nothing past 1st date -90% of time

[joe45]

I'm 30 and havent had serious relationship ever before, i started dating late in life and meeting and being social with the opposite sex. hmm maybe around 26.
so far i have dated and met a few through online dating sites and also randomly at coffee shops, library, malls, or even walk down the street. ehhe.

the thing is 90% of the dates i get end up being just a one time coffee date or walk in park and nothing more. they dont want to see me anymore--no 2nd, 3rd,4th. 5th.......etc date or even relationship. i phone em for 2nd date and they either give excuses-busy,have plans already, studying witha friend or just say no interested. -another said i was boring.

the longest i had was like 5 dates till she said we have to break up.

this happens with asian girls local to vancouver and esl asian girls who just come to vancouver to study for 1 yr. i'm a asian guy

typical converstaion be like-your job, what u do on weekend, hobbies, travelling.....etc whatever

funny thing is i really like to now why??? why is this happening? is it a common thing. are girls that hard to please and very picky

 

[HubbaHubba]

I'm 30 and havent had serious relationship ever before, i started dating late in life and meeting and being social with the opposite sex. hmm maybe around 26.
so far i have dated and met a few through online dating sites and also randomly at coffee shops, library, malls, or even walk down the street. ehhe.

the thing is 90% of the dates i get end up being just a one time coffee date or walk in park and nothing more. they dont want to see me anymore--no 2nd, 3rd,4th. 5th.......etc date or even relationship. i phone em for 2nd date and they either give excuses-busy,have plans already, studying witha friend or just say no interested. -another said i was boring.

the longest i had was like 5 dates till she said we have to break up.

this happens with asian girls local to vancouver and esl asian girls who just come to vancouver to study for 1 yr. i'm a asian guy

typical converstaion be like-your job, what u do on weekend, hobbies, travelling.....etc whatever

funny thing is i really like to now why??? why is this happening? is it a common thing. are girls that hard to please and very picky

The good news is....SP's love guys like you! Always a bright side joe45

 

[EvilPettingZoo]

How to tell where she placed you in that all important initial sorting...

Thx, al. (In place of +reps.) My radar is also pretty rusty, so your advice is most welcome.

 

[Ray]

You have to smell nice, be dressed nice, be amusing and talk nice.

Just as importantly, you have to believe in yourself. You must have some self-confidence. (But not arrogance. It's a fine line.)

If you don't believe you're worth something, you won't be able to convince someone else that you're worth 'investing' time and effort into.

Also, women are attracted to a guy who has a large social circle. Get out, do something, join a gym or clubs, be sociable, do not be a home-body.

Trust me, I'm not even remotely a good looking guy, yet my wife is what would be considered a 'trophy wife'. People look at us and try and figure out how and why we are a couple. I actually had an old lady come up to me and tell me, 'It must be nice to be rich'. Bitch.

 

[somedude]

Dude, think of the jungle. You need to pick an animal and go with it.

You can be a peacock....the guy at the bar with the expensive (at least looking) watch, chain and shirt. Should have a decent car. This can be faked, maybe sounds douchey but hey, think of it as an act

You can be an ape.....not easy if you aren't 6 foot + and don't work out. You don't have to talk and it's an easy gig, the girls just stand there under you.

You can be a mountain lion....wait for the deer to gather in the forest (this can be anywhere), and attack when one gets seperated from the heard or find the 'wounded dear'

Or you can be a monkey....keep them entertained and distracted long enough to get somewhere.

Or you can be a shiny object.....It attracts the birds!

women are cerebral. They think too much. They need something to distract them, for men that's tough cause it's the players who grew up talking their way into and out of shit.

Good luck.

 

[somedude]

'It must be nice to be rich'. Bitch.

Well? Are you?

 

[Ray]

Comfortable. Not rich.

 

[Mr.Boggo]

Unfortunately, a lot of it is a confidence thing dude.

Physically, I fair well, I'm 6'1", have been a gym regular for the past 10 years or so, and have been told I'm good looking (not Adonis, but not Quasimodo either), I get smiles from women as I walk around where I work (probably helps that I'm usually dressed up for work). Here's where the confidence thing comes in, I have little. So, physically, I'm ok, but I don't have the confidence to back anything up. I think they can see right through me and realize I got no game. I've been set up and stuff, but once there, I usually have nothing to say.

Where to get that confidence?, no idea dude, tell me once you find out man.

 

[leoghaire]

Unfortunately, a lot of it is a confidence thing dude.


Where to get that confidence?, no idea dude, tell me once you find out man.

fake it till you make it. so true in so many facets of life.

 

[EvilPettingZoo]

I actually had an old lady come up to me and tell me, 'It must be nice to be rich'. Bitch.

The perfect (if rude) response to that is, "I'm not rich; it's my 12" she loves..." If she can sling it, she ought to be able to take it.

fake it till you make it. so true in so many facets of life.

Sad, but true. You gotta forget your hang-ups long enough to let them see the real you. Not the nervous, self-conscious screw-up you think you are in her eyes.

 

[imanewbie]

you have to remember Asian girls are really materialistic, especially the pretty ones because they know they can.

when you're in your 20s , the thing that matters the most is money and social status.
how much money you make and what you own.. car, realestates... Of course personality matters but without the thing i said above, they wont even consider you. Then they will look at your personality, physical attractiveness, talent.. etc.etc. The list never ends.

honestly, i think Asian girls are really picky these days, so there maybe nothing wrong with you. keep your chin up. Seriously, who cares about these girls, if they are really picky about these things, they dont worth your time.

i agree with dood for the first time, not all women are gold diggers, but in todays world, i agree most are to some degree. You just have to look for women and there are lots of them, who just want a regular relationship with a regular guy that love her.

 

[Dnice]

Do really want to know why? then i'd ask one of those girls you've dated for the brutal truth as to why and how/what you can improve upon for your next date. even though its not going to be with them. it may hurt, criticism is never easy to take. First impression is always the most important, and it seems to me your not making a lasting first impression.

 

[dudeharsh123]

Date white girls!

 

[lenny]

I've been set up and stuff, but once there, I usually have nothing to say.

Personally i wouldn't beat around the bush & get right to the point. Why waste your time & hers?

"I want you". "Do you like light or deep French kissing?" "Wanna make out/blow me?" "Lets fuck".

To build confidence practice these lines out loud while shaving, showering and shiting.

But if there were any females interested in action movies, gambling, porn, & other guy stuff, then i
might have something in common & to converse with them about. Since no such woman exists,
the only options are wanking, ladies of the night, hammered bar sluts & sex dolls.

 

[lenny]

you have to remember Asian girls are really materialistic, especially the pretty ones because they know they can.

The pretty ones, IME {which is quite extensive and backed by a number of other vets},
tend to be lousy in the only place that matters, in the sack. So my advice if i were the
OP would be to find the ugliest Asian girl he can, and go out with her. If she was more
boring than a good movie or other activities i enjoy, then i'd invite her to either leave or
stifle herself while we cuddle, watch tv, listen to music, & make out.

 

[sonoman]

But if there were any females interested in action movies, gambling, porn, & other guy stuff, then i
might have something in common & to converse with them about. Since no such woman exists,
the only options are wanking, ladies of the night, hammered bar sluts & sex dolls.

You forgot hockey and beer.

 

[methodman]

you're boring

that's why

talk to her and have passion about things in your life like your hobbies and travels

and

be interested in her hobbies and travels

and

be passionate about what you talk about

and

don't let silent moments come in

and

lean back in your chair when you talk otherwise you look geeky

and

dress good

and

be cool


trust me

good luck



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