Its my turn to ask

[87112]

Seeing we like to have questions like do girl like to give BJs and other basis man woman stuff I got one.
Never been married here. What do you do when you get sick of seeing each other, I am a loner, been one my whole life, like to take trips and be by myself 95% of the time. Dont we all have a shelf life as to how much we hold someone's love and attention. Seeing how marriage is a 50/50 win lose game I get so tired of co workers telling me to find a wife. If it wasnt for the sex who gives a %$#@ if you have a partner or not. I miss someone not cooking for me and well thats about it.

 

[the old maxx50]

Yah that is a good one honda

I have been a loner too and still like time to my self . I like someone to cook meals .. so I eat out , i know it will be good and what i want , But i like to cook with someone too .. It love that makes these thing works . Partnerships, marriages any relationship works with love for each other .. if it is one sided no it does not work .. I know people change , and trough time you actually realize about them , some good some not so. But if there is an unconditional love , you will all way find that you can be with each other . But it is all way good to realize that you each need your space , and some time get away on your own And as long as you each understand each other and let that other know exactly how you are .. then even the loner can find a partner ..

I find i have found a few women that i am comfortable with and they are comfortable with me One or two i can say i love and they have said they love me I can;t say if it is platonic love and a emotional intimate love but it would be enough for me to be in a marriage of some kind .

Most of the people i have know , as family a , and friend are married ...Most work , with ups and downs . When i was younger it was not something i thought much about , only on those occasion when i meet some one that toke my heart a way did i entertain the thoughts , But i all ways had my limitations to success .. .
I all way thought of marriage as more then just going into it because you loved someone and wanted then in your life for ever. it was more then just wanting to have sex , or even a companion . it was a partnership .. but where i think the guy on some levels has to give more then the women , when it come to making sure of supporting the family and providing a home . Yes it works better when too contribute . But the guy better be able to do it on his own some time .. a little old fashion .. and some thing that i found i never was in a position to do for sustained periods of time and i know it .. So there are few time i try to step up .

 

[Karl Blues]

Seeing we like to have questions like do girl like to give BJs and other basis man woman stuff I got one.
Never been married here. What do you do when you get sick of seeing each other, I am a loner, been one my whole life, like to take trips and be by myself 95% of the time. Dont we all have a shelf life as to how much we hold someone's love and attention. Seeing how marriage is a 50/50 win lose game I get so tired of co workers telling me to find a wife. If it wasnt for the sex who gives a %$#@ if you have a partner or not. I miss someone not cooking for me and well thats about it.

I think much depends on the couple and their relationship. Lots of couples travel together, cook together, play together (other than sex), dance together, create memories together, and talk to each other about dreams and hopes. Yes of course there is also sex, but true intimacy between a couple is beautiful and very rewarding.

And yes it's possible but it takes two very committed people.

 

[Sleepmonger]

This is a fairly hard question to answer. I'm a loner as well, but have been quite happily married since my early twenties. Do you get sick of seeing eachother? Hell yes, but a bit of alone time fixes that right up. Who says you have to do everything together?

 

[blazejowski]

Been with my SO for over 10 years, now - we sleep in separate beds, mostly because we both snore. We each have our own friends, and "couples" friends, and we watch different shows in our house at times. Just makes the time we spend together that much more fun...

 

[Ray]

Been married for over 20 years. We have times when we do our own thing apart, sometimes together. You can't be with just each other every single time.
No different from being out with friends. Can't do it all day, every day.

 

[LADY-VIA]

I believe its very easy to get sick of someone when you are stuck with them all the time.. and dont have separate lives and just mold into this mushed coombination of of one person and lose your own individual identities... just as when women become wives and then mothers.. and then whats left after that... many lose themselves all togther... honestly i hate sharing a room and full time bed with a man. We all have our own rooms and closets.. and way about getting ready for bed, so why should we give it all up just because we move in with someone or get married. When I get married or get into another serious relationship.. Im terribly sorry but he has to have his own room. We can have sleep overs and such... however I dont want his man junk in my room... I dont want his dirty clothes or socks on my floor or in my basket... I dont want his big body all over my bed.. he can do what ever he pleases in his man room.. and keep it as messy or clean as he likes... and believe me.. IM NOT CLEANING IT OR PICKING UP AFTER HIM.

 

[InTheBum]

Seeing we like to have questions like do girl like to give BJs and other basis man woman stuff I got one.
Never been married here. What do you do when you get sick of seeing each other, I am a loner, been one my whole life, like to take trips and be by myself 95% of the time. Dont we all have a shelf life as to how much we hold someone's love and attention. Seeing how marriage is a 50/50 win lose game I get so tired of co workers telling me to find a wife. If it wasnt for the sex who gives a %$#@ if you have a partner or not. I miss someone not cooking for me and well thats about it.

Sounds to me like you should just stay single.

 

[InTheBum]

I believe its very easy to get sick of someone when you are stuck with them all the time.. and dont have separate lives and just mold into this mushed coombination of of one person and lose your own individual identities... just as when women become wives and then mothers.. and then whats left after that... many lose themselves all togther... honestly i hate sharing a room and full time bed with a man. We all have our own rooms and closets.. and way about getting ready for bed, so why should we give it all up just because we move in with someone or get married. When I get married or get into another serious relationship.. Im terribly sorry but he has to have his own room. We can have sleep overs and such... however I dont want his man junk in my room... I dont want his dirty clothes or socks on my floor or in my basket... I dont want his big body all over my bed.. he can do what ever he pleases in his man room.. and keep it as messy or clean as he likes... and believe me.. IM NOT CLEANING IT OR PICKING UP AFTER HIM.

Lady Via I agree 100%! I seriously can't stand sleeping next to a woman. I need my own room so I can sleep properly. Nothing more annoying than someone stealing the covers or putting a knee in your back in the middle of the night!

 

[Tugela]

Seeing we like to have questions like do girl like to give BJs and other basis man woman stuff I got one.
Never been married here. What do you do when you get sick of seeing each other, I am a loner, been one my whole life, like to take trips and be by myself 95% of the time. Dont we all have a shelf life as to how much we hold someone's love and attention. Seeing how marriage is a 50/50 win lose game I get so tired of co workers telling me to find a wife. If it wasnt for the sex who gives a %$#@ if you have a partner or not. I miss someone not cooking for me and well thats about it.

The point of getting married is to have a family and share your life with someone. If sex is the only thing you want from it, you are better off not doing it, because otherwise sooner or later you are going to regret it.

Under no circumstances get married just because it is expected of you or friends and family are pressuring you to do it. That is a recipe for an unhappy life sometime in the future.

 

[way.tomuch]

Lady D,, wanna get married ?

 

[LADY-VIA]

really ... hmm i think about it... let me sleep on it k

 

[Marissa Lee]

I do not believe that marriage, kids, a white picket fence and all that BS is right for everyone.

But IMHO, when you find someone who enhances your life, in the ways which matter most to you, maybe they are worth keeping around?

 

[Dgodus]

Open sharing relationship isn't a problem. Someone who wants monogamy and is a "harsh scandalous flirt" is a big problem.

 

[lenny]

Seeing we like to have questions like do girl like to give BJs and other basis man woman stuff I got one.
Never been married here. What do you do when you get sick of seeing each other, I am a loner, been one my whole life, like to take trips and be by myself 95% of the time. Dont we all have a shelf life as to how much we hold someone's love and attention. Seeing how marriage is a 50/50 win lose game I get so tired of co workers telling me to find a wife. If it wasnt for the sex who gives a %$#@ if you have a partner or not. I miss someone not cooking for me and well thats about it.

Maybe try having an occasional or PT "live out" GF first and see how that suits you, before jumping into marriage from being a life long loner (LLL). Or if you are happy being a LLL forever, why let others' opinions bother you?

Eating out (or hiring a nude cook) could solve the having "someone cook for you" matter.

 

[blackcad]

Where do you find these guys who are open to sharing?

I don't think any man, would be OK with sharing, especially deep down, and if he was, he's really going against every instinct preserved from stone-age times. I would think that a man like that...would be weak...and less of a man for it.....just my opinion. Others will disagree I'm sure. To be OK with your SO having sex with other men when you aren't around is pretty hard for me to imagine. I could never do it. Jealousy, anger...base instincts would take over me. Swinging perhaps though.....because you're only doing it together...exploring your sexualities together....and nothing is hidden from the other. That might be a lot of fun.

As far as an open relationship goes, that could work, as long as it's just a friends with benefits things.....once a guy has feelings for a girl however...the male instincts tend to wash over everything.

 

[blackcad]

I consider cheating to be what I wouldn't be able to do in front of my SO. I was born a flirt and I'll die a flirt, it's mostly in my mannerisms and it can't be helped. However, there is obviously a line where flirting crosses into cheating and where that line is drawn depends on the relationship I am in. I am not a jealous person and would be turned on to be with my SO at a party and see him talking and flirting with women but was always coming home to me. But, I am currently single and I can flirt (and more) to my heart's desire!

I agree...flirting is fun....makes you feel virile and alive. I love to flirt.....I'm pretty good at it....probably because I don't need to try to seal the deal. But sex when you SO is not around....argh....not my cup of tea. Swinging however, I wouldn't mind trying one day. It could be an ideal situation if your SO is OK with it.

 

[lenny]

I don't think any man, would be OK with sharing, especially deep down, and if he was, he's really going against every instinct preserved from stone-age times. I would think that a man like that...would be weak...and less of a man for it.....just my opinion. Others will disagree I'm sure. To be OK with your SO having sex with other men when you aren't around is pretty hard for me to imagine. I could never do it. Jealousy, anger...base instincts would take over me. Swinging perhaps though.....because you're only doing it together...exploring your sexualities together....and nothing is hidden from the other. That might be a lot of fun.

As far as an open relationship goes, that could work, as long as it's just a friends with benefits things.....once a guy has feelings for a girl however...the male instincts tend to wash over everything.

I think variety is the spice of life, so i'd want my SO to have the freedom to enjoy that too, if she so desired. If you wanted her happiness & that made her happy, it should logicly rule out base instincts like jealousy, if you really love her.

As for swinging, if i were the jealous type, i'd rather her do other guys without me seeing it or hearing about it.

 

[Dgodus]

Meh, only women I flirt with that I'm not actually trying to sleep with are friends, and then really the flirting is in a joking manner. Alot of female friends do it as they like the attention, or makes them feel attractive. We're doing it for different reasons. My reasons tend to become "bad, cheating things" (as flirting, real flirting, for me would never come to any fulfillment) and I lose out on something whereas you get to keep your enjoyments. Personally cheating to me is something done behind anothers back without their knowledge. An open relationship is something that is just that open. Things of a physical nature I dont considered cheating if they've been earmarked as "ok" by both parties. It's the emotional side of things I view as important in a relationship ie If I have to go put my dog down are you going to be available for some support, will that someone be around to help celebrate a triumph? And of course vice versa. I dont view sex as something solely intimate, there are intimate things within the act, but not in and of itself - I think alot of people bundle it all up as intimacy (for me a passionate emotional kiss can be much more cheating than 3 hours of sport fucking). I dont require open or a monogamous relationship one way or the other, I just require "ground rules" be fairly evident and they be equal.

As for that BS of someone allowing his mate to have sex with another being weak, and a man's primal nature should take over. You do realize that if you cant control your "base/primal instincts" (btw you cant convince me these aren't looooooong gone through evolution making them no longer necessary) you are actually the weak one as you dont have the strength of will to be logical/rational over an issue and immediatly drop into a purely emotional response. Personally if my physical needs are met, my emotional needs are met, (of course I'm saying these are provided for her as well), I'm afforded the same luxury, and we both prefer that a good portion of the time we choose with other people is spent with each other; then if sexual freedom is something she desires I've no problem with her having it. I'm secure enough in my manhood, my physical nature, my mental nature, and my emotional nature to deal with it or walk away if the situation becomes something that isn't working. So which is it, are you weak willed and unable to control your "baser nature" or are you just insecure in yourself?

 

[Larry Storch]

As for that BS of someone allowing his mate to have sex with another being weak, and a man's primal nature should take over. You do realize that if you cant control your "base/primal instincts" (btw you cant convince me these aren't looooooong gone through evolution making them no longer necessary) you are actually the weak one as you dont have the strength of will to be logical/rational over an issue and immediatly drop into a purely emotional response. Personally if my physical needs are met, my emotional needs are met, (of course I'm saying these are provided for her as well), I'm afforded the same luxury, and we both prefer that a good portion of the time we choose with other people is spent with each other; then if sexual freedom is something she desires I've no problem with her having it. I'm secure enough in my manhood, my physical nature, my mental nature, and my emotional nature to deal with it or walk away if the situation becomes something that isn't working. So which is it, are you weak willed and unable to control your "baser nature" or are you just insecure in yourself?

Wow.
Harsh.
Because you don't agree with the way he feels about relationships he would be in, you label him as weak willed or insecure?
Really?
Talk about not being able to control your "baser nature".