Relationship Milestones

[AA_Train]

I think this is an interesting topic for discussion that should spark a lively debate so I will put it out there.

When you start seeing someone and that relationship progresses, when do you expect certain events to occur during your time together? The types of things I am referring to are things such as the following:

First time having sex
Meeting friends
Meeting family
Saying I Love You
Moving in together

Now, I know there is no set timetable when it comes to love but I think most of us have a general expectation as to the timeframe these things should occur.

So lets hear it.

 

[hiddencloud]

This is all really subjective and depends on the relationship. Some relationships have gone through those steps quite fast while others have taken quite a bit longer. Progress in a relationship is all relative and putting timelines on stuff like milestones can be very counterproductive.

 

[604rick]

I don't consider it a relationship before sex

 

[Fullhouse]

604rick, with an attitude like that, SHE may not consider it a relationship after sex.

 

[604rick]

She would be free to go before or after sex, but if we never had sex then it was just a friendship

Understand?

 

[Jackster]

Then there's the part where you get married and it all goes to shit.

 

[AA_Train]

Serves me right for asking a direct question to not be able to get a direct answer. Guess I'll have to do it myself.

I believe that if I am not having sex with someone by the 3 month point then it probably isn't worth pursuing romantically. At that point, I'd probably introduce them to my friends, as it means I expect this person to be around awhile. Once I see they can integrate themselves with my friends, I'll introduce them to my family. This would probably be around the 6 month point.

The I Love You point could happen at any time although it tends to take a longer time for me to fall in love than most people so kinda tough to put a timeframe on that, though I'd want to feel that way before I introduced them to my family.

To move in together it is a year MINIMUM. Also, I'd probably want to go on a trip with them first to see how we co-habitate.

 

[hang5507]

3rd date, Sex or move on! hahaha, it's about chemistry and it has been my experience that you have it or you don't. The rest seems to fall into place.

Regards

H

 

[way.tomuch]

AA ,, 3 months no sex....... id move on way before that , won't waste my time

 

[AA_Train]

AA ,, 3 months no sex....... id move on way before that , won't waste my time

Believe it or not, not every woman is comfortable with jumping into bed right away and I am alright with that, but there is a limit. One of the mistakes I have found with women is having sex too soon can actually do more harm than good. Plus, who says I necessarily want to jump into bed with them earlier. Not all chemistry is instantaneous and any of the markers I set in my previous statements in this thread are approximations. Relationships do progress at their own pace but need to progress. The point of this thread is to see how others feel a relationship should move along..