My ex was in shock how I just smiled and said have a nice life. When she was in the hospital I brought her food everyday for a month. What really got me was she always asked her female group for permission or approval to divorce me. Nothing I did was good enough. I went straight to a escort and I feel like a king. I felt like a prisoner before with can't eat this,watch this, travel here, how I dress etc
served with divorce papers today
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She ask if we can be friends and I said no. That I'm done with this shit. Was constantly told where not to eat or where I can go.
Good attitude SamGomez
I am divorced too. At first it was weird, but I really enjoy the freedom now. She suggested it and I agreed. In a way I was hoping she would want to divorce me, I just didn't want to do it to her. I think the pooning lifestyle made me accept the divorce easily, and may have ultimately led to its demise, as the constant nagging by her made me go see sps.
I am divorced too. At first it was weird, but I really enjoy the freedom now. She suggested it and I agreed. In a way I was hoping she would want to divorce me, I just didn't want to do it to her. I think the pooning lifestyle made me accept the divorce easily, and may have ultimately led to its demise, as the constant nagging by her made me go see sps.
Congratulations SamGomez!!!
Freedom is a wonderful thing! At times it can be challenging, but it is also rewarding. Always cherish and enjoy it!
And should you ever find yourself with another relationship again, make sure the freedom to fuck other girls is part of that - aside from other freedoms you should have as well.
As for denying her friendship, that's probably the best thing you can do at least initially. It's never good to immediately jump into friendship (if ever) with an ex. As for myself, once you're done with the sex, friendship with a woman is rarely worth the effort (though there have been a few females I've kept as good friends, but those females are exceptional people).
Congratulations, SG...it doesn't sound like your relationship had a chance to repair itself...
"I'd rather be in no relationship, than be in one I was trying to figure out how to get out of..."
An important next step is to take some time to learn about yourself, ask yourself what kind of relationship you really want, as well as what you really have to offer...and if and when you're ready, get back on that horse. But I wouldn't rush it!
"I'd rather be in no relationship, than be in one I was trying to figure out how to get out of..."
An important next step is to take some time to learn about yourself, ask yourself what kind of relationship you really want, as well as what you really have to offer...and if and when you're ready, get back on that horse. But I wouldn't rush it!
ound:Congrats dude. I'm divorced too.
First things first, go get yourself a good divorce lawyer depending on how much assets there.
First things first, go get yourself a good divorce lawyer depending on how much assets there.
I'm joining the chorus of well-wishers
Right now, you're obviously still seething with resentment toward your soon-to-be ex-wife.
Why not seek out a good counselor (PM me if you need one), to help get over unresolved anger—because the person you're most hurting at this point is yourself!
Try to forgive your wife, who sounds fairly typical—hard-wired and programmed with a woman's biological and cultural life priorities, which tend to be quite different from those of a man. It may help to remember: if you had your wife's hormones and conditioning, you'd very likely also have acted the role of a jealous, controlling, resource-extracting bitch who gets her ego strokes by making her husband feel he's not good enough.
Evolutionarily, women and men are locked into never-ending combat over the issue of sex. Most women will, understandably, use any weapon at their disposal to win this battle—emotional and sexual blackmail, as well as laws, religion, mindless moralizing—to beat down a man’s sexuality.
So unless he's desperate for kids, monogamous marriage is a bad deal for a man with normal testosterone levels, guaranteed to lead to frustrated desires for freedom and sexual variety.
Best of luck for the future, brother! Use your new freedom wisely—for example, by taking a long vacation in a male needs-friendly Asian country, as I'm about to do.
Remember, the lucky ones in life are usually those who make their own luck, by being smart in their choices.
Hey SamGomez,
Right now, you're obviously still seething with resentment toward your soon-to-be ex-wife.
Why not seek out a good counselor (PM me if you need one), to help get over unresolved anger—because the person you're most hurting at this point is yourself!
Try to forgive your wife, who sounds fairly typical—hard-wired and programmed with a woman's biological and cultural life priorities, which tend to be quite different from those of a man. It may help to remember: if you had your wife's hormones and conditioning, you'd very likely also have acted the role of a jealous, controlling, resource-extracting bitch who gets her ego strokes by making her husband feel he's not good enough.
Evolutionarily, women and men are locked into never-ending combat over the issue of sex. Most women will, understandably, use any weapon at their disposal to win this battle—emotional and sexual blackmail, as well as laws, religion, mindless moralizing—to beat down a man’s sexuality.
So unless he's desperate for kids, monogamous marriage is a bad deal for a man with normal testosterone levels, guaranteed to lead to frustrated desires for freedom and sexual variety.
Best of luck for the future, brother! Use your new freedom wisely—for example, by taking a long vacation in a male needs-friendly Asian country, as I'm about to do.
Remember, the lucky ones in life are usually those who make their own luck, by being smart in their choices.
The first time you've ever written anything I've found to be not irritating (mostly - except the Asian country part). I wish all your posts were like this one.
Ah yes, the safety deposit box. A divorce lawyer's favorite target. SDBs easily accessed via court orders.
Is that because you don't see them as real people? Just curious. All my friends are women, I generally can't stand other men, they are like walking talking lamposts to me, not actual people.
Good on you for keeping a warchest.
Well you are just a fucking kill-joy dude!
To SamGomez.
Congratulations man you are free and it will feel like you have been taken out of the matrix.Your situation
is similar to mine as I had no kids but my now ex-wife did work.
The best thing I did was to take the divorce diet and I instantly shed 97 pounds of nagging accusing
mind game playing BITCH...hell my cellphone contract lasted longer than my marriage LOL
I got rid of my ex on Thanksgiving weekend 10 years ago this Thanksgiving.....and I am eternally thankfull
that I did it....what was really sweet was that my income doubled a year after I chucked her to the wayside.
The best advice I can give you is that living better is the best revenge LOL
As Tant said...if you have the means and the time splurge on a fantasty trip to Thailand and fuck your brains
out and live it up....hell rub some salt in the wounds for self healing and send the EX some postcards LOL
Congrats man.
SR
my comment would be there are two sides to every story.
not to judge you,
but i know my wife would have her version of events and i would have mine.
you seem over critical of her, so i wonder why did you marry her in the first place,
and i guess my only advice would be not to make the same mistake,
married for thirty years its not perfect,
but i have kids, and im honestly just a sucker a big fear for me would be making the same mistake.
and i guess i have noticed maybe im wrong a lot of guys on here seem to dis like women in general.whether an ex or an escort they seem to hold a general dislike for the fairer sex. i think well some of them just well have an axe to grind or are not over it.
just my thoughts
not to judge you,
but i know my wife would have her version of events and i would have mine.
you seem over critical of her, so i wonder why did you marry her in the first place,
and i guess my only advice would be not to make the same mistake,
married for thirty years its not perfect,
but i have kids, and im honestly just a sucker a big fear for me would be making the same mistake.
and i guess i have noticed maybe im wrong a lot of guys on here seem to dis like women in general.whether an ex or an escort they seem to hold a general dislike for the fairer sex. i think well some of them just well have an axe to grind or are not over it.
just my thoughts
We all play roles. When we are playing the role of boyfriend / girlfriend, it is often beautiful. When we transition to the roles of husband / wife, it often gets ugly.
From my male perspective it seems women make a bigger change than men. Maybe I am wrong, maybe we both change. But that sexy horny easygoing fun-loving girlfriend role seems to vapourize so fast.
From my male perspective it seems women make a bigger change than men. Maybe I am wrong, maybe we both change. But that sexy horny easygoing fun-loving girlfriend role seems to vapourize so fast.
There are people out there that are just Emotional Vampires. Men and women share in the categorization. There is a book by that name, and it is quite accurate. Saw my wife in there so clearly, and wonder why I am still with her. Well, happend to still love her, but it is a strange relationship. You would enjoy reading it.
