What would you do if you found out your man paid and had sex with another working girl? While you were together. Just a question.
Question for the working girls with boyfriends...
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and not being a "Working Girl" (some of us were unlucky enuff to be borne as men
), but I suggest that you tell him you would like to be invited to partake next time .
Bottom line: If you are SPing and he tells you he is "wondering", my suggestion is to join him, because that is really the only fair way to deal with the urge. The Business is so personal that it would be hypocritical to suggest otherwise. The common excuse: "it is my business and not for pleasure" is simply a useless rationalization.
My 2 cents ... T (gawd how I wish I had been borne as a beautiful Babe )
and not being a "Working Girl" (some of us were unlucky enuff to be borne as men
), but I suggest that you tell him you would like to be invited to partake next time .Bottom line: If you are SPing and he tells you he is "wondering", my suggestion is to join him, because that is really the only fair way to deal with the urge. The Business is so personal that it would be hypocritical to suggest otherwise. The common excuse: "it is my business and not for pleasure" is simply a useless rationalization.
My 2 cents ... T (gawd how I wish I had been borne as a beautiful Babe
)
So you are saying that guys who are the bf of an sp should be entitled to pay other sp's for service?
What you should do
Maybe you can arrange to get it for him for free, then he would really know you love him!!
Just kidding, stryker makes a good point in his question, does he know what you do? cause if he does then its kinda tough to put all the laws down and expect he has to live by them. Just remember, he is not real likely to fall in love with any of these girls, but on the other hand if he thinks your work at the post office then thats a different matter. You being upset for him doing it certainly isn't any different than the other 100% of SO's if they knew.
Good luck on this one!!
Maybe you can arrange to get it for him for free, then he would really know you love him!!
Just kidding, stryker makes a good point in his question, does he know what you do? cause if he does then its kinda tough to put all the laws down and expect he has to live by them. Just remember, he is not real likely to fall in love with any of these girls, but on the other hand if he thinks your work at the post office then thats a different matter. You being upset for him doing it certainly isn't any different than the other 100% of SO's if they knew.
Good luck on this one!!
these questions are always fun...
whether i enjoy a session with a client or not is irrelevent. the point is that i'm working, and not paying. as well, i'm not doing sessions for free either.
obviously the real point is whether your boyfriend is doing something you both agreed upon or not. i am more than positive that anyone would have this discussion. thats a no brainer. its either okay or not, and your man is either respecting these decisions or not.
IMHO...if my guy wanted to work; see women who were paying him for sessions, i wouldn't even bat an eye. if he wanted to pay for his sexual fun, i think i'd start making him pay me.
whether i enjoy a session with a client or not is irrelevent. the point is that i'm working, and not paying. as well, i'm not doing sessions for free either.
obviously the real point is whether your boyfriend is doing something you both agreed upon or not. i am more than positive that anyone would have this discussion. thats a no brainer. its either okay or not, and your man is either respecting these decisions or not.
IMHO...if my guy wanted to work; see women who were paying him for sessions, i wouldn't even bat an eye. if he wanted to pay for his sexual fun, i think i'd start making him pay me.
So essentially what you are saying is that it's ok to enjoy sex with someone else as long as you are being paid for it. The enjoyment itself is not a factor, it all hinges on the exchange of funds. So in other words, if you are having an affair, and your affair partner gives you money it's ok because you've recieved money. It's essentially a financial transaction so the feelings of your partner are irrelevant?gabrielle said:
We can all rationalize our actions in the most bizarre manners, but this is beyond my understanding. Sounds like a double standard beyond the conception of double standards to me.
Here my view, if you enter the relationship not knowing what she does, then it's probably destined for failure anyway. However, if you know what she does and toghether come up with rules of the game, so to speak, you should both the mature enough to live by them. So if your going to go cheat, paying or not, or she is going to sleep with other people for free, then again its not going to work. If the guy agrees to accept her job and then deceides he should be able to sleep with other people to, be man enough to end it and go do what you want.
As for Wannaplay and Gabrielle I appreciate your opinions and would like to acknowledge your bravery for posting knowing full well you'll never win with this crowd.
As for Wannaplay and Gabrielle I appreciate your opinions and would like to acknowledge your bravery for posting knowing full well you'll never win with this crowd.
Interesting question....
I think are quite a few variables that play out here...
Did he know that you were working as a SP when you two became involved?
Does he know now?
Is he gainfully employed or is he living off your efforts (i.e. are you supporting him)?
Did he know you would object to him seeing another SP?
I knew a SP many moons ago who was being asked to see another escorts boyfriend? She had seen him once as a client before she knew he was the other girls boyfriend. BTW these girls worked at the same agency.
So BF keeps calling SP #1 and saying he wants to see her while SP#2 is telling her to stay away from her man. As it turns out, BF uses SP#2 earnings to buy coke and deal it. He was looking to earn income from two girls.
In the end, SP#1 had her life threatened, her dogs run over and her personnel records stolen from the agency. She disappeared from the face of the SP world.
So long story short.
If he knew that you didn't want him seeing other SP's, then he is pretty much showing that he is male but still inconsiderate and you can cut him loose. If he didn't know, tell him. Contrary to most wives, most men don't have a fricking clue as to what they are thinking. The guys know it is probably bad but figure if they keep pretending to watch the TV it will go away.
If he is living off of your work, then for sure cut him loose.
Just my two cents.
I think are quite a few variables that play out here...
Did he know that you were working as a SP when you two became involved?
Does he know now?
Is he gainfully employed or is he living off your efforts (i.e. are you supporting him)?
Did he know you would object to him seeing another SP?
I knew a SP many moons ago who was being asked to see another escorts boyfriend? She had seen him once as a client before she knew he was the other girls boyfriend. BTW these girls worked at the same agency.
So BF keeps calling SP #1 and saying he wants to see her while SP#2 is telling her to stay away from her man. As it turns out, BF uses SP#2 earnings to buy coke and deal it. He was looking to earn income from two girls.
In the end, SP#1 had her life threatened, her dogs run over and her personnel records stolen from the agency. She disappeared from the face of the SP world.
So long story short.
If he knew that you didn't want him seeing other SP's, then he is pretty much showing that he is male but still inconsiderate and you can cut him loose. If he didn't know, tell him. Contrary to most wives, most men don't have a fricking clue as to what they are thinking. The guys know it is probably bad but figure if they keep pretending to watch the TV it will go away.
If he is living off of your work, then for sure cut him loose.
Just my two cents.
He should be able to spend his (own) $$$'s however he wants - after all he's not married!!ihatemyskirt said:
no, its how i make my living...
its not an affair, its my current occupation. its how i pay my mortgage, feed myself, put clothes on my back, drive, and so forth.
if my man can't accept that this is what i do for work, then he doesn't need to be my man. it has nothing to do with rationalizing shit in whatever bizarre manner you think i am. thats why i don't have boyfriends!!! i realize that most guys couldn't deal with it. all i'm saying is that if he wants to pay someone else to get him off...then i may as well be paid too...because he can't care about me that much anyhow.
furthermore...i do think that if my guy was ever okay with me doing this, that he doesn't love me like i deserve. i would never want someone i am in love with to do this for a living. i plan to save the 'falling in love' and 'living happily ever after' when this part of my life is in my past. yeah, i'll date here and there, but never anything serious...just more of a friendship.
there are a few girls that have SOs that seem to handle it, but i can't imagine that its all perfect and that this line of work does not have an effect. i don't completely understand it all, i'd have to be in their situation. i have seen that its possible.
its not an affair, its my current occupation. its how i pay my mortgage, feed myself, put clothes on my back, drive, and so forth.
if my man can't accept that this is what i do for work, then he doesn't need to be my man. it has nothing to do with rationalizing shit in whatever bizarre manner you think i am. thats why i don't have boyfriends!!! i realize that most guys couldn't deal with it. all i'm saying is that if he wants to pay someone else to get him off...then i may as well be paid too...because he can't care about me that much anyhow.
furthermore...i do think that if my guy was ever okay with me doing this, that he doesn't love me like i deserve. i would never want someone i am in love with to do this for a living. i plan to save the 'falling in love' and 'living happily ever after' when this part of my life is in my past. yeah, i'll date here and there, but never anything serious...just more of a friendship.
there are a few girls that have SOs that seem to handle it, but i can't imagine that its all perfect and that this line of work does not have an effect. i don't completely understand it all, i'd have to be in their situation. i have seen that its possible.
as well...
if your bf knows you are an sp, and he is cool...and you both decide that he can see other sp's, then fine...whats the problem.
if you both decide that that's not how your relationship is going to work, then the bf goes off and does it anyhow, then that's not fine.
where the hell it matters if your gf (who is an SP) enjoys her work or not is beyond me. that doesn't make it okay to negate on prior agreements.
big note: the girls i do know that do have SOs do not enjoy their clients like they may have used to. they are just better at faking it!!!
if your bf knows you are an sp, and he is cool...and you both decide that he can see other sp's, then fine...whats the problem.
if you both decide that that's not how your relationship is going to work, then the bf goes off and does it anyhow, then that's not fine.
where the hell it matters if your gf (who is an SP) enjoys her work or not is beyond me. that doesn't make it okay to negate on prior agreements.
big note: the girls i do know that do have SOs do not enjoy their clients like they may have used to. they are just better at faking it!!!
