My Very First Post - A Rather Lengthy Intro

[junky]

So I've been lurking here a while, trying to get the vibe of the board and how people communicate here. Seems like aside from the hobby we share there are all kinds, some people are pretty decent, others... well, my mother once told me if you can't say something nice... and I guess that brings me to my next point.
I'm a nice guy, always have been and always will be. How do you manage to write a review on an SP when you don't have a great time, even though they're nice and do their best. I get that this is a business and results speak volumes. As I am in the service industry as well, I know that not everyone digs my style or the way I define a result.
I am very particular in the way I like my women; girlfriends, lovers, one-night stands, dates, friends, doesn't matter. When it comes to SPs though, it takes more to get me off than most guys... I assume.
Although I started this hobby back in the days before CL, I still have not had a great experience "hobbying" in my most recent outings. I believe this to be due to a number of different factors; a) deceit - fake pics, great descriptions and then lack of service. b) bad locations, and c) chatting about subjects irrelevant, or worse, inappropriate to the reason I showed up in the first place that take me out of the mood. and I guess there would be d) taking one for the team. Which will be awesome when it finally pays off, I guess.
My hobby budget remains small because I would rather date for real and hobbying almost doubles the cost of a single date. I also dig the feeling that you get from a date when it goes well, and when a chick is into you. A bit of a power trip I guess, maybe like COF or CIM for some.
I feel like I'd rather go tried and true, but many of the members don't take kindly it seems to those of us with limited budgets for the hobby and who lurk and take advantage of their reviews without posting our own. I've noticed that they can be harsh to newbies (I've been hobbying on and off since 1996, and only when I'm single) and some are quick to call shill, although I think that a review requires at least a few fundamental details.
These factors have certainly intimidated me when it comes to reviewing, but I'm certainly feeling more comfortable about it now.
I'll post my reviews soon and hopefully many more good ones.
I'll be on the board more often from here on.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

Well it sounds like

you need your first great experience to break the ice. I was extremely fortunate because a couple of years ago I took was a lurker..and I was so anal that I developed a spreadsheet on various girls, spend hours doing that.

I then called a couple who weren't available. So I discarded it complete and found a hot blond advertising on one of those SP sites and contacted her. It turned out to be Totally Touchable Tiffany (TTT) who happened to prove one of the best GFE experiences a guy could ever hope for. After I left her place I recall wondering where the nearest ATM was, and I been hooked every since.

One thing I've learnt, the hard way,if you're not sure what you want, go for the sure thing. Meaning either a very reputable SP on her own with lots of reviews, or an agency such as the Den. I think I've recently done my last TOFTT.

 

[junky]

Thanks FSD, the last time I had a great experience was with super hot SW years ago ('98-99?) that I later found out was a meth addict. F@ck was she wild! No wonder though, she was high!
Had a few really good experiences since then, but I think my budget for this hobby I'd like to keep right where it is, so maybe TOFTT I have to keep to a minimum.

 

[addicted2lov]

Through CL I've meet some of the hottest girls and I had some of the best experiences of my life. I've also had below average experiences and also met girls from whom I ran away right when I saw them.
Over time I learned to feel the vibe in the very first 60 seconds when I see a woman.
As I'm rather not putting labels on people, I rather regard SP's as women, girls, ladies - just trying to see how they really as human beings. Treating them well got me very hot and memorable moments and I even met some of them outside of the client / provider relationship.

 

[junky]

Should I learn to run in the first 60 seconds if I'm not feeling it?
I am pretty non-judgmental, so it makes it tough to turn tail on someone I see as a person instead of just a SP. I guess I'm not paying someone to just be my friend though, am I?
Wow, would I feel shallow if I walked out on a session if I didn't get what I expected? I guess if the product isn't as you thought it should be, you should have the right to walk out? Most stores have a satisfaction guarantee, some services even offer a money-back guarantee. Should this industry be any different?

 

[Harmony-bc]

I think if you get to a call and the girl is just not what your imagination said she would be, then depending on how off the mark she is you could stay to be nice. If she was sketchy, on drugs, crazy, if I was paying I'd leave. However you can tell a lot about some one in 60 secs, very true. Sometimes people are shy though and take a bit longer to get comfortable.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

Should I learn to run in the first 60 seconds if I'm not feeling it?
I am pretty non-judgmental, so it makes it tough to turn tail on someone I see as a person instead of just a SP. I guess I'm not paying someone to just be my friend though, am I?
Wow, would I feel shallow if I walked out on a session if I didn't get what I expected? I guess if the product isn't as you thought it should be, you should have the right to walk out? Most stores have a satisfaction guarantee, some services even offer a money-back guarantee. Should this industry be any different?

I'm personally not the running type..guess I woud just feel awkward. So if you go to place like the Den you know at least two things, you're paying a premium, and you're getting a hot hot woman, who hopefully is into providing you with a GFE experience you'll never forget. It's the last part of this that makes you want to look through a couple of review to see who provides this on a consistent basis.

 

[neverwas]

I am sure that all of us have had some mediocre experiences in this hobby. I have never posted a negative review about a mediocre experience if it might be the case of YMMV.
On an eastern board I did post a very negative series of comments regarding the only time I have refused an SP when she arrived. She was too stoned to be able to converse sensibly and became abusive to me when I made her call her driver. I was particular annoyed because the agency owner was also her driver and claimed, to me, that he hadn't noticed anything wrong with her. I welcomed the opportunity to warn my fellow hobbiests about her and the agency.
I have never TOFTT, always relying on reviews on boards like PERB and have almost always been reasonably satisfied or delighted. When delighted I make sure I post a comment, usually as a post following someone elses review.
When I first started hobbying I frequently built my expectations to too high a level. Now I try to be more realistic; just how excited should an attractive 20 something be to spend a hour with me?

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

So I've been lurking here a while, trying to get the vibe of the board and how people communicate here. Seems like aside from the hobby we share there are all kinds, some people are pretty decent, others... well, my mother once told me if you can't say something nice... and I guess that brings me to my next point.
I'm a nice guy, always have been and always will be. How do you manage to write a review on an SP when you don't have a great time, even though they're nice and do their best...


I've noticed that they can be harsh to newbies (I've been hobbying on and off since 1996, and only when I'm single) and some are quick to call shill, although I think that a review requires at least a few fundamental details.
These factors have certainly intimidated me when it comes to reviewing...

Hi, first of all, when telling it like it was with regard to an unpleasant experience... you can certainly word your effort in a way that allows that the girl might be a great experience for SOMEbody out there...

"... I'm not a breast man, so her enhanced 38 EEE's had the effect of dominating our session... but if you adore such things then this is the girl for you"

If she was a completely drugged-out crackhead... then you sorta owe it to everyone to spell out clearly that she is a drugged-out crackhead. (pretend you're testifying to the courts in such a situation, and do the honorable thing)



And yes, some of the board members on this and various other boards are terrible with newbies. I recall a first review I made of somebody many years ago, and I was called a "shill" by someone who later went on to completely drink-up the very woman I was reviewing so authentically (and enthusiastically).

Just keep being true to your own words and don't worry too much when some drunken board member tries to call you out on something sincere.

 

[Extreme April]

When I first started hobbying I frequently built my expectations to too high a level. Now I try to be more realistic; just how excited should an attractive 20 something be to spend a hour with me?

Maybe you just answered your own question.....I think older SP's provide the better service. Lots of 20 something SP's feel they dont really have to try hard to please you. They are young and good looking and they know it. And they know that there are lots of guys out there willing to pay that price to be with them. They have many restrictions...so basically you are paying for the "eye candy" and the odd feel here and there.

I dont have that option to please the guys looking for the "eye candy" girls. All I have, is my personality and my service. I try to get regulars. In order to get them, I need them to come back. I go out of my way to make the clients happy. You are not going to find many young SP with that attitude.

Bottom line .....Look beyond your usual tastes...you may be pleasantly surprised

love and laughs
April