HELP! Need advice!

[crowbar]

I've been reading the boards for a few months now and have finally had the courage to post. To start off, I'm in my 20's, I'm asian and I have a girlfriend (she's asian too) which I love and have intentions of spending the rest of my life with her.

My problem is this. I enjoy the sight of women naked. I have fantasized for the longest time to have a girl in their 20's who is not asian have a close encounter with me. This fantasy has been getting to me more and more. I just want the one experience and I'd be content. You only live once and I just want that one opportunity to a sensual encounter to fulfill my fantasy. I've only had one sexual partner and that's my girlfriend. I just want to experience something different before I get married.

What are your thoughts and opinions? Is it considered cheating? I would like to try the works with an MP but I respect my girlfriend and I don't want to feel a sense of guilt. I'm leaning on just looking for a sensual massage followed by a HJ or a BJ.

This is killing me! Should I bother trying this out or is it best to tame this thought by sticking to strip clubs?

 

[Mr.Boggo]

Is it considered cheating?

Yes. It's up to you whether you can deal with it or not.

 

[pussy_liquor]

Ask your girlfriend if you could participate in a threeesome with someone you know or take her to a massage parlour and inquire there.

Just a suggestion.

 

[Rolls Royce]

Hey Crowbar,

If you are 100% sure that this is the girl for you- the one you want to definitely marry, have kids with etc, then I completely agree with Mr. Boggo. If she isn't, or you aren't sure, have your fun now BUT don't do it/regret it after marriage. Unless your wife is understanding towards exploration! Call me old fashion but once you bring a child into this world, that child is commitment of your love to both your wife and child.
Hope it helps and good luck man,
R.R.

 

[novemberrain]

Dump her, fuck more women and then decide what you want in a long term relationship. Sorry to sound like a dick, but I think you need some perspective. I had the same mentality as you when I was younger and it has greatly changed after being with more woman and of different ethnicities. You're young and you've only been with one girl.

 

[pervirgin]

Dude,

If you love and respect your girl, no other woman can satisfy you like her. Sure everyone has thoughts and it's okay to look. But no loving is better then when its coming from the one you love.

 

[crowbar]

Thanks for all the input thus far. I'm definitely ruling out intercourse. I do need some perspectives. It's because i have a gf that stops me from thinking sex. Could a sensual massage and a hj/bj be a bad idea? Like I said, I just want to experience it.

 

[Mr.Boggo]

Could a sensual massage and a hj/bj be a bad idea?

How would you handle it if some dude fingered your girl? You gotta decide for yourself, are you looking for someone here to say "Go for it, it's not cheating"? At the end of the day, doesn't matter what anyone here says, your the one who has to live with it.

Myself, I do this BECAUSE I'm single, when I'm not single, I don't do this PERIOD. There are others who can justify it no matter what their relationship status is like.

 

[outlaw]

"I just want the one experience and I'd be content."

No, you will not be. It will be more like opening Pandora's Box........unless it's an absolutely horrible experience.

Good luck with your choice though, remember that you have to live with it. If you do really love your girlfriend, remember that honesty is the most important thing......and who knows, maybe your girlfriend has fantasies of her own that she would like to act out before a lasting commitment, maybe some include you and another woman ( communicate ).

 

[crowbar]

Thanks again for all the comments. I guess it's hard to not think about it and want to try it. Especially being from a traditional Chinese background, it's different and lacks the freedom to explore. If I had to do it all over again, I wish I could give it a try before meeting my girlfriend.

Somewhere inside me is driving me to want to try it out. Like I said earlier, not to try the sex but a massage followed by a hj/bj. In fact... I'm leaning to just the massage only. I really appreciate every ones feedback on this issue. It's tough with the background I have to even think of this.

 

[princeofdarkness]

With every action there is a consequence, good or bad. The truth always shines through unfortunately.

Crowbar, you mentioned you are leaning more for a massage with JUST a HJ or BJ with another woman. Before you know it, you'll be craving to have sex with a midget because you just realized that you won't have to lift the legs as high. Just a thought.

Peace.

 

[jnewton]

With every action there is a consequence, good or bad. The truth always shines through unfortunately.

Crowbar, you mentioned you are leaning more for a massage with JUST a HJ or BJ with another woman. Before you know it, you'll be craving to have sex with a midget because you just realized that you won't have to lift the legs as high. Just a thought.

Peace.

ROFL. Very funny way of putting it.