Getting ripped off, but not by SP's.....

[blazejowski]

Question for you guys...

Having been a pooner for quite a few years, I find myself speaking to my female friends about my experiences, which invariably leads to the question, "would you do it if someone asked?" Sometimes they say yes, sometimes no. If they are okay with the idea, I tend to explore it, and sometimes it leads to an agreement.

I have done this several times, with varying results, and a few times it has led to some amazing sex that I would have not gotten otherwise. But then again, sometimes I get ripped off when I foolishly pay early. This has led to a few friendships that have ended. Anyhoo, I know I am not the first pooner to do this, I am just curious about other pooners experiences, and how it worked out.

The last time I paid a friend of mine considerable money, which led to a great session. She needed money for Xmas, so I paid her for a session ahead of time (mostly because she was gonna fulfill a fantasy of mine), and lo and behold when I asked her when we could meet up yesterday, surprise surprise, she is dating someone now, and blah blah blah don't feel comfortable...

So bye bye money.... you'd think I would learn by now....

Thoughts and experiences, fellas??

 

[blazejowski]

Um, if you paid for it and she didn't come through, it's time for the money to be refunded. Or perhaps an email to the new BF, so he knows what kind of "lady" he's got there.

I am not that type of guy... besides, she could easily call my SO and spill the beans. Worst part is she offered to pay me back little by little, but she's a single mom, going to get her GED, and currently on welfare. I don't see the point of going after her for it, I have enough to worry about it. She also did offer to make it up to me by shoveling my walk, etc, but try explaining that to my SO. Anyhow, I just told her to forget about it - call it a life lesson learned.

I am just peeved because she assured me (before this all happened) that she wasn't in this to rip me off, and then a week later this BF shows up.

 

[blazejowski]

Ok, I didn't have all the info/details. Under those conditions, walk away is the right choice. However, the best choice, no money changes hands until the session!

Sadly I believed her... but with double J tits, I guess Little Blaze did my thinking.... lol
But at least I saw her once...

But I refuse to let this happen to me again....

 

[bcneil]

How much cash exactly? Probably best to forget and walk away.
She doesnt seem to have the ability to pay you back, even if she felt wrong and wanted to.
Lessen learned

 

[blazejowski]

How much cash exactly? Probably best to forget and walk away.
She doesnt seem to have the ability to pay you back, even if she felt wrong and wanted to.
Lessen learned

It was 250 - not big deal. I just paid more than that for 15 minutes of shitty sex with an SP I won't name a few weeks ago

 

[Holly Taylor]

I know it's bad that the OP lost his money, but it sounds like this woman was in a really desperate position and made some choices that she didn't think through. I can't imagine being a single mom on welfare who is trying to give her kids a nice Christmas. It must be really difficult.

Maybe she really intended to go through with it, and then when the time came, she realized that the idea made her feel really uncomfortable.

It's a loss, yes, but walking away and chalking it up to a bad decision all around was really the best thing the OP could do.

 

[blazejowski]

I know it's bad that the OP lost his money, but it sounds like this woman was in a really desperate position and made some choices that she didn't think through. I can't imagine being a single mom on welfare who is trying to give her kids a nice Christmas. It must be really difficult.

Maybe she really intended to go through with it, and then when the time came, she realized that the idea made her feel really uncomfortable.

It's a loss, yes, but walking away and chalking it up to a bad decision all around was really the best thing the OP could do.

Very true, Holly, but I have to interject - I did see her a few months earlier.
This was for a second session....

 

[Holly Taylor]

Very true, Holly, but I have to interject - I did see her a few months earlier.
This was for a second session....

Ohhh, I see. I missed that. That does make it a bit more likely that she was taking advantage, then...

 

[luvsdaty]

This sounds like something LAG would do?ound:To answer your question, I've never done it.I can't even imagine any reason why i would do it? I mean if a friend needed money i would just give it to them, no strings attached.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

Question for you guys...

Having been a pooner for quite a few years, I find myself speaking to my female friends about my experiences, which invariably leads to the question, "would you do it if someone asked?" Sometimes they say yes, sometimes no. If they are okay with the idea, I tend to explore it, and sometimes it leads to an agreement.

I have done this several times, with varying results, and a few times it has led to some amazing sex that I would have not gotten otherwise. But then again, sometimes I get ripped off when I foolishly pay early. This has led to a few friendships that have ended. Anyhoo, I know I am not the first pooner to do this, I am just curious about other pooners experiences, and how it worked out.

The last time I paid a friend of mine considerable money, which led to a great session. She needed money for Xmas, so I paid her for a session ahead of time (mostly because she was gonna fulfill a fantasy of mine), and lo and behold when I asked her when we could meet up yesterday, surprise surprise, she is dating someone now, and blah blah blah don't feel comfortable...

So bye bye money.... you'd think I would learn by now....

Thoughts and experiences, fellas??

just think of yourself as santa claus!

 

[blazejowski]

just think of yourself as santa claus!

I dunno, I sure didn't feel jolly afterwards

 

[vancity_cowboy]

I dunno, I sure didn't feel jolly afterwards

yeh, sounds like you didn't get to feel ANYTHING!

 

[Tugela]

Question for you guys...

Having been a pooner for quite a few years, I find myself speaking to my female friends about my experiences, which invariably leads to the question, "would you do it if someone asked?" Sometimes they say yes, sometimes no. If they are okay with the idea, I tend to explore it, and sometimes it leads to an agreement.

I have done this several times, with varying results, and a few times it has led to some amazing sex that I would have not gotten otherwise. But then again, sometimes I get ripped off when I foolishly pay early. This has led to a few friendships that have ended. Anyhoo, I know I am not the first pooner to do this, I am just curious about other pooners experiences, and how it worked out.

The last time I paid a friend of mine considerable money, which led to a great session. She needed money for Xmas, so I paid her for a session ahead of time (mostly because she was gonna fulfill a fantasy of mine), and lo and behold when I asked her when we could meet up yesterday, surprise surprise, she is dating someone now, and blah blah blah don't feel comfortable...

So bye bye money.... you'd think I would learn by now....

Thoughts and experiences, fellas??

My thoughts? If you need to pay or ask to pay and get it, then you are not friends to start with. That is not what friends do.

 

[Thelyhi]

Should've wrote an IOU note with transfer copies one for you and one for her. Then you got evidence for small claims court. It's a loan to you which needs to be repaid back at a certain time frame and she believes it's a gift it's free no repaying of any currency what so ever. Now it's just debatable. It's all about the cases on People's Court TV.
You got played player.

 

[Maxfield]

I completely agree with Tugela, friends don't offer each other money for sex, that being said, you will hear from her again guaranteed, she is in dire straights. At that point, do you see her after being burned once?

 

[blazejowski]

I completely agree with Tugela, friends don't offer each other money for sex, that being said, you will hear from her again guaranteed, she is in dire straights. At that point, do you see her after being burned once?

I actually changed my mind yesterday about the whole idea, mostly because I have been burned hard this year already by an SP, and told her that yes, I would like my money back, and there was no rush to pay it back.

Of course, she got upset and said that wasn't cool, but I told her that initially yes, I told her not to worry about it, but that's because I let my anger get the worst of me, and she did get paid for a service she failed to provide. (I didn't add this part, but it's not my freaking problem she has a BF now). So whatever, she's miffed at me, and I will probably never see this money - but then again when I prepaid her she swore up and down she wasn't gonna rip me off (yeah, right) or she will pay it back as slow as humanly possible.

The moral of the story is that I will NEVER prepay anyone ever again, no matter how much they while & plead. Sorry, but I am not going to be made a fool again. That, and I will stick with the girls who do this as a profession. It may be looked down upon by society, but they mostly have standards they stick to.

 

[bcneil]

Its really hard to determine who is at fault here.
The mother in poverty who cannot repay money, for not performing a sex act she now feels uncomfortable doing.

Or her friend, who is willing to help his poverty stricken friend have a christmas for her child.
But only if she fucks him.

 

[LalaniElectrica]

If someone prepaid for a session and I was unable to make the time to meet them, I would refund them the amount. If someone prepays a deposit and there are expenses involved, and they cancel at the last minute, there will not be a refund. Prepaid appointments get priority, although last minute can be arranged around pre-booked appointments. I understand the plight of a mother who is providing for her children, there are ways she could have explored to making her life better without offering a service she was unwilling to provide.

 

[blazejowski]

Or her friend, who is willing to help his poverty stricken friend have a christmas for her child.
But only if she fucks him.

You make it sound like I dangled the money in front of her, and then added the stipulation that she'd only get the money if she slept with me. If you must know, she used to work in a massage parlour, and had seen a few clients years ago. So it wasn't her first rodeo....

 

[PlayfulAlex]

The moral of the story is that I will NEVER prepay anyone ever again, no matter how much they whine & plead. Sorry, but I am not going to be made a fool again. That, and I will stick with the girls who do this as a profession. It may be looked down upon by society, but they mostly have standards they stick to.

Yup, the moral of the story is that you made a bad deal (you kept your end of the bargain, which was the pre-payment, and have no recourse, now that the other party didn't keep up their end). Live and learn...haven't we all been there, at some point in our lives...