Dear aaahead,
I've been hobbying for over a decade, sometimes while married, sometimes while in a relationship with a "significant other" and sometimes while single. I have several suggestions for you; like everything said on an internet forum it is gratis and therefore you may take it or leave it as you wish.
(1) Ignore the sanctimonious and hypocritical statements previously expressed by some of our colleagues. The vast majority of this great country's citizens regard ANY participation in the sex trade business (married vs. single, client vs. SP) with an odd combination of derision, resentment, curiousity and sometimes envy. Most think that paying large sums of money to temporarily satisfy a basic biological imperative is either pathetic, exploitative, or both. No hobbyist has the right to criticize a colleague's decision to participate in this business. We all have our reasons for pooning, numerous and complex as they are, and yet we are all doing something "wrong" according to the current social and moral norms. Feel bad?? Then go to church/synagogue/mosque/temple, give to charity, volunteer at a food bank, help a fellow human being in need, etc. But comments about infidelity are big stones in this proverbial glass house of pooning.
(2) SPs do not care about your marital status. They care about getting paid for the service they provide, just like any other job. They are certainly not surprised when they discover that a particular client is married, and 99% are not stupid or hypocritical enough to make a judgemental comment. So the "ring thing" is up to you and the advantages and disadvantages have been well-discussed in the previous posts. I generally did not wear my ring, as I found the few times that it became a conversation topic to be intrusive. The SPs were clearly just making polite conversation but I was not interested in talking about my wife. I pooned to forget, not to remember.
3) Both of the above being said, I think it was Avery who put it best in his usual serving of insightful jocularity - usually we married guys do wait longer than a month! A REAL relationship with a compatible woman is a wonderful thing. While it eludes many of us, even those who may think they've found it, it is still a worthy and noble goal. For this reason alone I would recommend you give your current relationship more attention before you begin (or return to) your pooning adventures. You should also be aware that there are other issues with pooning while married, such as concerns about passing STDs to your wife, needing to employ various measures to avoid being caught (alibis (e.g. gym, work), showers, etc.), and being evasive about finances (she may wonder where hundreds of dollars are going each month).
Good luck, aaahead.
VF
Most of us waited several years!
