opinion that I was cheating on her.
She of course did not actually tell those people the truth of what lead to the break up of the marriage
nor of her general conduct that strained the marriage over it's course...she only told those people what she
wanted them to hear.

I did not give a flying fuck when she told me their opinions and my resolve did not break when she
resorted to wearing lingerie after work for a week to break my resolve.....this nut was not for cracking.

Keep to your set course Sam and cast that bitch to the wayside....life gets batter after you cast off a parasite.

SR
 

tantalizeme

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Please keep those juicy details coming!

She told everybody we knew and trashed me. Probably thought I care what people think. She made it sound like I beat her.
Hey Sam,

Thanks for making this Board a bit more entertaining.

Sounds like you and your soon-to-be ex are still playing the game of seeing how you can hurt each other to the max.

I hope, by rubbing salt into her wounds now, you can pay her back for that disrespect she showed you during all those dreary years of marriage.

But this is primarily an escort review site, not a "dump-on-your-wife" site—so it would be nice if you reported on some of the SPs you've recently seen.

It has been a while since you regaled us with intriguing stories of a $60 poon and a spunk-filled condom bursting inside an SP who's not on the pill.

PS: And yes, I do think the best use for the $20 000 you gave your mum for safekeeping would be to hire a defamation lawyer and sue the pants off your wife...that'll teach her to respect you!
 
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steverino

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Missy, "In common law jurisdictions, slander refers to a malicious, false,[2][not specific enough to verify] and defamatory spoken statement or report, while libel refers to any other form of communication such as written words or images."
 

Flanders

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Hey Sam,

Life truly gets better and more serene when she no longer has any affect on you, good bad or otherwise.

If/when you can wish (in your thoughts at least) her a better life on her new path, it doesn't mean you are a wimpy suck. It means you really are over her, and focused more on yourself than her. Nothing more manly than that. Often, people can get stuck in the rut of thinking that loudly shouting "I'm over her!" is the same as really getting over her. Shouting might help, but if you are repeating that pattern, then maybe you really aren't over her. There are probably a few examples right here in PERB heh heh...

I'm going through the exact same thing buddy (finally got an email of a certificate of divorce just this week almost 2 years after initiating things), but have the complications of small children. I gotta say, it really is worth the effort and work of getting yourself back to a healthy mind set, otherwise you will be carrying her poison around with you. I spent years building that relationship and by the end, it really did feel like death from 1,000 cuts. Once I finally accepted that I had to end it, it came apart in pretty quickly, and that's tough to deal with even when it's the best thing for all parties involved. I said things I shouldn't have, and ultimately, those things didn't help me. That's my litmus test now. "What can I do in this situation that is going to help ME. If the answer helps her also, then whatever, but I am always working toward MY interests now. I try to avoid hurting myself even a tiny bit to get at her... That's the biggest change divorce brought me. I could get back to being me, and it has been wonderful.

And the settlement? ooof... Ironically though, that has been the best money I ever spent. Yeah, it would of been nice to learn that lesson without writing a check with two commas in it, but this was the path I took to get to my place in life.

By all means, go see escorts, party like a rock star go to Thailand, buy a motorcycle; whatever you want, this is your time man. But I would offer that shoving your newfound freedom in her face is preventing you from true freedom. I was angry too (not long ago), and that has to be worked through. I sure feel better now when I'm doing my things for ME

Then you can use Perb for it's intended use; intel on sexy ladies, K-Pop and mocking the clueless... hahaha

Good Luck man! it's cliche', but it does get better.
 
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87112

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So marriage isn't the lifesaving, gift from Jesus event that you are not a person till you get hitch miracle that my co workers preach? With a 50% failure rate and even higher in some parts of Europe, I would rather have enough money to bang SPs often and get a maid instead.
 

newatit

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This is all pretty common stuff in love and war! There is not much use of thinking of a law suit, it takes a lot of effort itself, and in the end no one else cares. Friends will forget what was said very quickly and life just moves on from there. In order to get anything out of a law suit, you pretty well have to establish damages, and loss of revenue, and the law suit itself just makes it all worse. Forget it.

Best thing to do is to just walk away from this all emotionally as a few have suggested above.
 

sevenofnine

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i kind of think if you want kids and grandchildren and all that,
marriage is the way to go
it really depends how you see life,
is this all there is,
or is there something bigger out there something,greater then ourself

and i guess relationships are a test of well house broken you are,



the best revenge on some one,
is to live a long wonderful and happy life
 

Gentle-man

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I thought slander was written and libel was verbal.

Regardless, should she find this place she's going to walk away in the divorce with a lot more than she should. You need to keep your mouth shut, stop complaining, and live discreetly until this is all over. Take every piece of dirt you have about her to your lawyer and protect yourself.
you have that backwards, print is libel
 

Tugela

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She told everybody we knew and trashed me. Probably thought I care what people think. She made it sound like I beat her.
So, let me get this right:

My ex was in shock how I just smiled and said have a nice life. When she was in the hospital I brought her food everyday for a month. What really got me was she always asked her female group for permission or approval to divorce me. Nothing I did was good enough. I went straight to a escort and I feel like a king. I felt like a prisoner before with can't eat this,watch this, travel here, how I dress etc
and:

She ask if we can be friends and I said no. That I'm done with this shit. Was constantly told where not to eat or where I can go.
then:

the ex went crazy lastnight when i showed her pics of the escorts i was with lastnight. Had 3 girls show up and had a good time. Showed the ex the ads they have on erslist . Im not a wealthy man and even at 30/h. i cannot save much money with a wife who doesnt work. She can have the beatup old car. Had 20k left in the deposit box which i gave to my mother for holding.
So now she is in mad combat mode.

You could have kept the peace until after the divorce and got it done with no fuss and probably little fallout.

Instead you chose to go the drama route with all the complications that brings???

You wanted her to be gone but you are pissed that she left, and want to hurt her as much as possible. Now she is going to hurt you as much as possible.

Seriously dude, you had the option of making this painless, but you chose the other road, and for what?
 

newatit

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You know, we all like to lose our tempers and blast out at the other person and let others know how we have been hurt. But a year from now none of this will not really matter to anyone, and people move on in their lives and kind of forget what went on with others. Think back to other incidents, you will see that is right.

So don't do anything, no one really cares, and no matter what you do, you will polariize people one way or the other, and probably not the way you want.

If you just walk away from it, cool down, and get in a position so you never see this person again or her friends, and move on, it will go away a lot faster than sitting around with it festering in your mind.

Get on a plane as soon as you can and go somewhere for two weeks, hang around the bars, the pool, make some new friends and forget this.

It is all just crap in the end.
 
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