sex addiction

[encarsia]

After reading the post on leaving the hobby. I decided to post a question to the group. How many here consider themselves addicted to sex. And if so is this your only addiction or do you have others.


I will start I am addicted to sex and don't know how many people I have been with but I always enjoy my time in the sack

I am also an alcoholic but it does not effect my life to much. I enjoy drinking with friends and it is a great way to relax after work.

I am also a workaholic

Has any one here gone to a sexaholic meeting. The thought of one reminds me of Nip Tuck

 

[not2old]

I don't know the definition or parameters that define sex addiction, but I suspect I might fit the description.

If I had a choice of an addiction to kick, I would probably tackle the alcohol before I started to cut done on the sex, but that's just me.

 

[VanessaofBC]

This is what my doctor told me: You know it's a problem when it effects your life. Does it affect your life?

Only when you realize it is a problem can you do something to change it.

edit: I would never go to a meeting. There might be like minded people there, but they can also be a bad influence. If you can afford to poon then that means you can afford private counselling.

 

[VanessaofBC]

I know that Canadians think that there is a pill and/or shrink to solve all your problems, but I would never advise anyone to “get counselling”, ever.

Seriously, I good friend or a bartender that’s already heard it all and knows what’s coming next is all you need.

If you seek counselling, you may as well just join a cult and be told how to brush your hair.

Hang on...so it is better to go to meeting? You do not thinl they are trying to brainwash you there? Counselling gives you someone to talk to and figure and the WHYs and HOWs of what to do! In PRIVATE!

 

[VanessaofBC]

It’s just the same thing, but the private school version.
A bartender doesn’t really care, but he knows a shit load more about human nature than a shrink who studied people from books.
A good friend has your back and will be honest and blunt when needed.

I shrink is someone who makes money off of your troubles.
I’ve never heard of a bartender going to a trial and helping a murderer or child molester walk or get parole, shrinks are the “Experts” there.

A friend is a friend, a bartender may or may not be your friend but a shrink that see’s you outside of office hours is fucking you, in more ways than one, and you pay a lot more than a bar tab for the privilege.

Shrinks are parasites, just like lawyers, we don’t really need them but they keep perpetuating their own existence as any good middle man out to take your money would.

Just talk to a friend.

okay, sure. in this conservative society you want to tell someone close to you that you are a sex addict and you have been "hiding" it from them for xxx of years!?!? Riiiiiight.
To be fair though LIJ, the OP asked

Has any one here gone to a sexaholic meeting

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And I gave my opinion. We agree to disagree here, LIJ. All advice given is in the best interest of encarsia.

edit: Have YOU been to a meeting, LIJ???

 

[Poseidon]

I find it very funny how people seek advice on their sex addiction on a escort review board

 

[mimi]

I am addicted to sex. One month without it is hell.

 

[Man in Submission]

I am addicted to sex. One month without it is hell.

No problem! A month without hockey or baseball - now that would be hell

 

[superhappyfun]

Darn, I was hoping this thread would be about sex addition, like those women who just lie there and perform addition during sex...

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Darn, I was hoping this thread would be about sex addition, like those women who just lie there and perform addition during sex...

I get it...

 

[badbadboy]

I guess you could count me in as an addicted personality.

I work a lot. Sometimes 12 - 14 hour days, usually work on weekends too and also while supposedly being on holidays. I never have my email on "holiday notification". Having said that, I do take a couple of hours off in and around lunch to play every week. I would poon a lot more if I had the time.

I still drink but 10 years ago I drank a lot more and I knew if I kept up at that rate I would be in trouble. I had been in a long legal battle that ground me down while I was starting up my own company. Substance wise I am still 420 friendly and enjoy it more rather than alcohol.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Ummm… Hate to burst your bubble, but read this link originally posted in the “What SPs really think about us...”
http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/den/415707529.html

Then think about them orgasming.
Bet I cried more than you will…

Well, in all fairness, it is only one lady's opinion but, yeah, she was pretty clear on this point and it was her first one!

"I have to voice this in the loudest possible way because I STILL get it…and I quote “I’m only here to please you, tell me what you like…that’s all I want…” barf, barf, barf….If you gave me what I wanted it would be 5 bills and your back, on the way out the door. Why are clients SO damn concerned with ‘making me cum’? The fact that they say they are only there to please me really really annoys the shit out of me. They are there to masturbate into me, and this is VERY different, ladies and gentlemen, from making love with your significant other. So guy’s please who the fuck are you kidding? We are emotional creatures, and just a little more complicated then just you plugging away at us and expecting for us to ‘cum’. Gross"

 

[VanessaofBC]

Darn, I was hoping this thread would be about sex addition, like those women who just lie there and perform addition during sex...

Okay, I interpreted it as her thinking "ok I can charge exrta for this and extra for that and then I pay the drivder and when I get home I will spend the money on this and that and....."

OR

Is he referring to her counting down the time.......

I need help......



ound:

 

[hiddencloud]

I know that Canadians think that there is a pill and/or shrink to solve all your problems, but I would never advise anyone to “get counselling”, ever.

Seriously, I good friend or a bartender that’s already heard it all and knows what’s coming next is all you need.

If you seek counselling, you may as well just join a cult and be told how to brush your hair.

I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one (what a surprise!)

I go to counseling occasionally when I'm having a problem that I'm having trouble working my way through. I have friends I talk to about these things as well but sometimes I need an unbiased third party to hear what I'm saying and help me gain perspective on the situation. I did "interview" (for lack of a better term) some counselors before choosing the one I use now to make sure her methods would work with what I was trying to accomplish. It has worked out well and I'm a better person for the experience.

 

[hiddencloud]

I don't have enough knowledge to answer that properly. If I were to guess I'd say that too many people are taking pills of every kind. As for counseling, I don't think that talking to someone about your problems is a bad idea. Lots of people don't have someone in their social circles they can trust to open themselves up to and many of them are unlikely to trust a bartender

 

[Unpossible]

I shrink is someone who makes money off of your troubles.

Bartenders do as well.

Shrinks are parasites, just like lawyers, we don’t really need them but they keep perpetuating their own existence as any good middle man out to take your money would.

You might not but a whole lot of people with schizophrenia do.

 

[badbadboy]

Being acquainted with mental health community for their care of a family member, I can safely say that if you consider them to be parasites; you have just posted the most ignorant post here on Perb in a very long time. You clearly do not understand that they are an integral part of the health community.

Note BC Govt is now reconsidering re opening Riverview because of the lack of beds in the tertiary care facilities in the lower mainland. The police forces have all complained the mental health system off loaded patients on to the streets rather than have enough care facilities to care for the psych patients.

 

[Poseidon]

The problem with the "Mentally Ill" is that the justice system protects them too much. I was physically assaulted by a mentally ill person in public. I didn't even provoke the person as I was minding my own business. He just decided to go bizerko on my ass. I ended up having a concussion as I was hit very hard over the head. I also had to take time off work due to my injuries. Luckily this mentally ill person did not have any sharp objects with them as my injuries could have been a lot worse. I asked the cops if I was able to file any assault charges. He says "you can but they will likely get off due to their mental illness" I asked my lawyer and he says this was true too.

Also there was a case where a mentally ill guy beheaded a person on a bus. He got off scott free due to his mental illness:

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/manit...ince-li-schizophrenia-interview-manitoba.html

So beware of the mentally ill as the justice system doesn't apply to them.

 

[JustJason]

This thread is lol. Counseling or programs will never "work" for anyone, ever. They cannot "fix" anything. They are however excellent ways for people who actually want change (and are mentally equipped to even understand change) to acquire the "tools" support and knowledge/help to do so. One of the reasons you will hardly hear of "success" stories is largely due to the fact that of the very few people who honestly want help (or are really ready to change), those that do find change are not "stuck" in a place where they need to speak of it or mention it. Not out of shame, but because they have literally moved on in their lives. And just like any other industry, there are many people who are terrible at their jobs. I have seen statistics where upwards of %80 of those in the helping fields (such as addictions) have had or do have addictions issues of their own. Physician heal thyself? Although I have to say meeting up with a bartender for support for dealing with alcoholism seems like a a radical new approach! Perhaps there is a book in this for you=p

 

[superhappyfun]

Quote Originally Posted by superhappyfun View Post
Darn, I was hoping this thread would be about sex addition, like those women who just lie there and perform addition during sex...

Okay, I interpreted it as her thinking "ok I can charge exrta for this and extra for that and then I pay the drivder and when I get home I will spend the money on this and that and....."

OR

Is he referring to her counting down the time.......

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The $ signs in their eyes tend to suggest the former.