Do you ever feel guilty or ashamed for paying for sex?

XXXBod

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I'm just board so I thought I would post this. How many of you really dont want to pay for sex? Do you ever feel like a looser for doing it? To be honest I do. I hate paying for it. I'm not married or have any girl friend. But with my job being a truck driver and being on the road all the time its hard for me to meet good looking quality women. I'm 38, though I can say with confidence I look more like i'm 30 and pretty much any one who I have met has told me I dont look my age.

I try to look after my self by going to the gym and tanning. I'm insecure with women. I find specially now a days so many attrctive young girls are so unapproachable. I know I'm not the best looking, I dont have the GQ looks going for me and maybe that's why women dont seem to show any interest in me. I wish I could pick up hot 19-24 year olds rather then go through a SP. But the fact is its just to hard.

In clubs you get flaky chicks or stuck up chicks who wont even give you a chance for the most part any ways. So, it becomes too easy to just pay for it. Just call a SP up and she she will be at your place with in 20 min to half an hour. I have seen some of the hottest women in the world and some I have repeted with. I actually prefer to try and pick up strippers in strip clubs then Escorts.

Most strippers are way hotter and more attractieve then Escorts INHO. But strippers are hard to get. Most dancers wont do "extra's" un less your going to pay them a crazy amount of money and even then they wont do it no mater how much you offer them. I have picked up strippers but not often. The best places to do this is in Brampton ON at The Cannonball. Most of the strippers are turning tricks in there and I have taken a lot of girls back to my Hotel.

But I'm now in Edmonton and haven't even tried with the strippers out here. Out here in places like Show Girls the women dont even like full contact dances thats why they like dancing out here... So i dont think your going to get many strippers to do extras or take them back to your place. Never know but I hate asking strippers if they ever do "private" shows out side of the strip clubs.

Mos girls know right away where your going with this and some will get offended. I'm always a gentlemen when I ask but still... I just feel like a sleeze asking them.
 

lenny

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"Do you ever feel guilty or ashamed for paying for sex?"

No, it's cheaper, better and more fun to pay for it.

I feel proud of myself that i'm smart enough to realize that ;

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blow ur goo and scadoo

don't feel guilt xxxbod......
it does not matter what your relationship is with a woman , get used to it....you will pay pay pay.....always!!!
and if your married U pay more.
with p4p , you slap em on the ass and pay and walk out and say thank U.....
no head trips or follow up drama.....neat and clean.
 

papillion

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I'm just board so I thought I would post this. How many of you really dont want to pay for sex? Do you ever feel like a looser for doing it? To be honest I do. I hate paying for it. I'm not married or have any girl friend. But with my job being a truck driver and being on the road all the time its hard for me to meet good looking quality women. I'm 38, though I can say with confidence I look more like i'm 30 and pretty much any one who I have met has told me I dont look my age.

I try to look after my self by going to the gym and tanning. I'm insecure with women. I find specially now a days so many attrctive young girls are so unapproachable. I know I'm not the best looking, I dont have the GQ looks going for me and maybe that's why women dont seem to show any interest in me. I wish I could pick up hot 19-24 year olds rather then go through a SP. But the fact is its just to hard.

In clubs you get flaky chicks or stuck up chicks who wont even give you a chance for the most part any ways. So, it becomes too easy to just pay for it. Just call a SP up and she she will be at your place with in 20 min to half an hour. I have seen some of the hottest women in the world and some I have repeted with. I actually prefer to try and pick up strippers in strip clubs then Escorts.

Most strippers are way hotter and more attractieve then Escorts INHO. But strippers are hard to get. Most dancers wont do "extra's" un less your going to pay them a crazy amount of money and even then they wont do it no mater how much you offer them. I have picked up strippers but not often. The best places to do this is in Brampton ON at The Cannonball. Most of the strippers are turning tricks in there and I have taken a lot of girls back to my Hotel.

But I'm now in Edmonton and haven't even tried with the strippers out here. Out here in places like Show Girls the women dont even like full contact dances thats why they like dancing out here... So i dont think your going to get many strippers to do extras or take them back to your place. Never know but I hate asking strippers if they ever do "private" shows out side of the strip clubs.

Mos girls know right away where your going with this and some will get offended. I'm always a gentlemen when I ask but still... I just feel like a sleeze asking them.
NO, In fact it's WAY better than having your GF burn you when she leaves
 
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don't feel guilt xxxbod......
it does not matter what your relationship is with a woman , get used to it....you will pay pay pay.....always!!!
and if your married U pay more.
with p4p , you slap em on the ass and pay and walk out and say thank U.....
 

XXXBod

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The one thing I hate about this biz is, most of the girls you see on Escort add sites, they hide there faces and a lot take bad pictures of them selves. Out of th 30 some adds I see there might be three girls I might actually want to call up. And most dont do BBBJ or real GFE. Guess that's why I dont like to pay for it. But I agree with some of the comments that I would rather pay for it then trick some one or lie to some one that I love her or I really want to be in serious relationship when all I really want is to fuck her. That to me is just dishonest and sleezy. So yeah in that way it is better to just pay for it.
 

jnewton

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But I agree with some of the comments that I would rather pay for it then trick some one or lie to some one that I love her or I really want to be in serious relationship when all I really want is to fuck her. That to me is just dishonest and sleezy.
I agree, and IMHO it's far worse than that. Those kinds of games destroy trust; it hurts the heart and soul. I try to be very careful about those kinds of words and when I do say them, I mean them completely and make sure I back them up with actions.

IMHO that is the difference between having sex and making love. Having sex, with an SP or otherwise, can be a hell of a lot of fun but when it is boiled down it is two people (or more? lol) enjoying some moments of physical passion and a bit of personal connection. When I make love, the sex is a necessary but small part of the experience. What is much more important are the feelings, the inner connection, two people sharing far more than just a physical experience. Sadly, it has only happened a few times in my life but when it has, it has left me nearly speechless.
 

hotjac

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Feel bad ONLY feel if the sex was lame, or I went past my better judgement of an sp that obviously was not as advertised in looks or activities.
 
Whether buying or selling sex, I think some may feel bad simply because most of us are socially conditioned to think its wrong.
Other people may feel guilt or shame because they know the "hobby" allows them to dodge other problems in their lives.

As adults we make our choices, and sleep in the bed we make (so to speak), so be responsible. Sex for money is an honest and straightforward transaction but sometimes affected by other implications. Only the individual can judge if its right or wrong.

What I disagree with is the notion that non-sp women need to be "tricked or used" into having sex for the sake of sex. It really makes women sound like victims.

Most women will respect a guy for being upfront about not wanting a relationship, and believe me we hear it all the time. The woman most motivated by sex will pick the most attractive one nighter, and the one most motivated by money will go home with the one driving the most expensive car :)
 

XXXBod

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Quote: Whether buying or selling sex, I think some may feel bad simply because most of us are socially conditioned to think its wrong.
Other people may feel guilt or shame because they know the "hobby" allows them to dodge other problems in their lives.

I agree. That and lets be honest this can get expensive! Your paying basically $300 a pop every time you see some one. There are providers who give great service because they really love what they do and love to meet new people. Its the ones that arnt Comfortable or dont like what they do witch makes for an awkward session or just give a bad service and take your money and run that you feel like a chump you paid them.
 

Corbin

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What I disagree with is the notion that non-sp women need to be "tricked or used" into having sex for the sake of sex. It really makes women sound like victims.
The funny thing here is that it's often women themselves who fall back on this idea that they were "tricked or used" into having sex because they feel a sense of shame or guilt afterwards. So they blame the alcohol, they claim the guy said all they right things and they were caught up in the moment, they pass him off as a player who knows how to manipulate women, etc.
I think it becomes less prevalent when women are older and more sexually confident, but I truly believe there is a self-imposed victim status that women place upon themselves. I imagine this is created mostly by the societal expectation that women aren't supposed to enjoy sex as much as men, and certainly aren't supposed to give it up as easily.

Similarly, men who pay for sex are viewed as beta males, unable to performance in the competitive environment of the dating/sex world. While men are lauded for their prowess when they seduce a female at the bar, a similar one time sexual encounter that involves the exchange of cash is suddenly seen as desperate.
 

storm rider

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To the OP

I myself have never felt guilty or whatever stigma you wish to attach.....hell I revel in what I do and I laugh at some of the bullets I have dodged by not getting hooked up with another gold digging GF/wife....and I seriously laugh myself silly at some guys I know who get into a relationship with a gal just for the sake of getting laid and figuring they are not paying for it when they end up paying more than I do LOL.....A friend of mine is in just this position....he is shacked up with a gal(and this is rich) who was married to his best friend and had kids with him and she has also shacked up with this guys brother as well and he has taken responsibility for the 2 kids...this chump/sucker will be 39 this summer and on the same day I turn 40...he does not own a home nor does he have any type of investments or hope of a comfortable retirement...but he has never paid for sex....such a smart guy.

SR
 

Horse99

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maybe you'll get the responses you want by posting on the Roman Catholic boards.......this is a sex site....

I don't even feel guilty when I'm on a real date, and I think to myself, "I would rather be watching the hockey game, hanging with my son or anything else rather than listening to someone else's drama without any guarantees I';m getting laid."
 

badbadboy

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Do you ever feel guilty or ashamed for paying for sex?



No

I got over that a long time ago. Been havin fun ever since I relaxed and just hopped on for the ride :D
 

alby2

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No. This is a fantasy Im willing to indulge in and thats all it is to me - a fantasy. You have to accept what is reality and what is fantasy. Thank god for all the SPs for indulging our fantasies.
 

here4fun

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If you feel guilty after stop doing it and find another hobby. If you are honest with yourself and the lady you are seeing, weather she is an SP or someone you are/wanting to date, all will be good.

The only time I felt guilty was when I should have booked more time.
 

aznboi9

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Do you ever feel guilty or ashamed for paying for sex?
Only if it was a bad session.
 
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