marriage divorce sps money

[sevenofnine]

Some one made the comment or have been making the comments about how much money I spend in this for long supper dates with my sp.

I guess my thoughts would be, I went to the bank recently planning my retirement,
I will not bore every one with the details.

But just as a rough calculation, divorcing my wife could cost me perhaps a million dollars, depending on market value, and how smart I am in liquidating the assets and fees and lawyers fees etc, to pay my wife half.
My marriage wasn't going well, when I started this, I had to do something, not only that, I wasn't a happy camper I was bringing every down with me,
There was and is no guarantee that divorcing my wife would make any thing better, there is a guy at work married five times presently single.
There is no guarantee that my wife still won't find out and my marriage will crash and burn.
But that is unlikely.
I bonk my sp regularly she puts a smile on my face, I go home to a happy family.
In dollar and cents close to a million dollars is a real possibility of dividing all my assets
The smile on my face, the happines on my two kids who think they have a happy family.
And for the most part they do,

Ask me this again in another five years.
I see my sp regularly and I pay her well.
But she seems like a bargain,
But like I said ask me in five or so more years,
And we shall see how the dice rolls

 

[luvsdaty]

Unfortunately, a milllion dollars won't take you far into retirement nowadays.... But live in the now with what makes you happy & if she finds out, well thats the way the cookie crumbles. We're all big boys here & we know the risks going into this hobby. Really its only money & you can't take it with you so you might as well enjoy it while your here.

 

[InTheBum]

Unfortunately, a milllion dollars won't take you far into retirement nowadays.... But live in the now with what makes you happy & if she finds out, well thats the way the cookie crumbles. We're all big boys here & we know the risks going into this hobby. Really its only money & you can't take it with you so you might as well enjoy it while your here.

With the "average" job paying 40k full time, and with the high cost of living, inflation, poor job market, etc...how is someone expected to be able to retire? Not everyone has some bullshit government job with a fancy pension, sells dope, or works as an SP...

I have two friends that are simply waiting to get their inheritance money, then vanish from Vancouver...and probably live in rural Canada half the year, and Thailand/Vietnam the other half...
Can't really blame them for having this "retirement package".

 

[luvsdaty]

Yup, i know of a couple guys who i've worked with that have rescently retired & are currently living abroad. Over there a million will actually take you into retirement.

 

[BrokeBastard]

With the "average" job paying 40k full time, and with the high cost of living, inflation, poor job market, etc...how is someone expected to be able to retire? Not everyone has some bullshit government job with a fancy pension, sells dope, or works as an SP...

Isn't the average job more like 50K a year? I know so many people who make more than myself, and I'm roughly 55K a year. I truely feel small compared to the high wage earners I talk to sometimes.

 

[luvsdaty]

50k/ yr isn't much in BC, not with the price of a house bordering around 500k.I honestly don't know how somebody just starting out has any chance of owning there own home & no i'm not talking about some leaky condo where the hallway always smells like someone else's nasty cooking.
Factor in a mortgage of $1300-2000/ mo, gas for just one vehicle of around $60/wk, groceries if you don't have kids$400/mo?
It definately doesn't leave any for savings.
Oh well i've got my lotto max & 6/49 tics for this week, here's hoping i don't have to go into work on monday!

 

[storm rider]

And thusly another "Jasper" thread is born.....a thread about fears and loss.....a thread about a bunch of non-sensical crapulence......which gets fed by the neediness vibe.....and the thread gets fed....and it leads to other threads....and those threads get more depressing and needy and even branch off into asking for advice....and advice is given....it is of course ignored....kind of like the guy at the bottom of the well saying...."hey I am at the bottom of the well!....how do I get out?".....the 1st sensible guy says "I will lower a rope down to you" and the guy refuses as it may drop dirt on his face and responds....I will dig my way out sideways and make a tunnel in a gradual way up to the surface.

Thusly begins another Jasper thread......so fucking depressing......funny enough ol Jasper has a juxtaposed brother in Texas who collects turtles and thinks it is a perfectly fine idea to hold $48,000 on credit card debt and only make the monthly minimum payments on the assorted cards...this guy in Texas also thinks a good diet is to drink 6 cans of boost+ on a daily basis.

Give up on the Jasper threads.....they just get depressing.

SR

 

[luvsdaty]

Kinda stings a little when you lose half your crap, especially when you've only been with that gold digger for six months.

 

[sevenofnine]

Thats pathetic.

I would never stay in a marriage out of financial convienence.

This is your ONE life, do you want to live it a lie?

never really said its all about money,
its about a smile on my kids face, its about being in there life, it is about having there trust.
and its about saying to my wife to death do us part,
i know im not perfect. never said i was,
im just trying to fiqure this out.

 

[sevenofnine]

And thusly another "Jasper" thread is born.....a thread about fears and loss.....a thread about a bunch of non-sensical crapulence......which gets fed by the neediness vibe.....and the thread gets fed....and it leads to other threads....and those threads get more depressing and needy and even branch off into asking for advice....and advice is given....it is of course ignored....kind of like the guy at the bottom of the well saying...."hey I am at the bottom of the well!....how do I get out?".....the 1st sensible guy says "I will lower a rope down to you" and the guy refuses as it may drop dirt on his face and responds....I will dig my way out sideways and make a tunnel in a gradual way up to the surface.

Thusly begins another Jasper thread......so fucking depressing......funny enough ol Jasper has a juxtaposed brother in Texas who collects turtles and thinks it is a perfectly fine idea to hold $48,000 on credit card debt and only make the monthly minimum payments on the assorted cards...this guy in Texas also thinks a good diet is to drink 6 cans of boost+ on a daily basis.

Give up on the Jasper threads.....they just get depressing.

SR

dam did i ever piss you off.

 

[luvsdaty]

ha ha ha ha, some folks are easier to piss off than othersound:

 

[the old maxx50]

Just an interjection on the cost of living .. as a single person .. I won;t include my debt servicing

Rent....................... .....$ 1200 a month new place 786 sq ft great location i could rent old crap with nothing going for it for $800
phone...........................$ 65 is what it should be for my cell, but i got an internet stick on there also fo another $40 that i don;t use unless i am on the
mainland
$ 50 ...... don't do long long distance so i pay $115 a month
hydro ...... $15 ..... $30 or less every 2 months
Gas ........ $12....... the min charge I seldom cook at home
Cable/
internet ........... .I watch TV in the Apt lounge and get internet from someones unlocked wify but i do have the internet stick
Apt insurances .............$12
gas for truck ................$400 might get me 50 km a day but if a work i drive 100k then gas wold be closer to $700
grocery/ misalain........... $300
Eat out/lunch/dinner.......$600.... if I cut back and don;t have company.
Truck lease ..................$680....
truck insurance .............$110
MSP.............................$60... But I have have to apply for some of my payment back for the last 3 years

There is more..

gambling ....................$500 min...
credit cards.................$300
escorts/or helping
others out ..................$600 some months or more.. But I have not been seeing any escorts lately
Medical .....................$500 or more for the last 4 months pills and acupuncture

Add it up and there is $2000 the average person does not spend , but they don;t put in the bank ether .

The reality for me is it was a nice ride while it last but . Right or wrong good or bad . I am using up my quasi inheritance , have no prospects for another income and no plans for a retirement I guess i have been living my retirement in the last 10 yrs while i am able to enjoy some of it Not sure what state i will be in in the next few years ..