the hooker you pick is a reflection on you,

[sevenofnine]

I think it was a tom Clancy novel, that I first ever came across this,
in it the Russians would interview the hookers the guy has been with,
the thinking was the sex and the hooker you choose, reveals more about you then one can imagine

but I have come across it through out literature and else where,

I mean not to knock anybody,

but what do you think it says about you that you prefer young girls the younger the better that can't speak English,
or are poor in English

or your so stressed put about a number,

I guess we could all be analyzed for paying for sex,
are we all just a bunch of fucking predators there is that,

to be honest I don't really know what I would say if someone called me a predator
in know I have been with one lady for a dozen years, and are friends as much as anything,

but am I preying on her financial or emotional situation exploiting her vulnerabilities to my own ends?
I dunno
in the end all I can say in my defence is I know her she knows me, and I think we both hope we have done right by each other,

but its only a hope and I pray and a roll of the dice to be honest.

again not really meaning to attack anyone, I have been with younger girls as well,
and all I have to stand on is a hope I have done the right thing

and not really a predator

just something to think about
you should spend more time listening to yourself, and what you sound like

I think were very naïve about the picture we paint of our self.

 

[jamasianman]

Literature is one of the worst places to find real examples of the industry. In the novel Never Go Back by Lee Child, protagonist Jack Reacher uses a pay phone to get a provider to come to him for 500 an hour outcall. To a jeep. The provider thinks its a threeway with jack's female friend, but they get her to go undercover and get an address from an office.

The amount of falseness in this scenario is laughable. Its because we as clients know that is not how providers outcall, not for that much, not from a payphone, and not in new york city. But the author doesn't know this and simply makes up a plot point on what they think of how it is. So to base this entire thread on a fictional book by Tom Clancy really has no real bearing for the theme.

If someone gets a bng, a hh, a full hour, a 90 min, a 2 hour, 4 hour dinner date, 24 hours, it really doesn't matter who he sees. Seeing a fob kgirl at a shared incall meeting a mamasan doesn't mean you are predatory. Neither does going to an mp or seeing a 500 an hour provider. Providers offer time and services for money. No one is being exploited if it is done correctly and both parties are satisfied. The provider wants money. The client wants her time. Its as simple as that.

Its more predatory to pretend to love a woman and get her into bed and lie to her and leave her as soon as you are done with her. And I know a lot of guys who do that.

 

[Caramel]

" the hooker you pick is a reflection on you, "

hah, I think you may be right! it could very well be, especially considering the prices and locations etc, for example, if you're seeing a very high class expensive lady for a dinner date and dropping a huge chunk of cash, you are probably a well off or wealthy person yourself and educated with a successful career etc. If you're getting a BnG from a lower rate girl in a lower priced town where real estate isn't as high as downtown, then maybe you are a simple man who has a modest income.

I totally know that it can happen the other way though, the simple modest poor guy can save up over months and go and see that high class lady, and that CEO guy in the 5000 dollar suit just prefers fast food ie - a quick BnG or whatever with a micro lady, or even a young secret addict who does quickies or something in a not so nice place/area etc. But this scenario would depend on the personality and not economic status, maybe the poor guy is just a careful person, someone who likes to enjoy life and the little things and prefers quality over quantity....and maybe the CEO is a workaholic and a cheapskate and gets off on risk taking or just doesn't give a crap. Anyways I'm rambling and I probably don't make any sense I should go to bed...

 

[jamasianman]

Nah that makes perfect sense Caramel. I've done every kind of session length, from bng to 90 min. Just becauseyou want good and short oral sex vs a slow passionate and enjoyable 90 min session with more time to forge a connection doesn't label you as one way or the other. Sure there are guys out there that used to prowl craiglist for the literal cheapest option, as if services and looks and quality didn't matter and you just want the thrill of the cheapest sex you can get. But does that make them a predator? Does visiting micros and seeing fobs make you a predator as well? I don't think so. You know yourself, so you go out and do it the way you want. To say that only doing 2 hour sessions with high priced providers makes you less a predator than anyone else is a huge fallacy in my opinion.

The only real predators are the ones who are actually exploitative in this industry, such as pimps, irreputable agencies, time wasters, thieves, scam artists, prank callers, and anyone who exploits another.