What makes an excellent experience with an Escort?

[MariahMae]

Hey Guys,

So.. call me curious.. I can only operate from my personal experience and feedback from clients so far.. considering I've only been in the biz for a short couple of month's this doesn't go so far... or rather, as far as I'd like when it comes to showing up for an appointment and giving you men what you are most seeking ... and then some

Please do indulge my curiosity.. what matters most? what makes your experience with an escort the most exceptional and memorable ever? .. an inquiring mind wants to know. ~Mariah xo

 

[thebuttdance continues]

I believe mutual respect, a great sense of humour, a fun-loving bubbly personality, and of course, chemistry

Being a sexy fox helps too

good luck!

 

[UhOh]

Don't be fake. Don't pretend its something its not. don't try to be an actress.
Do be chill. Maybe tell how your day is going and if there something you dont like doing might want to casually mention it.
Don't do anything your not comfortable with

 

[bcneil]

Some of it is common sense.
Like this week I had a session, half way through at intermission asks if I would like her to put the stereo on.
Sure.
Then she puts on some extra loud rap music.
I am nearly 40........maybe figure out what 40 year old guys might like?

 

[yazoo]

For me it is all about the fantasy, so being the actress is key.

I see girls when I walk down the street that due to a combination of self-confidence, money, situation, looks, I could never land in real life. But, for a reasonable sum, I can experience what I would otherwise I would never experience. And they provide me with the illusion that it all is real.

A hot, toned body turns me on. Good skill and an extensive menu makes me feel I got value. But it is the fantasy that makes me repeat.

 

[MariahMae]

One of the upsides of the internet is the ease with which it makes all things readily available, including sex.
One of the downside of this IMO is the mass 'commodification' and commercialization of sex, which I distinguish from the traditional interactions between SPs and their clients.
Remember the days when you could meet an SP in a bar at a hotel and things would simply unfold over a cocktail?

Part of the reason why is see this as a negative is because the boundaries between the business element and the play element tend to dissolve.
In my view this has resulted in some, let's say, less savvy SPs being to open about the fact that they are financially ambitious.
Financial ambition in itself is not a bad thing but keeping that aspect hidden, in my view, is part of the way that an SP maintains her mystique.

Let's face it, we all know the bottom line is the dollar bill, but personally I want that mystique.
If I pay for a GFE for example, its not just because I want DFK and DATY, its because I want to feel like I am special and unique.
That's why SPs with game insist that the donation be placed in a envelope and left discretely in some predetermined place.
It eliminates the money talk so that the fantasy can begin.

Of course for some guys the money/power thing is a turn on so their opinions my differ slightly.

Additionally, don't see to many clients in a day.
If you are beat and incomplete then its going to be apparent that you don't want to be there, and being there is also part of maintaining the mystique.
My personal view is that escorting should not be someone's only source of income.
It seems commonsensical to me that financial pressures can intefere with one's ability to really let go and be in the moment. But, of course I am idealizing.

It also doesn't hurt to read some books and now how to converse.
I have never seen Emmanulle in Victoria for example, but she's obviously a brainy lady.
It really makes me want to hump her brains out! :eyebrows:

I love this.. and was exactly what I was hoping for. I feel the same way about reviews from clients.. very much appreciated but please be discreet. Who I am in an hour with you is not who I am in an hour with someone else. I show up .. and our individual personalities will dictate how the hour unfolds. I've never been good at 'faking it' so if you're looking for a guarantee then you should probably move on.. be real.. tell me what you want.. or let me feel that out... Every experience is brand new, and every person is unique.. let go of assumptions and just be. It usually works out and the odd time it doesn't.. thems the ropes. Thanks for this.. love it. xo

 

[MariahMae]

Some of it is common sense.
Like this week I had a session, half way through at intermission asks if I would like her to put the stereo on.
Sure.
Then she puts on some extra loud rap music.
I am nearly 40........maybe figure out what 40 year old guys might like?

Haha.. maybe you should book with someone older than 19 .. hint hint

 

[MariahMae]

I am enamoured..

I was honestly expecting some trashy.. deep throat.. take it anywhere responses and am so pleasantly surprised by the honesty and intellectually stimulating responses. Keep them coming.. I'm actually getting a little turned on :eyebrows: ~Mariah xo

 

[steverino]

Eye contact.

 

[MariahMae]

That's good too...

well ya.. but who needs to state the obvious haha

 

[MariahMae]

I love analogies.

Well then.. you would probably do well to come in for a lube job and an oil change ;-P hehehe

 

[Dickson]

One of the upsides of the internet is the ease with which it makes all things readily available, including sex.
One of the downsides of this IMO is the mass 'commodification' and commercialization of sex, which I distinguish from the traditional interactions between SPs and their clients.
Remember the days when you could meet an SP in a bar at a hotel and things would simply unfold over a cocktail?

Part of the reason why is see this as a negative is because the boundaries between the business element and the play element tend to dissolve.
In my view this has resulted in some, let's say, less savvy SPs being too open about the fact that they are financially ambitious.
Financial ambition in itself is not a bad thing but keeping that aspect hidden, in my view, is part of the way that an SP maintains her mystique.

Let's face it, we all know the bottom line is the dollar bill, but personally I want that mystique.
If I pay for a GFE for example, its not just because I want DFK and DATY, its because I want to feel like I am special and unique.
That's why SPs with game insist that the donation be placed in a envelope and left discretely in some predetermined place.
It eliminates the money talk so that the fantasy can begin.

Of course for some guys the money/power thing is a turn on so their opinions my differ slightly.

Additionally, don't see too many clients in a day.
If you are beat and incomplete then its going to be apparent that you don't want to be there, and being there is also part of maintaining the mystique.
My personal view is that escorting should not be someone's only source of income.
It seems commonsensical to me that financial pressures can intefere with one's ability to really let go and be in the moment. But, of course I am idealizing.

It also doesn't hurt to read some books and now how to converse.
I have never seen Emmanulle in Victoria for example, but she's obviously a brainy lady.
It really makes me want to hump her brains out! :eyebrows:

Second that. I want to feel wanted and to be the only thing you are thinking of during our session. Get into the role and play it do not jump in and out. Personally I like longer sessions so I might not be the right guy to ask.

 

[Caramel]

Second that. I want to feel wanted and to be the only thing you are thinking of during our session. Get into the role and play it do not jump in and out. Personally I like longer sessions so I might not be the right guy to ask.

you really make the girls work hard for their money!:thumb: lol

 

[Dickson]

you really make the girls work hard for their money!:thumb: lol

OH baby, oh baby, you have no idea how hard some need to work. Some SP can handle it and the relationship is a blast, others well they just want a fast buck and fuck.

Give me more of what I want and I give more of what they want - $$$.

 

[Justin Beaver]

I'd say that some of the best sessions I've had were with SPs that I would descibe as being very aware and present which seems to help them use their intuition for where to take the session.We also tend to reflect the tendencies of others around us so seeing an SP that's calm and open-minded and ready for whatever direction we decide to go can make for a really creative and memorable experience.
I've had a few sessions at agencies where the girl was lated and admitted at the start that she had some personal stuff going on her mind and it was obvious that she was just going through a routine to get through the session.It was a pretty good routine and she did the job but you can't help feeling like another customer when her heart's not in it and she's going by a script.

I'd imagine it would be tough to bring that to every session on every shift especially,like you're saying,on a busy night with multiple customers but at least if you can go in at the start of a shift in a good clear headspace,it should make a better night for you and your clients.

On a more practical note,don't by skimpy with the lube when it comes time for the handjob.:nod:

 

[AA_Train]

I love this.. and was exactly what I was hoping for. I feel the same way about reviews from clients.. very much appreciated but please be discreet. Who I am in an hour with you is not who I am in an hour with someone else. I show up .. and our individual personalities will dictate how the hour unfolds. I've never been good at 'faking it' so if you're looking for a guarantee then you should probably move on.. be real.. tell me what you want.. or let me feel that out... Every experience is brand new, and every person is unique.. let go of assumptions and just be. It usually works out and the odd time it doesn't.. thems the ropes. Thanks for this.. love it. xo

Couldn't of said it better myself

To add to this, I think the best ladies in this business are not just adaptable but prepared for nearly anything and have to be able to be prepared to do anything with any client at any given time (relative to their personal boundaries of course). Have a closet that is stocked with lots of different outfits and lingerie so your clients have a wide selection of attire for you to wear. Have a selection of toys, oils, lube and stuff like that as well.

Also, a lot of makes makes a great session happens even before we show up at your door. Build anticipation with pictures on your website and with your advertisements and make sure all relevant information is easy to find. When someone inquires about a booking, try to give as prompt a response as possible. For some guys, especially first timers, this can be a bit of a nerve-racking experience. making a session easy to book can take some of that pressure off. Guys come to see you to relax and to have fun so make every step along the way a pleasant one.

For me personally, I always like the sessions where the ladies are basically just themselves, only under a different name, especially in the first encounter. I think it takes time to build a rapport with a lady, though as you said, every person is different and some chemistry is instantaneous, while other times it takes a bit of time to develop. Once I am more comfortable with a lady, then we can explore some of my fantasies and fetishes a little bit deeper

 

[Caramel]

We are purchasing professional services at professional rates, so, be professional.

Honestly and this is just my opinion, I don't think anyone's rates around here are professional. The average 1 hour rate is $250, that's pretty low to have sex with a total complete stranger for a whole 60 minutes, sometimes multiple times. Not to mention the supplies, condoms, lube, wipes, mouthwash, clean sheets towels, makeup etc etc, that the ladies have to provide, and the incall location...Most women who are worth seeing are not high volume, and probably only see two clients per day, so they aren't making that much and doing a lot of dirty work. So I think clients need to lower their expectations or shell out another $250 and go see a high end provider.

 

[thehedonist]

Dig your nails into his back. Wrap your legs around him. Caress him. Moan softly in his ear. Talk a bit dirty once in a while. Never ask for permission (e.g. "Would you like me to...?"). Don't act too over-the-top (no fake screaming or comments on how hot/good/big he is, unless he really is those things). And of course make eye contact and kiss. Basically, act how you would around a new boyfriend or fwb. If you can squirt, it would be a nice bonus.

I didn't say it would be easy.

 

[Caramel]

This sounds like you really don’t want to be doing “Dirty” work.
In capitalism, you can charge what the market will bear.
If you feel you’re not being paid enough, when others charge $160 with far fewer restrictions for an hour then there are only two options available in Capitalism.

#1. Bid rigging, where you and the other “High end” ladies all decide to bump up to $350/h. I suspect you’ll drive a lot of client to the “Lower end” if that happened.

#2. Do something to add value, like less restrictions, MSOG, digits, something to justify the extra $’s (I can’t find you on ERS or any website, so if I’m off about what you offer, then I apologise. I only assume that you would have restrictions as I seem to find that the higher donations = less options)

And lastly, not wanting to be someone’s “dirty” job for the day, I think you’ve pretty much turned me off.

Actually its the other way around, the ladies who charge less usually have a lot less restrictions, and ladies who charge more basically have everything covered probably even dental dams for daty! They're the ones who shouldn't be in this business if they can't handle the dirty work...And you have no idea who I am or what I do so you shouldn't make any assumptions.

I'm pretty sure guys will not be so desperate to save a couple of bucks to go low end if they are more suited for higher end ladies.

 

[Larry Storch]

Honestly and this is just my opinion, I don't think anyone's rates around here are professional. The average 1 hour rate is $250, that's pretty low to have sex with a total complete stranger for a whole 60 minutes, sometimes multiple times. Not to mention the supplies, condoms, lube, wipes, mouthwash, clean sheets towels, makeup etc etc, that the ladies have to provide, and the incall location...Most women who are worth seeing are not high volume, and probably only see two clients per day, so they aren't making that much and doing a lot of dirty work. So I think clients need to lower their expectations or shell out another $250 and go see a high end provider.

Okay let's see: Two clients per day @ "a whole 60 minutes" each @ $250/hr. That's $500/day.
Lets say 5 days a week, that's $2500/week, $5000 every two weeks, $10,000 per month.
Say $110,000/yr (with one month off).
That's not bad coin when you consider that the amount reported to CRA might be half of that (depending on the SP of course).
If you consider this to be "dirty work" then perhaps you are in the wrong business (if you are an SP).
Clients need to "lower their expectations"? No one seems to asking for anything over the top and we all expect to pay more for more time or any 'extras'.
Most of the comments in this thread are positive and constructive in response to and honest question from someone new to the business; with the exception of yours.