I have been to Victoria Accupressure Massage three times now, and enjoyed it very much. I think maybe it's exactly what you would like. It's just one lady that runs it, and she is a classically trained Chinese accupressurist with decades experience. The massage is excellent, and although she draped me the first time, I eventually told her during the session that I didn't need the towel over the middle (it made it easier to massage my back anyhow). The session starts with her asking you to undress and lay on the table, and she goes out. She comes back in after and goes to work on your back. The last time I went there I undressed right in front of her, as she knows I am very comfortable with it (actually I kind of like it), and got on the table. She has you flip, then works on your front. She doesn't work on your dick, she never does HJ so don't embarrass her by asking, as she is a real massage therapist. The point is, however, she's comfortable with you getting hard as the Rock of Gibraltar while she works on you, and if she slides by your cock and bumps it while working on pressure points, that's fine too. I liked having my body worked on while completely naked, getting a real massage, but also having no issues with getting a huge boner. I went once when I hadn't shot a load in a long time, and I was hard and leaking a bit of precum, and it was still no big deal. She doesn't avoid your cock, but she will not focus on it, either. Entirely neutral. It's like a regular massage, with a bit of CFNM thrown in (in my mind, not hers), very mildly. There is nothing sexual done, although it's fine to tell her if you feel your sexual energy is low, and she can help work on the pelvic area too (keeping in mind that it's important to relax the whole body to obtain flow). I have no idea if she'd let someone jerk off, I didn't ask as I respect her for what she does (if I'm horny, I'll jerk later). Last time she was working on me, had my legs up and was rotating my hips by pushing me legs to the side. As my legs were folded up, my boner was really showing between them, straight down from her look, and she said, "Save that and bring it to your wife, eh?", and I said, "hehe yes!". And I did, and I have to say that unlocking the energy by a professional was great, as I did share the released energy with my lady.
She's Chinese, mature (like me), and as it's a clinic (her own), she doesn't dress hot for you, this is the real deal. But actually I like not having to "perform" for some girl with no real massage skills and expects a tip, and the costs are reasonable.
And yes you can take your wife to this place, it's legit. I told my partner, and she was ok with it, it didn't seem to perturb her at all. I invited her to come with me, but she said no (the fact that I invited her seemed to have a good effect). I always see mature-looking men leaving when I'm arriving. I think they like it for the same reason I do. It's real massage for sore muscles, but it's also super relaxed.
Note: one time she was working with a white lady, Andrea, and I had four hands massage. It was great. Andrea is wonderful, and very warm in character. They worked on me draped, as I felt that was what Andrea was used to, and that was fine with me, I wouldn't have suggested to un-drape with her there, out of respect (you can kind of tell with each practioner what their vibe is about that if you use your intuition). It was quite amazing having 4 hands, and it cost me the same as regular.
