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Well said Ropey. The more personal and heartfelt the apology is the more meaning it is likely to have for the receiver. Personal face to face apology with a small gift can do wonders.
Was this an appointment with an SP .. ?? If so I agree .. I'm sure no feelings were hurt ... these things happen sometimes ... we're all adults here
Well my guess you weren't fucking your client and paying or getting paid a large sum of money for doing so. A regular business client is different for sure, and no, a face to face and gift for a regular, run of the mill business client is not appropriate. The lines are not blurry, but you need to but it in the proper context. Really depends on what kind of girl you "no showed" on. The lower she is on the SP scale the less you need to do for the slight.
These ladies are providing a very personal and intimate service and when you book a time, it is supposed to be exclusively yours, no one else can book her and you are expected to show up. If you do not, the lady loses the fee for you not showing and likely is not able to replace you in a minute if you were just a no show.
If you expect to be able to see a "higher end" girl, you likely will not be able to "no show" only once or twice before you are blacklisted with her. So, the more you can do to let her know you fucked up and it won't happen again, the better it is for you. Remember these are women, and when a guy screws up, the closer to a face to face and a small gift, the better. The gift does not have to be extravagant, just something that shows you were thinking a bit. Be it a flower, some fruit, a coffee card, or whatever. Doing so will go a long ways to clearing the slate. If you are habitual at being late, you are basically screwed anyways. If it is a girl at a lower end MP then you can get away with more.
I see higher end Indy girls and I need to book about 4 weeks in advance to get the time slot I want. You can be damn sure that I am not going to flake on that appointment and that if I do, I am going tell her I am sorry in an email and an apology when I see her including a small gift.
I love being a 'lower end girl' I'm usually booked up most days and still get calls ... I tell those callers to call back in case I get a cancellation so that I always have a back up for those 'exclusive time slots' ... if someone can't make it ... a phone call is fine .. if they forget to call ... it's possibly an oversight and no biggy. If I'm late and miss someone's appointment I'll either give a freebie or a super deal ... ahhhhhh the simple life !!!
You should give her something for her time, say $50.00 after all that time was set aside for you in which she lost income.
I think a courtesy call is what is needed in any case. Don't give me this "high end girl" "low end girl" crap though. If you miss an appointment with any girl, have the common decency to call and apologize!
And if you ever go to see her again, make it up to her with an extra tip!
And if you ever go to see her again, make it up to her with an extra tip!
Hi Jewel, I am not sure if you feel that I called you a "lower end girl" as you quoted my post before making that statement. Any comment that I made was not directed specifically at you, I don't know anything about you and intended no slight.
The bottom line is that we should treat everyone with respect.
Use some common sense and courtesy and do what you feel is appropriate in each case and understand how the person on the other side is affected by your actions.
Use some common sense and courtesy and do what you feel is appropriate in each case and understand how the person on the other side is affected by your actions.
No, no ... thats not what I thought at all ! Thanks anyways. I was thinking that all sounded a bit complicated. When I first started out I used to notice that if a guy was calling to book an appointment and I mentioned having another appointment ahead of him or anything like that then it would put the caller off. I used to have to consciously make them think they were the only one ..... things are so straight forward now. I advertise only on c/l ..... I don't have to make any pretense that I'm waiting around just for that one call. I am busy enough I usually have a back up for almost every time slot ... if someone can't make it ... someone else will ... no need for me to stress if someone can't make it etc. etc. I just enjoy the simplicity of being on the 'low end'.
What a bright and articulate lady who has her foot firmly entrenched in the reality of what this profession is all about. I have always loved the term "exclusive" SP, is there a bigger oxymoron? Nothing wrong with courtesy and random acts of kindness but let's keep this in perspective. Men can be so pathetic and needy and I say that as a male. Remember Namssa, it's just a fantasy, you bring the money she brings her body. Some of your comments make me think this is indeed a hobby where the lines can get blurry. I guess it is part of the human condition. All the best Jewel, keep up the good work.
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well i hate it when i have an appointment and forget to cancel or forget to call that im going to be late...gfe or otherwise.....that person is waiting for you.....for some reason.......being in heating and plumbing business.....people count on you when you make an appointment.. so you have filled there time slot to get something fixed...
what is said when you forget to call??? i know its different...sp gfe or plumbing and heating..... thx you all for your support.....
iceman
what is said when you forget to call??? i know its different...sp gfe or plumbing and heating..... thx you all for your support.....
iceman
Keep it simple. Sometimes the simplest things in life mean the most. If you have never seen her before a simple apology may be in order, the courtesy of a reply. If you re-book and see her you might want to leave a nice tip. So much depends on the vibe you get from her. Is she someone like Surrey's Jewel, if so she will understand. Whatever you do, don't bring her flowers, flowers are a symbol for romance, sex for money and romance are two different things. Melissa notwithstanding.
Thanks for your thoughts Cortezz. I am fully aware that this is not a "relationship" deal and that when you get to brass tacks it is an exchange for an intangible commodity, GFE, for a very tangible commodity, money. I am under no illusion and I know that any girl I see is not there for my stunning good looks or my fantastic personality, although I have loads of both, lol!! For me, this is a fun hobby and indeed if you do not keep things in perspective, things can get blurry and feel that there is more there than actually there is. I have no illusions about what the deal is here, just that we should be respecting the effort that these ladies make for us and let them know (especially the good ones) that they are appreciated.
Cortezz, one comment on the statement you made above. These ladies bring much more than their body, ie: personality, talent, experience, ability to switch into roles is all part of the package that we request. Each woman is a unique experience and so much more than just a body. Just my thoughts.
Flowers may not be the best idea due to allergies and privacy concerns (I think they are sweet myself). Some ladies have a gift section on their websites, or you can ask if bringing flowers (or chocolate, etc) is appreciated.
In this case, if you still want to book with the lady she may want you to pay ahead of time to make sure you are legit, or she may not want to see you. You win some, you lose some.
Mistakes DO happen. Recently, I sent out my wrong phone number (two digits were reversed and it is a new number) for confirmation upon arrival. I didn't realize until the second guy "stood me up". Then I realized- duh! It is my fault!! Both guys were very gentlemanly about it (thank you!).
In this case, if you still want to book with the lady she may want you to pay ahead of time to make sure you are legit, or she may not want to see you. You win some, you lose some.
Mistakes DO happen. Recently, I sent out my wrong phone number (two digits were reversed and it is a new number) for confirmation upon arrival. I didn't realize until the second guy "stood me up". Then I realized- duh! It is my fault!! Both guys were very gentlemanly about it (thank you!).
