pooner answer = ...uh... well... not really... sorta depends... i guess maybe...
s.o. answer = hell yeah!
s.o. answer = hell yeah!
If you're married... Does seeing an SP constitute "cheating"?
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It's in the dictionary, but not exactly in the way you describe it:
"2. to be sexually unfaithful —usually used with on 'was cheating on his wife' "
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cheat
Is it cheating or being "unfaithful" if she has agreed beforehand that it is ok to do {have sex with others}? I say no.
If it is understood that the relationship was meant to be exclusive of sex with anyone else, then, yes, it is cheating.
Would it be cheating if an Arab or Mormon were to have sex with all of several {of his} wives? No.
So is it cheating to see/fuck "someone outside your marriage"? That depends.
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OP To answer your question.
There is a lot of information here and I've only just signed in for the first time to do any reading in the past few days, I apologize for not writing sooner.
I don't know if you are married or not OP and if it says so somewhere here, I'm sorry but I've missed it.
If you are married and you are asking if this is cheating then the answer is Yes. If something inside you is telling you that you need to verify the answer to this question, I believe you have your answer already. Yes, if you think it might be cheating, it's cheating.
If you are not married, I don't know why you would be asking the question ...it's all good for conversation and interest, just not sure if you are seeking an answer personally or for other reasons.
I don't think it's possible for any two people to have the same ...'evaluation', 'guidelines', 'beliefs' to define what the word 'cheating' means to them because it's emotional and personal. I don't know, to me it would be the same as asking someone to specify THE correct religion or if they think a movie is good or bad ...It's personal which is why I think if you're heart is asking you to answer this question, you likely already have your answer my friend.
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There is a lot of information here and I've only just signed in for the first time to do any reading in the past few days, I apologize for not writing sooner.
I don't know if you are married or not OP and if it says so somewhere here, I'm sorry but I've missed it.
If you are married and you are asking if this is cheating then the answer is Yes. If something inside you is telling you that you need to verify the answer to this question, I believe you have your answer already. Yes, if you think it might be cheating, it's cheating.
If you are not married, I don't know why you would be asking the question ...it's all good for conversation and interest, just not sure if you are seeking an answer personally or for other reasons.
I don't think it's possible for any two people to have the same ...'evaluation', 'guidelines', 'beliefs' to define what the word 'cheating' means to them because it's emotional and personal. I don't know, to me it would be the same as asking someone to specify THE correct religion or if they think a movie is good or bad ...It's personal which is why I think if you're heart is asking you to answer this question, you likely already have your answer my friend.
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Maybe about the other 20%, or whatever percentage it is, that didn't take a vow to be faithful?
Ever heard of an "open marriage"?
"Open marriage typically refers to a marriage in which the partners agree that each may engage in extramarital sexual relationships, without this being regarded as infidelity. There are many different styles of open marriage, with the partners having varying levels of input on their spouse's activities."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_marriage
Not necessarily. I am married, see SP's often, yet do not believe i am cheating.
"...One example of a changing ground rule includes where a married couple decides to separate. Without divorcing, they are still legally married. However, they may choose to cohabitate or have sex with other persons, thus contributing to voluntary or involuntary agreement to have an open relationship."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_marriage#Ground_rules
It would depend if they vowed or promised or it was understood that the marriage was meant
to be monogamous, or not. Also if they were legally separated. Whether or not there are kids
or how long they are apart due to work is not relevant to the issue. But an interesting question
would be if it's still cheating if one partner came into a coma or disappeared or temporarily
lost their ability to have sex.
"People in some cultures are more sexually monogamous than people in other cultures."
In Thailand, for example, it seems much more common to "cheat", almost normal or
expected, from what i've read. I'm not even sure if "cheating" is the word for it, as this
is a Buddhist culture, so our Western Christian wedding vows which speak of being
faithful and until death may have no part in their typical marriage ceremonies.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monogamy#Incidence_of_sexual_monogamy
Your title and poll questions are not the same. An SO is:
"1. A person, such as a spouse or lover, with whom one shares a long-term sexual relationship."
http://www.answers.com/topic/significant-other
This SO could include a common law partner or BF/GF with whom one is not married
and has probably not exchanged any vows to be faithful.
It's not a "play on words", but rather just taking what was said at face value, without trying to
read between the lines or think i can read the OP's mind. So you'ld feel free to have sex with
someone else if your SO was in a coma? Or if she had separated from you for 2 days & gone to her
mom's house? BTW i am aware i was speaking of legal separation, but as you said separation this
brings up another issue of separation w/o legal separation.
So you'ld go without sex, for the rest of your life, if she was unable to have sex?
But if she was in the first day of her coma, you'ld start fucking SP's immediately?
BTW, people come out of comas.
Probably? Why probably? So you didn't vote in the poll, eh?
If you are having relations with others (yes methodman even in the bum) and you don't have the permission or blessing of your significant then it is certainly cheating. We may all have reasons that help justify it in our own minds but it is still cheating. Many of us probably feel that this is the better alternative to having an affair that can include emotional involvement as well...but it's still cheating.
Cheating implies sexual unfaithfulness based upon a vow or promise or understanding of
a monogamous relationship or other restrictions {e.g. the husband can fuck other women
but not men, in which case fucking a man would be cheating}.
If however one's spouse is withholding sex from their SO, one might argue that the
vow/promise/understanding is nullified and screwing an SP is therefore not cheating.
3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time,
I feel for you dude. I think lots of people are in the same position where we have that one where we wonder if things could have been different.
I'll wager 15 psots on the newcomer! (Sorry, I'm all out of quatloos
I'll see your three psots and raise you 4 more psots.
Regards
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