Fellow Perbites, don't be selfish...

[Asianwomanlover]

I wanted to express my disappointment with some of my fellow Perbites, handles unknown.

Last week, I did an apparent TOFFT with Olivia (ERS 5902). I enjoyed the experience and went back today. It was as enjoyable as the first. During the massage, though, she asked me if I had reviewed her on Perb as I told her I would. She then tells me some of her regulars called her to ask if it was her being reviewed. She said yes, then asked them why they had not reviewed her. They told her they wanted to keep her for themselves, the selfish SOB's!

When you come on a site like PERB, there is a little give and take being expected. Some pooners will regularly TOFTT and report their findings. Tantalizeme first comes to mind. Many of us have enjoyed reading his exploits, and profited by them. His reviews have saved many of us some money, time, and embarassment. If you profit from the site this way, then it is only fair to report your findings as well, not selfishly keep a gem to yourself.

What do you fellow Perbites think of those pooners who won't share good info?

 

[Holly Taylor]

It must be tough to be in the client's position. On the one hand, you are gaining information and insight from reviews that have already been posted by others, so it would be nice to reciprocate the favour. On the other hand, if you contribute by writing a review - especially a glowing one - then the provider might become more popular and less available to you. I can understand the selfish element.

The whole review process is certainly strange, in my experience. I've been a companion for about 6 years, and I think I have less than 10 reviews! Either people love me and want to keep me all to themselves (hehe!), or I am just attracting clientele from an advertising venue other than PERB.

Overall, I think it's probably more important that bad experiences are shared. If a lady is ripping people off, or using false advertising, then it should be reported to the community. I would tend to assume that a shortage of reviews on a provider who has been in business for a while is probably not a bad sign, and is likely a good sign.

Therefore, it's probably not a very big deal that your friend Oliva doesn't have a plethora of positive reviews. It sounds like the lack of reviews is actually revealing of something positive, and I'm sure that the astute "Perbert" is aware of this

 

[Asianwomanlover]

Hello, Holly. You have a point about the fact that a lack of reviews about an SP who has been around for a while may be a good thing. If her services were not satisfactory, we would certainly hear about it here. On the other hand, the SP might like the extra clientele a good review might bring her.

I'll admit the thought did cross my mind not to post a review, but felt it was more community-minded to share my experience.

To review a good SP or not to review? Quite the conundrum.

 

[Dgodus]

I'm not opposed to being asked for a review, otherwise im probably not chiming in unless what I experience differs from the existing reviews. I also tend to stick to more well known travellers with an already existing abundance of reviews.

Personally I'd rather the ladies I enjoy spending time with are as busy as they want to be; as I'm not an "impulse buyer" and book ahead as soon as I know theyre coming I'm not concerned with not getting a date and they'll keep coming back if they book solid there. Don't want them getting discouraged and retiring either.

 

[tantalizeme]

Last week, I did an apparent TOFFT with Olivia (ERS 5902). I enjoyed the experience and went back today. It was as enjoyable as the first. During the massage, though, she asked me if I had reviewed her on Perb as I told her I would. She then tells me some of her regulars called her to ask if it was her being reviewed. She said yes, then asked them why they had not reviewed her. They told her they wanted to keep her for themselves, the selfish SOB's!

What do you fellow Perbites think of those pooners who won't share good info?

Hey AWL,

Thanks for your praise (blush). Can I use you as a reference for my next job application?

4 main reasons come to mind why most pooners never (or rarely) review—even among those who consult review boards, who're probably in the minority.

1. Sheer lethargy. Typing out a review takes effort, and pooners generally are hedonists who ask themselves, "Why put in effort if it's not pleasurable?" Some may also let insecurity about their writing stop them from posting reviews.

2. Guilt feelings. Pooning is a bit of a taboo-breaking hobby, and there're still pooners with a sense of guilt, especially if they're sneaking around behind their wife's back. The last thing on their minds is to compound their guilt feelings by reviewing.

3. Fear. I've talked to several pooners who don't review because—they told me—they're afraid their identity might become known, resulting in embarrassment or worse. Some pooners share a computer at home or at work, and they fear others might spy on their computer use. Others fear that their IP address can easily be traced back to them by God knows who (e.g. the cops).

4. A scarcity mentality. As has been mentioned, pooners who find a jewel like Olivia or Holly often prefer to keep her as much as possible to themselves, rather than sharing her with the horde of lurkers on PERB.

I'm going to make a confession, AWL: it's not just out of the unselfish goodness of my heart that I frequently review.

Pervert that I am, I personally find writing SP reviews fun. I've always been a bit of a renegade who enjoys flouting taboos. I feel no guilt about this hobby and little concern about being identified or embarrassed. I often quite freely admit, in conversations with people, to spicing up my sex life with SPs.

And I certainly don't have a scarcity mentality about SPs. There're many more out there, including good ones, than I could ever hope to keep in business all by myself. So I'm happy to share whatever info I have.

Writing—and reading—reviews also provides an incentive to reflect on the pitfalls and complexities of the world's most amazing hobby and hopefully learn from my (and others') mistakes.

But perhaps the main benefit of writing reviews, for me, is that doing so helps me achieve a kind of catharsis. By stating thoughts that society tells us to repress, I seem to experience strangely pleasurable psychological relief.

Sorry, AWL, to disillusion you. Hope you'll forgive my writing reviews for selfish reasons.

 

[Elmore]

I would tend to assume that a shortage of reviews on a provider who has been in business for a while is probably not a bad sign, and is likely a good sign.

Therefore, it's probably not a very big deal that your friend Oliva doesn't have a plethora of positive reviews. It sounds like the lack of reviews is actually revealing of something positive, and I'm sure that the astute "Perbert" is aware of this

I disagree with this. I tend to think people who are not concerned about accessibility to their regular will write reviews when the experience is exceptional. Conversely, negative reviews are generally written about really bad experiences. In my opinion, a lack of reviews, positive or negative, reflects an escort providing average service...nothing worth reporting.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

...On the other hand, if you contribute by writing a review - especially a glowing one - then the provider might become more popular and less available to you. I can understand the selfish element.

The whole review process is certainly strange, in my experience. I've been a companion for about 6 years, and I think I have less than 10 reviews! Either people love me and want to keep me all to themselves (hehe!), or I am just attracting clientele from an advertising venue other than PERB.

Overall, I think it's probably more important that bad experiences are shared. If a lady is ripping people off, or using false advertising, then it should be reported to the community. I would tend to assume that a shortage of reviews on a provider who has been in business for a while is probably not a bad sign, and is likely a good sign.

Completely agree...one day someone will do the math...6 years and still going strong does say something about the provider's popularity.

...In my opinion, a lack of reviews, positive or negative, reflects an escort providing average service...nothing worth reporting.

This perspective might actually prevent someone from having a few more really great experiences in their pooning life. I wouldn't judge the quantity, I'd judge the quality of the experience shared in the reviews, however few they were in number.

 

[Elmore]

Completely agree...one day someone will do the math...6 years and still going strong does say something about the provider's popularity.

There is an abundance of women known for not just average service but awful service who have been in the industry much longer than 6 years.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

I disagree with this. I tend to think people who are not concerned about accessibility to their regular will write reviews when the experience is exceptional. Conversely, negative reviews are generally written about really bad experiences. In my opinion, a lack of reviews, positive or negative, reflects an escort providing average service...nothing worth reporting.

I think some of you guys fail to consider that there is a much larger number of men who simply do not care to review at all.

Some may contribute in other sections like the lounge but the majority are simply lurkers. There are men who feel weird about the idea of reviews and especially get turned off by some of the really graphic, crude and in some cases, mean reviews that some people post. They empathize with the sp's, it just doesn't feel right to them and many simply decide not to participate in it at all. Many also believe that there is lots of shilling that goes unnoticed and that many reviews are embellished. They get the impression that some are just a means for the reviewer to stroke his ego by exaggerating his exploits.


I haven't read anything from the reviews section in months (mostly because it was too frustrating to read some of the rude comments that can be posted there, without being allowed to post a reply myself because the review was for another sp - so I don't read them at all anymore and I'm sure it must have lowered my blood pressure quite considerably as a result! lol) but it seemed that perb members who tend to stick to micros represented the majority of reviewers. (I'm not implying it's either good or bad - just an observation.) That's why the number of reviews really depends more on whether the clients an sp sees are even reviewers at all, which many simply aren't.


I don't think there's anything necessarily selfish about not reviewing and there are lots of other reasons that have nothing to do with the sp's service that influence how many reviews are written. Some men place a lot of value on reviews before they see someone and therefore feel it's important to write them as well. But some men don't feel right about writing them or don't really take reviews seriously or trust them to begin with.


There's also the fact that it can be difficult to write one without being called a shill, if you're not an active member and have no posting history.

 

[bcneil]

The thing about reviews and seeing sps in general. 95% of sessions are fine and always ymmv situations.
So what are we really sharing?

Yes I went to SP xyz. I paid the rate she lists on her website......we did several of the acts she lists as her services......her pictures are current and accurate.

Anything other than that is just opinion. But if you did leave a review like that, everyone would be all sulky.
"doesn't say enough"

Many guys don't really care to try to write a short porn story for you about their latest session.

If something is strange or you got robbed, then or course this should be shared with the boys.
But needing to know my opinion of girl xyz's deepthroat technique????

 

[Dgodus]

Yup alot of reviews got mismailed here instead of penthouse forum.

I also never got rid of the feeling of "you're making us look bad asshole" when someone in the locker room (I played sports year round) decide to go over every little detail of a woman's pussy - cause we all know civilians love having every facet of their body talked about in depth to 30 or so horny boys.

Especially fond of the ones trying to be poet. "we made sweet music, until our lust rose in a all encompassing crescendo!". I sound like a cat bringing up a hairball on those. Please just play your Wagner and jerk off in the corner on your own, as you're providing no relevant information whatsoever (other than those of that realize you're probably really good at typing with one hand). Yuck.

Mind you something fuzzythumper writes up can be worth the read lol.