Scotty2,
I think that is a sign there is a problem if she is taking out the ashtray while your .... at work...
hint...If things are going right, there should not be any ashtray play, but the signs your doing something good would include, some moaning, some movement, and maybe some squirting!!!
P.S. Moaning should not sound like someone is in pain,
P.S.S. Movement, should not look like someone is either A). trying to get you to stop, or B). someone looking to find an ashtray to throw at you!
The interesting thing about daty, I would think, ladies correct me if I am wrong, most ladies will let you try as long as you want to get it right. Sorta MDATY.... Not sure what happens if teeth are involved...