Pancreatic cancer

[johnsmit]

Just wanted to talk about this .. because my mom has just been diegnosed with it

She is 90... so there is very little they will do .. just because it will inpact her quality of life and health even more..
But i have all ready heard conflicting info .on what they can do and cant
They said they cant operat... even if she was younger... But i all ready had read on line that tbhey do operat on pancreatic cancer.. and the location she has hers in on the tail of the pancreious . is one of the easyer operation.. .. but of course it is major surgory.. but stiil do able.... .. Thats in the USA.. but it thought we were so advanceed in cancer treatment

I know they are great to recamend palitive care...

 

[johnsmit]

If she was younger and in better health there are somethings that can be tried

but now at 90. not much ..

I am fortumit that i spent modt of my life with my parents or coukd drop by any time

I have heard most of the stories many times .. and still remember many... We have lot of pictures of all theirs life.. .My father is allways remembered by me and so will my mother..
It is had to say how long she has.. a month or six months....and we will help her deal will the effects of it progretion..

 

[diamondd5243]

Major surgery on anyone over 70 is considered high risk. The recovery is rougher the older the person.

Sorry to hear but as Missy Mariposa says, take solace that she has had a full long life. Let us know if we can do anything to help you through this tough time.

 

[johnsmit]

I was just wondering if any one had know some one wiy this type of cancer that tried other natual treatments.. that hrlp them... even just to slow down the progresion.....

They seem to have made the chose for her... in saying that they wont do cemo...or opereat...I realize that .
either would make her feel alot worst ..and actuall quicken her death..
As for her choise.. she has short term memory loss ..which make some of that hard todo.

Thanks for your comment.. i know msny of you have gone through loss of a loved one many times before.. and i have gone through it befor also . ..It what we have to cope.with.. in life.... and with our own death
eventually....

I noticed in my family we dont make to big of deal about it. .its part living.. and dieing..
Some people live long lives other short lives....Both my parents had good life..and few regret.. that is all that matters

 

[johnsmit]

it been allmost 3month . since my mom was told she had .. p cancer
they also found it in her overies.. and a mass in her abdomen.
All they been able to do ... is keep her comfortable with pain meds.. and put her in long term care...more palitive . because ..yes we know it is terminal

Her mind and body has just wasted away... and now she has mucuse in her throat..Real cant clear it . or breath well.. no stregth yo even cough..

i really cant preapare that well for her dieing .. but i can see it will be with in a short time. . not sure if she we even last today

 

[johnsmit]

It was closer then i thought..
my mom passed away. 15 min after i made my post

Now her pain is gone.. and she has peace..
it very sad but i am happy i was there . and she did not pass alone

 

[Guardian Angel]

My mother passed away from Pancreatic Cancer 6 weeks from time of diagnosis. She was 75 and Dr's said it was inoperable and nothing could be done to slow it down for much more than a couple weeks with chemo side affects. Like my mom most choose to let it run its course. She managed to live her last six weeks at home, went to emerg on a Friday night and passed away by 1 the next afternoon.

G.A.

 

[VanessaofBC]

It was closer then i thought..
my mom passed away. 15 min after i made my post

Now her pain is gone.. and she has peace..
it very sad but i am happy i was there . and she did not pass alone

My condolences to your family.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

cheers john, chin up man

 

[johnsmit]

Thanks to all
i appreciate it

There is never an esy way to exite life. and this was not easy on my mom .. but it gave the family a little time to know and deal with part of it.. I did not enjoy these last few weeks.. seeing my mom . loss so much of who she was.
But there still was that spark that would find something to laugh about .. and she showed that to the people that cared for her..

They all comment on how easy she was to get along with.. and her sence of humour..and mom spelt better then me too

 

[Guardian Angel]

It was closer then i thought..
my mom passed away. 15 min after i made my post

Now her pain is gone.. and she has peace..
it very sad but i am happy i was there . and she did not pass alone

I too was by my mom's side when she passed. She couldn't respond but you could see the pain subside as she slowly took her last breath. I cherish that moment, both sad to see her go but happy she is in a better place.

Take care

G.A.