delayed / retarded ejaculation

maison

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i'm hoping to get some professional input here.

The signs actually came on years ago, with all my previous ex GFs i've never ejaculated having sex with them but i never thought much of it because the experiences weren't great. Until very recently, flags were raised when i started seeing escorts . I had my first 2 experiences both with VERY attractive ladies and both were great experiences. I went for 1 hour sessions and both times I didn't ejaculate. I have no problem staying erected and I can ejaculate with masturbation. I looked into this and found a condition call delayed / retarded ejaculation. Some suggests that it could be psychological or conditional; the latter is where you've masturbated for years and you have become accustomed to the feeling of your hands. Additionally the stroking motion from your own hand also tends to be more vigorous. I masturbate about every other day or every other 2 days, but ever since i started looking into this i've stopped it all at once and i'm hoping it will work a month down the road with another SP. I'm a young guy in his mid 20s, very healthy lifestyle (workout daily) and a great diet. I don't think its psychological but rather conditional since i can ejaculate when i masturbate.
 
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i'm hoping to get some professional input here.

The signs actually came on years ago, with all my previous ex GFs i've never ejaculated having sex with them but i never thought much of it because the experiences weren't great. Until very recently, flags were raised when i started seeing escorts . I had my first 2 experiences both with VERY attractive ladies and both were great experiences. I went for 1 hour sessions and both times I didn't ejaculate. I have no problem staying erected and I can ejaculate with masturbation. I looked into this and found a condition call delayed / retarded ejaculation. Some suggests that it could be psychological or conditional; the latter is where you've masturbated for years and you have become accustomed to the feeling of your hands. Additionally the stroking motion from your own hand also tends to be more vigorous. I masturbate about every other day or every other 2 days, but ever since i started looking into this i've stopped it all at once and i'm hoping it will work a month down the road with another SP. I'm a young guy in his mid 20s, very healthy lifestyle (workout daily) and a great diet. I don't think its psychological but rather conditional since i can ejaculate when i masturbate.



Hi Maison

This is not an area I have experience in but I can give you a bit of information and some contact details for people who specialize in this area.

Delayed ejaculation can be caused by a number of different causes such as medical (medical conditions or the side effect of certain medication) and psychological (relationship, stress, fatigue etc…). I have also talked with a number of men who also thought that their delayed ejaculation was related to how they masturbated.

What you describe does make sense (conditional) given that your body has been trained for years to ejaculate given a certain type of stimuli e.g. masturbating a certain way. I think that you have a good plan to try. Maybe a certain type of sexual position will give you better stimulus. I also find that some men can find the female condoms helpful as it seems to have a different feeling than the male condom.

It also sounds like you have a good way of thinking about the situation. You said that you had a great experience with the two escorts you saw which is a nice way to look at sex. Sometimes being too goal orientated towards sex e.g. I have to get an erection, I have to cum etc… can put a lot of pressure on people and increase the chance that things may not go well. Being able to feel that you enjoyed the experience can help decrease the pressure.

Here is a link for people who want more information on delayed ejaculation.
http://www.aboutmen.ca/health-areas...enis-health/sexual-health/delayed-ejaculation

Maison if you are unhappy with how things progress you can always see a sex counselor for more personal advice. Here is a link for local sex counselors.

http://healthnurse.wordpress.com/fa...0-chatting-with-a-sex-counselor-or-therapist/


For other people reading this post it may be helpful to first see a medical doctor to see if any medical conditions or medication side effects could be causing the problem.


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