I wrote this offline and it is really long but I wanted to make it as detailed as possible so that I could get some possible perspectives from those who are patient enough to wade through it all.
There's a certain lady that I've wanted to see for a long time. For reasons that I don't feel like going into right now, I don't particularly like to pre book appointments these days. So, my rule of late has been primarily to try to contact ladies that are actively advertising on the day that I'm interested in having a session. And my luck with that has been pretty good over the past few months. But I've also kept my eye open for ads from this specific lady and I always seem to be missing when she posts by a day or two.
Yesterday, I decided that I was in the mood and I thought I'd start by doing a quick search for any ads by this specific lady. It turns out that she had posted an ad on Monday but in the ad, she posted that she had availability all through the week and therefore seemed open to being contacted. I figured it couldn't hurt to try. So, after dinner -- a little after 7 PM, I tried to call her. She answered but was kind of abrupt. It sounded like she was in the middle of dealing with something frustrating.
I should note that I have talked to her on the phone once before and that was a pleasant conversation. But that was also some time ago and I wouldn't have expected her to remember that. I also didn't have a chance to mention it to her last night during the very brief time we talked. Basically, all I had time to do was say hello and my name before she asked if it would be okay if she called me back. I figured she meant that she'd call back within a few minutes and I basically said, "Yeah, sure!"
After surfing the web for about 40 minutes, I thought maybe I'd try to send her a text. I should note here that while I'm pretty adept with most technology, for whatever reason, I'm just not particularly good with cell phones. I have an old phone that a friend gave me about a year ago because I really do just use it for the basics. I'm not interested in tweeting or surfing the net on the thing. (As I don't realy use it that much, I just have one of those Roger's "Pay as you go" deals.) And the truth is, I only just figured out how to send texts on the thing a few weeks ago. But I figure that's what all the kids are doing today with their hippity hop music and sending the texts...
And I thought that under the circumstances, a text wouldn't be the same thing as bothering her again with another phone call and since time is a factor when you're thinking about setting up a "same night" session, this way I could see if she was available or if I should start exploring other options for the evening.
Since I'm a relative newb when it comes to texting, it takes me a while to type out my thoughts on the number pad thing. Plus, it's a number pad thing and not a qwerty keypad like some of those newer phones. Ugh. Honestly, it's extremely frustrating to type out even the simplest thoughts. And it seems you have to do it in 160 characters or less! Makes it difficult for an overly verbose old timer like myself.
So, I manage to type out that I was the one who called 40 minutes earlier. It was probably closer to 45 by the time I finished typing it all out. And that I was wondering if she had any availability that evening. She responds fairly quickly noting that she could probably make some time and asking me when I was thinking.
So, the damn text ball is back in my court and I try to keep it short this time. It's getting close to 8 PM and I like to have a couple of hours to get ready and factor in travel time. I respond that I'm looking for a one hour call at 10 or 10:30. Again, her response is pretty quick. "Yeah I can do that! 10:30 it is! See you then!" I get another text immediately on the heels of that one giving me an approximate location. I have no idea how she can possibly "text type" that fast!
My problem is that I have a number of physical appearance insecurities that I like to run past the ladies that I hope to see to make sure that a lady is comfortable with the idea of seeing me before I let her commit and confirm. So, now I text back, asking if it would be okay if we talked on the phone real quick first before committing.
It's also at about this time that I notice that the battery on the cell is now running very low. I guess between my overly slow "text typing" and it being such an old phone, it put quite the strain on the power consumption. I leave it on but plug it in to recharge.
Some time passes before she responds with a text that talking on the phone is not really an option. So, now I'm standing there with the charger plugged in (not as unwieldy as it sounds but also not as convenient as when I was doing it from the comfort of a lounge chair in the living room) and trying to type out a text about my concerns. AND trying to do it all in a 160 character limit text.
I send the text and notice that the time is now 8:20 PM! Basically, I HAVE to start getting ready now if I'm going to make a 10:30 appointment. I go and take a very thorough shower, which is part of my standard getting ready ritual before going for a session. After I'm out and all dried off, I go straight back to the phone to check for the reply to my last text. There isn't one.
At this point, I try to call. It rings a number of times then something weird happens. It suddenly starts ringing faster and goes to voice mail, which is full. So, again I labour out another text message to note that I have not yet received a response to my previous text and would really just like to make sure that she'd be comfortable seeing me given my insecurities. I think that it's right after sending that message that the phone lets me know that the battery is once again fully charged. I take it with me to the bathroom as I continue to get ready.
I brush my teeth with the phone nearby. No calls nor texts come in. It's getting close to the time that I should be leaving if I'm going to make a 10:30 appt time downtown. I try calling again. This time only one normal ring before the oddly super speedy ringing starts. Again, there's no answer but this time when it stops ringing, I get a message saying that the "number you're trying to reach is not in service." So, I labour out yet another text to let her know that and that I just need a confirmation as to whether or not we're still on.
It's almost 10 at this point and I still haven't shaved yet. I haven't heard from her at all in over an hour and a half at this point but thinking that a call or text could come at any moment, I figure I'd rather be freshly shaved for a session even if it means I'd end up being a few minutes late. By the time I'm done, I still have received no texts or call from her.
I can't remember if I tried to text again after that but I did try to call one last time at around 10:25. And again, no answer. At that point, I gave up and went back to the computer to surf for a bit. I kept the cell with me just in case. Around 10:40ish, I thought since I was all ready for a session, I might as well see if I could find any other options on erslist. I went 0 for 3 in my attempts. I played around on the social network part of it for a bit while I watched TV. You know, some nights when I'm just kind of surfing that site, I get hit up with private chats by some of the ladies that are up late but the one night I'm good to go -- nothing!
Suddenly, just after 12:30 AM, when I had forgotten that I still had the cell on and sitting right beside me, it makes the incoming text noise. It's from the lady. Here it is, verbatim: "What happened? I guess another time? Sorry if it was something I said."
And that leaves me having no idea what to think. I tried calling again to talk about it but, as before, it just did the crazy super speedy ringing with no answer and a message that the number was not in service. The number that I just got a text from! Okay... so I write yet another damn text to try to explain that I hadn't received any messages and couldn't get through on the phone. But now, I'm wondering if any of those damn texts were even getting through! Or if they got through to her but for whatever reason, her replies weren't getting back to me.
I have sent her an email and a PM trying to explain all of this. All I know is this the first time I've tried to set something up almost strictly by text and I've decided that I hate it. The occasional text seems fine but playing text tag back and forth sucks! I REALLY don't wanna do that again. And the thumb and forefinger on my left hand have been kind of sore all day today. And I'm a guy who does some marathon gaming sessions on my PS3 some nights. (I will admit that my forefinger has gotten a bit sore after some of those but never as bad as it was today! But my thumb has always been fine after gaming)
Anyway, like I said, I don't know if the technical problems were at my end or at her end. But I definitely no longer trust this texting stuff. I do hope that she'll give me another chance to see her sometime though.
There's a certain lady that I've wanted to see for a long time. For reasons that I don't feel like going into right now, I don't particularly like to pre book appointments these days. So, my rule of late has been primarily to try to contact ladies that are actively advertising on the day that I'm interested in having a session. And my luck with that has been pretty good over the past few months. But I've also kept my eye open for ads from this specific lady and I always seem to be missing when she posts by a day or two.
Yesterday, I decided that I was in the mood and I thought I'd start by doing a quick search for any ads by this specific lady. It turns out that she had posted an ad on Monday but in the ad, she posted that she had availability all through the week and therefore seemed open to being contacted. I figured it couldn't hurt to try. So, after dinner -- a little after 7 PM, I tried to call her. She answered but was kind of abrupt. It sounded like she was in the middle of dealing with something frustrating.
I should note that I have talked to her on the phone once before and that was a pleasant conversation. But that was also some time ago and I wouldn't have expected her to remember that. I also didn't have a chance to mention it to her last night during the very brief time we talked. Basically, all I had time to do was say hello and my name before she asked if it would be okay if she called me back. I figured she meant that she'd call back within a few minutes and I basically said, "Yeah, sure!"
After surfing the web for about 40 minutes, I thought maybe I'd try to send her a text. I should note here that while I'm pretty adept with most technology, for whatever reason, I'm just not particularly good with cell phones. I have an old phone that a friend gave me about a year ago because I really do just use it for the basics. I'm not interested in tweeting or surfing the net on the thing. (As I don't realy use it that much, I just have one of those Roger's "Pay as you go" deals.) And the truth is, I only just figured out how to send texts on the thing a few weeks ago. But I figure that's what all the kids are doing today with their hippity hop music and sending the texts...
And I thought that under the circumstances, a text wouldn't be the same thing as bothering her again with another phone call and since time is a factor when you're thinking about setting up a "same night" session, this way I could see if she was available or if I should start exploring other options for the evening.Since I'm a relative newb when it comes to texting, it takes me a while to type out my thoughts on the number pad thing. Plus, it's a number pad thing and not a qwerty keypad like some of those newer phones. Ugh. Honestly, it's extremely frustrating to type out even the simplest thoughts. And it seems you have to do it in 160 characters or less! Makes it difficult for an overly verbose old timer like myself.
So, I manage to type out that I was the one who called 40 minutes earlier. It was probably closer to 45 by the time I finished typing it all out. And that I was wondering if she had any availability that evening. She responds fairly quickly noting that she could probably make some time and asking me when I was thinking.
So, the damn text ball is back in my court and I try to keep it short this time. It's getting close to 8 PM and I like to have a couple of hours to get ready and factor in travel time. I respond that I'm looking for a one hour call at 10 or 10:30. Again, her response is pretty quick. "Yeah I can do that! 10:30 it is! See you then!" I get another text immediately on the heels of that one giving me an approximate location. I have no idea how she can possibly "text type" that fast!
My problem is that I have a number of physical appearance insecurities that I like to run past the ladies that I hope to see to make sure that a lady is comfortable with the idea of seeing me before I let her commit and confirm. So, now I text back, asking if it would be okay if we talked on the phone real quick first before committing.
It's also at about this time that I notice that the battery on the cell is now running very low. I guess between my overly slow "text typing" and it being such an old phone, it put quite the strain on the power consumption. I leave it on but plug it in to recharge.
Some time passes before she responds with a text that talking on the phone is not really an option. So, now I'm standing there with the charger plugged in (not as unwieldy as it sounds but also not as convenient as when I was doing it from the comfort of a lounge chair in the living room) and trying to type out a text about my concerns. AND trying to do it all in a 160 character limit text.
I send the text and notice that the time is now 8:20 PM! Basically, I HAVE to start getting ready now if I'm going to make a 10:30 appointment. I go and take a very thorough shower, which is part of my standard getting ready ritual before going for a session. After I'm out and all dried off, I go straight back to the phone to check for the reply to my last text. There isn't one.
At this point, I try to call. It rings a number of times then something weird happens. It suddenly starts ringing faster and goes to voice mail, which is full. So, again I labour out another text message to note that I have not yet received a response to my previous text and would really just like to make sure that she'd be comfortable seeing me given my insecurities. I think that it's right after sending that message that the phone lets me know that the battery is once again fully charged. I take it with me to the bathroom as I continue to get ready.
I brush my teeth with the phone nearby. No calls nor texts come in. It's getting close to the time that I should be leaving if I'm going to make a 10:30 appt time downtown. I try calling again. This time only one normal ring before the oddly super speedy ringing starts. Again, there's no answer but this time when it stops ringing, I get a message saying that the "number you're trying to reach is not in service." So, I labour out yet another text to let her know that and that I just need a confirmation as to whether or not we're still on.
It's almost 10 at this point and I still haven't shaved yet. I haven't heard from her at all in over an hour and a half at this point but thinking that a call or text could come at any moment, I figure I'd rather be freshly shaved for a session even if it means I'd end up being a few minutes late. By the time I'm done, I still have received no texts or call from her.
I can't remember if I tried to text again after that but I did try to call one last time at around 10:25. And again, no answer. At that point, I gave up and went back to the computer to surf for a bit. I kept the cell with me just in case. Around 10:40ish, I thought since I was all ready for a session, I might as well see if I could find any other options on erslist. I went 0 for 3 in my attempts. I played around on the social network part of it for a bit while I watched TV. You know, some nights when I'm just kind of surfing that site, I get hit up with private chats by some of the ladies that are up late but the one night I'm good to go -- nothing!
Suddenly, just after 12:30 AM, when I had forgotten that I still had the cell on and sitting right beside me, it makes the incoming text noise. It's from the lady. Here it is, verbatim: "What happened? I guess another time? Sorry if it was something I said.
"And that leaves me having no idea what to think. I tried calling again to talk about it but, as before, it just did the crazy super speedy ringing with no answer and a message that the number was not in service. The number that I just got a text from! Okay... so I write yet another damn text to try to explain that I hadn't received any messages and couldn't get through on the phone. But now, I'm wondering if any of those damn texts were even getting through! Or if they got through to her but for whatever reason, her replies weren't getting back to me.
I have sent her an email and a PM trying to explain all of this. All I know is this the first time I've tried to set something up almost strictly by text and I've decided that I hate it. The occasional text seems fine but playing text tag back and forth sucks! I REALLY don't wanna do that again. And the thumb and forefinger on my left hand have been kind of sore all day today. And I'm a guy who does some marathon gaming sessions on my PS3 some nights. (I will admit that my forefinger has gotten a bit sore after some of those but never as bad as it was today! But my thumb has always been fine after gaming)
Anyway, like I said, I don't know if the technical problems were at my end or at her end. But I definitely no longer trust this texting stuff. I do hope that she'll give me another chance to see her sometime though.
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