a question of experience

[donovan12345]

I turned 62 recently and I want to put this out there on behalf of us older guys. I would appreciate if the SP's would tell me what us "experienced" boys should realistically expect from them on a date. You can reply to the thread or send me a PM.

In my case, a true GFE.. (this means DATY, DFK, and a lot of intimacy) is what I am looking for. I understand the concept of YMMV and as a result I make sure my hygiene is impeccable, that I am respectful, that I display my sense of humor, I make sure my SP knows what I am looking for in advance, and I act like a gentleman on my dates.

In spite of this, I often find the younger women I see hold back..the GFE is not as intimate as I would like it to be and I often leave somewhat disappointed. Now don't get me wrong..the more research I have done has resulted in a lot of really hot and wonderful dates and I make sure that those women are aware of my appreciation of what they give of themselves. Some of you put an "upwards" age restriction on you website and I appreciate that you do that to save us both a lot of time and effort trying to make something out of nothing.

I guess I'd like to know how you as individuals (most SP's being 20's to mid-30's) honestly feel about being intimate with a man of my age and what could make it more comfortable with you. It's important to me to know because I can think of nothing that would make me happier than to be active into my 80's!!!

Thanks in advance/D

 

[threepeat]

IMHO, you have pretty much answered your question

 

[Holly Taylor]

It isn't really possible for me to respond on behalf of all escorts in their 20s-30s. However, I can share some of my personal insights with you.

First of all, I believe that this is less about age, and more about finding the right connection. For those of us who don't have an age preference or restriction, I think that finding the experience you're looking for is more a matter of chemistry. To find this connection, you might have to keep visiting different ladies until you meet the right one.

Secondly, I think you have to find someone who really loves to provide the kinds of services you're seeking. Some ladies love kissing, while others might be offering that service because it's expected in a GFE. I guess there's no way for you to know for sure what the lady truly likes to do, but I think you can get a pretty good sense from reviews. If a lady is always reviewed as being friendly and into the session, that would be a really good sign.

Finally, keep up the good work with communication, taking care of hygiene, etc. All of that is going to help to create the best experience possible

 

[Elmore]

Just speaking for myself. If I was 60, I would probably be looking for experiences with women in their 40s and older. But I understand that as the OP mentioned, the majority of escorts are under 30 so options can be limited.

 

[Dickson]

Just speaking for myself. If I was 60, I would probably be looking for experiences with women in their 40s and older. But I understand that as the OP mentioned, the majority of escorts are under 30 so options can be limited.

I am not 60 yet but I find that there are more and more ladies in thier 40's out there. I tend to stay away from the 20 crowd. I spend my time with older SPs because I can relate to them they can relate to me. I like to take them to dinner and I really do not want people stairring at us. In that case if I am with a younger SP I treat the sP as a personal assistant or a lady that works for me.

I too am looking for the intimate connection. I like to be seduced, I like it when they give me thier best come fuck me eyes. I want them to be totally into me. I want them to come on to me. It is very hard for a 20 something to provide that because it feels like a father daughter situation and that is just ugly.

During the personal time together it is important to be clear if all you want is the DATY and DFK then that is not a big deal. I want more than that so I need to share that with my SP and normally it is not a problem. I know when we meet if it will be an issue or not. If she is into me or not.

So I personally do not hang out with that younger crowd as we have very little in common.

 

[Elmore]

I am not 60 yet but I find that there are more and more ladies in thier 40's out there. I tend to stay away from the 20 crowd. I spend my time with older SPs because I can relate to them they can relate to me. I like to take them to dinner and I really do not want people stairring at us. In that case if I am with a younger SP I treat the sP as a personal assistant or a lady that works for me.

I too am looking for the intimate connection. I like to be seduced, I like it when they give me thier best come fuck me eyes. I want them to be totally into me. I want them to come on to me. It is very hard for a 20 something to provide that because it feels like a father daughter situation and that is just ugly.

During the personal time together it is important to be clear if all you want is the DATY and DFK then that is not a big deal. I want more than that so I need to share that with my SP and normally it is not a problem. I know when we meet if it will be an issue or not. If she is into me or not.

So I personally do not hang out with that younger crowd as we have very little in common.

I agree. Some may argue and suggest differently but when it comes to seemingly real and genuine GFE, I think the pooner needs to take the age difference into consideration.

 

[sevenofnine]

being an older guy
but you know its up to you,

i have been with porn star girls, and we just ripped clothes and went for it. very little communication well until after she asked me to stay for drinks.

i have been with younger girls. late twenties or early thirty,
you know every girl is different
it depends what you want and your budget, but you can find a women for it.

but im older, and well i like supper dates and to talk and well i enjoy the women the conversation the friendship
its not necessary a romance or a seduction, the women i see, well we have been doing this along time,
and well we just share our life, but well only a few hours at a time,
it would be a seduction a rommance but well life sometimes gets complicated, and well, we still see each other, i mean no matter what,
and well some times we just need a glass of wine to unwind and talk, and i guess were pretty open with each other, and have known each other a long time, so we have no secrets, so i guess what im trying to say seduction would be nice, but sometimes when your having a tough day it well it doesn't happen, but a glass of wine and some talk or some food puts us in the mood.

i guess some people would think this is stupid, you pay for sex, what are you doing having supper, and drinks, and well just unwinding, and well sharing your life with some one,
but i think its more the stage of life your in,
when i was younger it was just sex don't need any other crap, or distraction
i guess i still don't but you know

but when i was younger a women was just a collection of body parts to use,

now my focus is well on the women, its what i enjoy, getting to know some one the good and the bad, then well i find intmacy i just get so horny, and wound up,

i guess what im trying to say, its all there, pretty much every experiance you want is out there,
but you have to find the right women for what you want.
its hard to like take a girl who is not into long suppers or romantic evenings if she is not into it, at least with you, or the other way around just wild sex no talking, i mean she most likely will she wants your money,
but some girls are well more suited to certain kinds of encounters, or enjoy it more,

 

[sensualsixty]

My take on suitable escorts: First, let me explain that my name no longer fits - sensual, I hope, but sixty is in the past. I usually seek indepenants, which allows for a telephone conversation in which I ask directly about how the SP feels about dealing with older gentlemen. Many say they prefer them because they are more thoughtful and more gentle. My last encounter was with a 27 year old, and it was classic GFE. Even tossed in BBBJ, which was normally an extra. One a couple of months ago was with a girl in her early 20's (I wondered if good judgements had gone out the window) but again there was a "connectiion". In the final analysis, I guess it is all about chemistry. Good reviews and a positive phone conversation have been a good, but not infallable, indicator of success.

sensualsixty

 

[PlayfulAlex]

...but some girls are well more suited to certain kinds of encounters, or enjoy it more

Agreed...as always, research goes a long way because everyone is looking for their own unique type of experience. I imagine that, if a fella made 10 phone calls or sent 10 e-mails, he'd have a pretty good read on the possibilities between himself and any of those 10 ladies. And, if not, I'd say try 10 more! It's an investment of time, and all part of the hobby!

 

[Ms. Yoko Anna]

As a girl who actually have seen you, Donovan, you are very charming and playful.

I think suggesting older/more mature women to someone who likes companionship of young women may not work.
I always thought people have a sort of soul age that stays in themselves regardless of how old they actually are.

I don't want to come across that spiritual, but I I'd believe there is such a thing. (may be from my Shinto background?)
Actual age that you count every year. Mental age that represent how mature you are inside.
And should age to represent how young/old your spirit is.
I am saying this because I noticed a lot of older clients have a very young attitude like they are in mid twenties.
They are not immature, perfectly reasonable and functional in the society as a senior citizens, but they still have this youthful attitude as if they are only a bit older than me. They are just young and fresh inside in positive way.

So, Donovan may have this young spirit, which I thought he actaully does, and the spirit seeks women of his soul age.

Now back to his question, some girls do have issue with serving to much older gentlemen.
62 is not very old in this industry. I have seen many of those who are in their 70s, some in 80s, I can for sure say I had handful guys who were in their 90s.

The best way to avoid the awkward moments is to give girls heads up of your age.
Most ikely they won't turn you down, but some who has the age restriction would say so.

When you meet the girl in person finally, just hope you will click with her, I guess. It is not in your control, nor hers.
Some girls are easily click-able. Keep hitting the ball till you score some girl like that?

I cannot represent girls of my age range, I'm pretty click-able person.
And I don't think girls can answer if they can connect with you or not at the time of booking.
Me personally, I much prefer having companionship of older men than teenagers.
Even in my business, I struggle more to find common topics with 19years-old.

(you can always come back to my little place to laugh at my painting job. *wink*)

 

[sevenofnine]

i agree with ms yogo

give the lady a heads up tell her your age and general fitness level and race, etc etc
and perhaps a description of what you have in mind though some ladies, would rather not discuss intimate details they find it rude perhaps or maybe afraid of legal things
so be polite but tell her what you kind of like or have in mind.
and politely offer her the option of declining you, with no hard feelings if she well
finds you not to her liking

i actually think communication and honesty is the best policy, always,
take care of your end, and hope the other person does to

you know honestly every kind of experiance is availble out there,
i think the mistake is well to find some girl and ask her to do well what she isn't comfortable with, or maybe just with you,
or to not communicate what you have in mind.

and to be honest some girls are easier to talk to then others, its all about the chemistry,