I don't have a car, or a house but i have good marks and a good brain...Lots of girls are using me for my knowledge, I teach them maths and other subjects. They want me much more especially before the exams or quizzes but i never get to bed them. Am i an idiot for being used like that? What should i do? Why woman are like that?
Lots of girls are using me for my knowledge, what should I do?
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What kind of relationships do you have with these girls? Are they your friends? Do you guys hang out and do stuff outside of the tutoring sessions? If it is a friendship, i don't think you can expect anything more. If you dont want to always help them, tell them so... I'm sure they will understand.
Or are these girls just girls coming to you when they need tutoring? If this is the case, charge them! Tutors can be a valuble assest and can make decent money... or trade a service for a service.. .Lend them your brain for a some of their body!
Or are these girls just girls coming to you when they need tutoring? If this is the case, charge them! Tutors can be a valuble assest and can make decent money... or trade a service for a service.. .Lend them your brain for a some of their body!
They are either using you or genuinely think that you are happy to help people do well.
If you don't like helping people for free, then you should become a tutor.
If you don't like helping people for free, then you should become a tutor.
Very well said alinburnaby.
Bombaman, it's hard to know the situation without knowing more details. Were the girls clearly flirting with you and leading you on, only to leave after they got what they wanted? In that case, that's unethical of them. However, if they just thought you were being nice, or you were their friend, then they really didn't do anything wrong, because that's what friends do! They help each other out and don't expect anything in return, especially something sexual. Maybe you need to be more clear about what you want, if you want to have sex with these women, and are only tutoring them for that reason, don't tutor them. If you are their friends, you shouldn't be expecting anything in return for helping them out, and if they view you as a friend you should understand there's a good chance they won't want to have sex with you because you're their friend and they don't want to ruin that. As a couple people mentioned, start charging them if they are people you don't really know. But the biggest thing you should know is, like alinburnaby said, buying things or doing things for women WILL NOT lead to them having sex with you (with most girls anyway). Being a nice and decent person and expecting nothing in return is a good start.
In my experience, the less you give a girl while simultaneously letting her know more and more you desire her, the more likely she will want you to bed her.
The minute you are too willing to buy her gifts or do her favours, the more likely she will think you're desperate and not worth it.
The minute you are too willing to buy her gifts or do her favours, the more likely she will think you're desperate and not worth it.
Not to generalize but I think woman, like men, know if they find someone sexually attractive fairly quickly. That said they seem to look for deeper traits in men then we do in women. In any event if you're in the not a hope in hell camp than no amount of gift giving is likely going to change that. If you're in the "I'd die to sleep with this guy camp" they'd probably be giving you gifts. I remember one room-mate I had in college, he was about 6'3" rock style hair and the women would phone him at all hours of the night, hell they'd follow him home.
The point being gifts don't really change much in this equation, perhaps on the margins but that's about it. So give cause you want to give and see what happens. Believe it or not the odd woman finds giving without expecting anything in return an attractive trait.
The point being gifts don't really change much in this equation, perhaps on the margins but that's about it. So give cause you want to give and see what happens. Believe it or not the odd woman finds giving without expecting anything in return an attractive trait.
dude friend of mine had a little sticker on his car window - 'gas, grass or ass - nobody rides for free...'
he got lots of ass too. sometimes you just gotta ask, if you don't you're your own worst enemy
he got lots of ass too. sometimes you just gotta ask, if you don't you're your own worst enemy
I asked the girl i like if she wanted to come to school and study with me yesterday, she said yes and i suggested we could go for dinner after studying. She was all into it. But she didn't showed up yesterday in class. She always need me before exams when she needs help.
I forgave her anyway, because i don't even care if she wants to go out with me or not. As long as she is happy, everything is fine. Based on these information, what kind of guy i am and how can i improve so that i can find my girl one day?
I forgave her anyway, because i don't even care if she wants to go out with me or not. As long as she is happy, everything is fine. Based on these information, what kind of guy i am and how can i improve so that i can find my girl one day?
YOu are being used...make a move on them, and if they pull away, tell them to fuck off...
Whether or not this description applies to Bombaman, I think it reinforces what I said about zero pickups in BC bars for any man who's an average guy. If you're just Joe Blow, you're getting drunk, not laid.
Definitely he should be charging for his tutoring services in math. To provide it for free is silly, and for his work to be submitted as the girls' own is intentional academic dishonesty.
Why do you even assume these women should be offering you sex in exchange for your voluntary assistance? Doesn't that make you feel even just a little bit like a creepy perv? If you cannot find it in yourself to help out just for the sake of being helpful, as you probably would if these were guys who asked for some help, then you should stop altogether. Be honest, cuz if they knew the only reason you are doing it was because you expect sex from them, I imagine they will stop agreeing to your offer of help.
Basically, I think they're just trying to use each other. He uses the geek approach to get near the hot girls who wouldn't have the time of day for him and the latter uses him for his knowledge. Sounds like an old Patrick Dempsey movie. 
You seem to be a pretty smart individual. Use this as one of your inspirations to become very successful in life. :nod:
" In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women. - Tony Montana ( Scarface )
You seem to be a pretty smart individual. Use this as one of your inspirations to become very successful in life. :nod:
" In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women. - Tony Montana ( Scarface )
read and comprehend well what the man had to say...
1) charge the normal rate for tutoring,
2) save your tutoring money,
3) spend your saved up tutoring money on one of the well reviewed ladies on this board
this will change your whole perspective on relationships and women - and you might start getting some outside of the biz as a result
You are not an idiot for being used like that but you are an idiot for helping out a girl and expecting to have sex with her. Dude, she has to like you first...
firstly you really shouldn't be helping anyone out with the expectation of getting sex, throw that idea out the window. But if you do want to help someone out who you find attractive think of it in steps.
The first step is that by helping her out, she's getting to know you. Don't just focus on what you're studying, try throwing in a fair amount of humour, show her your a fun guy to be around.
If you can do that, the rest will likely fall into place, and if it doesn't, brush it off and try again.
At the very least you should be able to become friends with a couple of these ladies and perhaps they have friends who would be into you. But you really have to lighten up, be humorous, have fun, and go with the flow.
The first step is that by helping her out, she's getting to know you. Don't just focus on what you're studying, try throwing in a fair amount of humour, show her your a fun guy to be around.
If you can do that, the rest will likely fall into place, and if it doesn't, brush it off and try again.
At the very least you should be able to become friends with a couple of these ladies and perhaps they have friends who would be into you. But you really have to lighten up, be humorous, have fun, and go with the flow.
