Receiving a compliment from an SP: Genuine, fake or a mix of both?

[VinVan]

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From my years on this planet I have discerned there are a couple of ways that folks make their path through this life:

1. Assume everyone is out to get you and treat everybody with suspicion and mistrust. Guard your valuables and you emotions. Be thrifty with your compliments because only a few are deserving of them.

2. Everyone is a friend until proven otherwise. Be happy, say hello to all; be free and honest with compliments; be emotionally available; be present. If someone negs you, move on - no biggie.

I choose the second camp because my life is just better when I’m that person. People who are close to me are happier; people who are acquaintances are happier; strangers are happier; SPs are happier.

When I’m mired in the first category the opposite is true.

And whenever I’m given a choice I’ll choose to spend time with people who are generally #2, and say farewell to people who are #1.

In my experience the folks in camp #2 know it’s a choice to be there and are aware of the benefits it bestows upon them, and those in their lives; and the folks in camp #1 are often unaware that a camp #2 even exists.

 

[westwoody]

Camp#1 includes people who have to win every interaction.
An example is people who have to get a discount on everything they buy, even if it’s fifty cents on an extension cord. (Yes I have seen contractors do this at Rona and Home Depot)

 

[rubylabellexo]

2. Everyone is a friend until proven otherwise. Be happy, say hello to all; be free and honest with compliments; be emotionally available; be present. If someone negs you, move on - no biggie.

I love this perspective.

When SPs compliment guys, we are often noticing specific details - for example, lovely eyes, or a nice smile, or strong shoulders.
Do your best to simply accept the compliment as genuine and enjoy it. It's an opportunity to brighten your day

 

[freakydeaky1]

From my years on this planet I have discerned there are a couple of ways that folks make their path through this life:

1. Assume everyone is out to get you and treat everybody with suspicion and mistrust. Guard your valuables and you emotions. Be thrifty with your compliments because only a few are deserving of them.

2. Everyone is a friend until proven otherwise. Be happy, say hello to all; be free and honest with compliments; be emotionally available; be present. If someone negs you, move on - no biggie.

I choose the second camp because my life is just better when I’m that person. People who are close to me are happier; people who are acquaintances are happier; strangers are happier; SPs are happier.

When I’m mired in the first category the opposite is true.

And whenever I’m given a choice I’ll choose to spend time with people who are generally #2, and say farewell to people who are #1.

In my experience the folks in camp #2 know it’s a choice to be there and are aware of the benefits it bestows upon them, and those in their lives; and the folks in camp #1 are often unaware that a camp #2 even exists.

If you go through life being inauthentic for fear of getting abandoned or hurt, you aren’t truly living.

I agree it’s much more joyful to try to trust everyone and know that if you get hurt or betrayed by someone, it might sting for a bit, but in the end you showed up in the best possible way and the karma is theirs to bear.

 

[VinVan]

I love this perspective.

When SPs compliment guys, we are often noticing specific details - for example, lovely eyes, or a nice smile, or strong shoulders.
Do your best to simply accept the compliment as genuine and enjoy it. It's an opportunity to brighten your day

Totally.

I find it kind of funny the guys on this forum who think every provider is a grifter out to milk every penny out of every client; any action performed with the sole intent of adding to their bank account. Like there can’t be any human connection in the most human of endeavors.