why i prefer not to accept advance bookings

[cherise]

my date that was scheduled for 7pm last night ,(and had the courtesy to say he was running a bit late) just showed up 15 mins ago! granted ,i prefer to only have one playdate per day,but i do have a life. and alot could have been accomplished in more than 8 hours spent waiting and responding to yet another text saying he was on his way.

had i not seen the gentleman before i would have chalked it up to a WOT after the second "running late" text.

we all have busy lives i get that,but if you have that many unpredictable priorities, kindly stick to short notice appointments

now,i must sleep 6 am comes early

 

[PlayfulAlex]

my date that was scheduled for 7pm last night ,(and had the courtesy to say he was running a bit late) just showed up 15 mins ago! granted ,i prefer to only have one playdate per day,but i do have a life. and alot could have been accomplished in more than 8 hours spent waiting and responding to yet another text saying he was on his way.

had i not seen the gentleman before i would have chalked it up to a WOT after the second "running late" text.

we all have busy lives i get that,but if you have that many unpredictable priorities, kindly stick to short notice appointments

now,i must sleep 6 am comes early

In a situation like that, I simply wouldn't take that visitor after a certain amount of time, maybe 9pm. I think what you're saying is that, with your one-date-per-day rule, your business would have blanked that day. To me, my mental wellness, and a good nights' sleep, is more important than the cash.

Developing strong boundaries, and then defending them, is not easy work for most of us, and that applies to SPs (and pooners) too.

Pre-booking does have some challenges, but I wouldn't paint every experience with the same brush. This was likely a one-off situation, and this just happened to be the way things turned out.

I am known for my pre-booking preference. I can look at the week ahead, and plan my life around the appointments I know are coming up. Every once in a while, someone will call to see if I'm available on short notice. Sometimes I am, but mostly I'm not. Some of my bookings are weeks in advance, even months in advance from out-of-town friends. I rarely have a cancellation or a re-schedule, and almost never a no-show.

I am strict with my boundaries, in this life and in my personal life. I had to learn this the hard way, after too many times the other party thought that their time was more important than mine! I understand that we're all trying to make a living but, if I can paraphrase Miss JJ in another recent thread, people only treat us the way we allow them to treat us. This has nothing to do with pre-bookings or last-minute bookings...all of life requires the development of strong boundaries and self-care.

Take good care of yourself, Miss Cherise. I hope your day goes OK with the lack of sleep, and maybe you can catch a nap later on! xox

 

[Pantherdash]

Almost 9 hours late!?!?

That's what most people would call rude.

Panther

 

[cherise]

Almost 9 hours late!?!?

That's what most people would call rude.

Panther

haha he said "i thought you were cool but i guess i was wrong" after i bitched him out and called him a WOT

 

[cherise]

OH, ITS NOT LIKE I WAS STILL READY AND WAITNG AT THAT HOUR . AND UNFORTUNATELY THE SERVICE REFLECTED MY TIRED STATE
sorry caps lock
he paid for the hour and massage
and left after a 15 minute quickie lolz

 

[cherise]

In a situation like that, I simply wouldn't take that visitor after a certain amount of time, maybe 9pm. I think what you're saying is that, with your one-date-per-day rule, your business would have blanked that day. To me, my mental wellness, and a good nights' sleep, is more important than the cash.

/QUOTE]

oh it wasnt about the cash ....i was ready to tell him to piss off or just not answer the door as if i had fallen asleep..............................
2 reasons i saw him anyway
1))that little bit of Domme in me wanted to make him squirm and
2)i was too curious for my own good as a child, and that still holds true today

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

my date that was scheduled for 7pm last night ,(and had the courtesy to say he was running a bit late) just showed up 15 mins ago! granted ,i prefer to only have one playdate per day,but i do have a life. and alot could have been accomplished in more than 8 hours spent waiting and responding to yet another text saying he was on his way.

had i not seen the gentleman before i would have chalked it up to a WOT after the second "running late" text.

we all have busy lives i get that,but if you have that many unpredictable priorities, kindly stick to short notice appointments

now,i must sleep 6 am comes early

That's REALLY an unacceptable pushing of your boundaries! That's not LATE, that's a whole other appointment. Like you, cherise, I prefer to see a limited number of guests per day, so I rarely have a situation where running late becomes an issue. I've had a couple of guests run into trouble and push things back by up to 45 minutes, and if they have been clear and communicative, I'm fine with that. Shit happens, right?? However, if it's over an hour, please give it up, because I have. Let me know, "Hey, the shit has hit the fan and I can't get there...so sorry!" Feel free to copy, paste and save it in your phone. At the 60 minutes late mark, your appointment is over, and without a really REALLY clear explanation, you're going on my Do Not See/ Waste of Time list. Sorry you were treated so callously cherise...and if the 8 hours late notice didn't sever the relationship for me, the snarky text would have.

Sleep well and dream of generous gentlemen...

 

[cherise]

Sleep well and dream of generous gentlemen...

oh he is definately on the do not see list !
but i think 200 for a few minutes of attitude and lackluster service was quite generous
i told him if i had half a mind at that hour i would have simply taken the money and shown him the door

 

[Cock Throppled]

So, when this idiot finally arrived - what was the excuse for such a long delay?
At any point did you ask why he didn't just give up and make an appointment for another day?

 

[cherise]

I don't mind waiting for hours for regular, respectful clients when they keep me updated and my schedule can accommodate them.

What I dislike is when they say they'll get right back to me and let me know for sure ... and then I don't hear from them again, so I'm left hanging, wondering if ...

oh he was keeping me posted thats why i was still awake! hed text to say he was finally on his way ,then id get a text half hour later saying would i rather he come in the morning?or some such crap ....i was truly shocked when he texted that he was at my door!

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

oh he is definately on the do not see list !
but i think 200 for a few minutes of attitude and lackluster service was quite generous
i told him if i had half a mind at that hour i would have simply taken the money and shown him the door

I agree! I don't think I'd have held it together so politely!

 

[CLUB78]

Holy crap I would have lost it. I have real privacy issues, in that I like privacy. I mean,I don't tear a strip off people have dropped by to see a girl during working hours, but if you came here at 3am I'd likely be pretty pissed. I wouldn't answer the door or anything, but I'd still be annoyed as hell.

 

[Elle Diablo]

I booked a guy some time in the afternoon for an evening app, he didn't show until an hour and half later ... I hadn't been expecting anyone, so was a bit surprised when the door buzzed and it was the guy for the booking - response "Yea! You're not coming up."

What was his excuse? "I was eating dinner." :doh: Well, bon appetit mon ami.

Boundaries are set for a reason and one of the reasons is not so that they be tested.

 

[hornygandalf]

OH, ITS NOT LIKE I WAS STILL READY AND WAITNG AT THAT HOUR . AND UNFORTUNATELY THE SERVICE REFLECTED MY TIRED STATE
sorry caps lock
he paid for the hour and massage
and left after a 15 minute quickie lolz

I think you were extremely generous and he was extremely self-centered. As if you don't have a life or anything else and can wait 8 hours for him. He should have been paying you for the eight hours. Rescheduling would have made a lot more sense... but then, when someone is thinking with their little head, where does sense come into it?

 

[badbadboy]

3 AM?

cherise, you were way too accommodating IMHO. If you are prepared to work late that is one thing but being strung along since 7 PM just deserved to be put on the list of WOT's.

That guy gives other pooners a bad rep for behaving that way.

 

[jlangley]

3 AM?

cherise, you were way too accommodating IMHO. If you are prepared to work late that is one thing but being strung along since 7 PM just deserved to be put on the list of WOT's.

That guy gives other pooners a bad rep for behaving that way.

+1

Cherise you are way too nice.

 

[Peyton Anders]

There is no situation in this day and age where showing up 9 hours late is acceptable. Hell, 7 years olds have cell phones now and know how to use them to stay in contact with people. This isn't the 1880s where he had to traverse a surging river and many a-mountainous plain on horseback. If someone shows up at my house at 3am the world nuclear destruction is imminent or the apocalypse is nigh because this girly likes her sleep.

I used to have issues with no-showing on pre-books, mostly due to life getting in the way or just plain forgetfulness. I can't really do shorter notice stuff due to my school schedule, but it does alleviate a lot those problems. If someone pre-books more than a week in advance I usually ask them to confirm twice: the week before and the day before as well. If I don't hear anything in reasonable amount of time then I don't hold the appointment. That's just what's worked for me though, and even I don't think that would have stopped Jerky McAssFace from showing up 9 hours later. I also don't give out my incall details until the person has parked in the area, but I'd still be livid if someone tried to call/text me at 3am to tell me they're here and ready to go.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

HAAaaaaa......

AKA LimpDick McPoobreath

Don`t forget their buddy, Mr Hot GarbagePits!

 

[cherise]

he was a good semi regular, prior to this ,though..... so it put me in an awkward position. and i had stopped agreeing to see him at around 11. he just kept texting as though he wasnt aware of my texts. soooo,seeing as how he showed up at that hour i decided to let him in, take his cash ,and see him on his way

 

[overdone]

8-9 hours late for an appointment. Wow and he did|nt feel anything was wrong with that?

you waited 8-9hrs

and he's the problem, lol

this whole thread, is it still April Fools day?