Length of Time with an SP. (FIRST)

[imtoast]

This may be the most noobish and silliest question probably ever posted and you will have to consider that I am very new to Hobbying. So I apologize to you for looking at this thread thinking I am an idiot of some great porportions.

I have been wondering, albeit a first for me is how long should I spend with my first SP? Considering, I am going to go with a well established SP that meets my criteria. Should I go with a 1 hour appt or go with a 2 hour appt and get to know the SP a little more than the perverbial "WHAM BAM THANK YOU MAAM" deal. I am trying to be humanly and gentleman like as possible as it may be an awkward situation.

Your thoughts?

IMTOAST

 

[Kashs]

I would think it really depends on you budget. If you can afford a longer session and you are certain that you are going to have a great session, then why not?

 

[Nookie Monster]

First time?

Explain to the SP you are going to your first SP. Some escorts love to pop your first SP cherry. Second, go for either 30 or 60 minutes with an understanding with the lady that she is okay with extending time if you are both having a good time.

A good SP will try to teach you more than just sex but how to conduct yourself during the SP courtship

Nookie

 

[trentanator]

I agree with

nookie monster, book an hour I would say, have a good talk and visit, explain to the sp what the situation is, but when you book with them,ask if it would be possible to extend the time if you are having a good session.

that way if you are having a great session you can ask, hey lovely, sexy lady, how about we stretch out the time here to 2 hrs or maybe even more, if you both are willing.

 

[Nookie Monster]

Anna, you are way cool yourself. Loved our menage a trois with your beautiful friend, Nina Leone...

Ahem! I think that's the first time I've used "menage a trois" on Perb... WOW!!! LOL

Nookie Monster

 

[luv-em-n-lv-em]

Don't forget to call to confirm, be on time (not early), call if you're more than 15 minutes late

I'd advise calling if you are going to be more than 5 minutes late. Your first priority, especially at the outset should be to make the best impression. This may sound odd given the situation, but it may well pay dividends or at least minimize problems. Sorry if that sounds cold, but I don't have Nookie Monster's way with words.

 

[H.Miller]

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Don't forget to call to confirm, be on time (not early), call if you're more than 15 minutes late, trim any extraneous bit of hair and nail, follow the rules of good hygiene, be a gentleman and most of all, have a great time!

Best 'O luck to you!

]Any other requests?, should we bring chocolates too?, flowers?,---

--as to trimming, is there a salon you could recommend that would shave us up to your expectations?, it could be that you are looking for little boys as clients, not men. I have heard it all now, who is paying who here.

As to the great time, I always thought that was supposed to be your department.

 

[imtoast]

THANK YOU EVERYONE for the support and words of wisdom!! Its certainly appreciated. So right now, I sit here in angst about making the call to the SP. I have done as much research as I can and feel somewhat comfortable she will be my FIRST SP in my books and certainly she is a GODDESS!! So I guess I better make that call before someone calls me out!!

I am wondering if I should mention that its my first time with an SP when I am making the appointment with her or should I mention this when we meet. I would like to be upfront about everything and I am a "Tell it like it is" person, but I am not sure in this case and I don't want to be setting the wrong expectations of each other and certainly not low ones either. I am going to follow Nookie Monsters suggestions as it makes total sense to me to arrange our appointment this way and if there is any reason to leave its on a good note and not a bad one and I certainly will make an effort it not go this way.

I was wondering if I should mention that I am a very shy person, but open and may suggest to the SP to be a little aggressive with me considering its going to be my first time, I am going to follow the SPs lead coming from where I am. I guess I should approach this like a first date with someone I want to "hang around" with setting the mood like in a romantic movie. Yes, I know I don't have to do that but its not the way I do things and certainly every encounter should be unique in some way. Besides it's not the deed I am interested, it the intimacy I need the rest is just icing on the cake. Besides as Nookie Monster has put it so susinctly that its courtship with the SP.

So I look you and ask any words of wisdom, I could have so that I don't:

A) Embarrass myself.
B) Make the situation even more awkward
and
C) Not have a good time.

The business end of it is not in my mindset and I am approaching this like two strangers getting to know each other.

IMTOAST

 

[Thais]

I am wondering if I should mention that its my first time with an SP when I am making the appointment with her or should I mention this when we meet. I would like to be upfront about everything and I am a "Tell it like it is" person, but I am not sure in this case and I don't want to be setting the wrong expectations of each other and certainly not low ones either. I am going to follow Nookie Monsters suggestions as it makes total sense to me to arrange our appointment this way and if there is any reason to leave its on a good note and not a bad one and I certainly will make an effort it not go this way.

I was wondering if I should mention that I am a very shy person, but open and may suggest to the SP to be a little aggressive with me considering its going to be my first time, I am going to follow the SPs lead coming from where I am. I guess I should approach this like a first date with someone I want to "hang around" with setting the mood like in a romantic movie. Yes, I know I don't have to do that but its not the way I do things and certainly every encounter should be unique in some way. Besides it's not the deed I am interested, it the intimacy I need the rest is just icing on the cake. Besides as Nookie Monster has put it so susinctly that its courtship with the SP.

I think if you just follow your own intuition and the feel of right and wrong, things will go really well.
This may be a business, but like psychotherapy or motivation coaching, it has a very intimate nature and touches us at where we are most vulnerable. Your desire to make this time as great as could be for BOTH yourself and the SP of your choice show that you understand that. Imho, that makes a difference between service, as great as service can be - and mutual intimate experience. The latter cannot be had without your attitude.

While I would think a woman is likely to pick up on your attitude anyway, there is no such thing as too much communication. I get a sense that you want to communicate your expectations and hopes as well as the fact that it is your first time, and I think if you want that - you should. And if you do it in the same manner you've expressed yourself in this thread, you certainly will not be creating "low expectations".

Good luck!

 

[Nookie Monster]

]Any other requests?, should we bring chocolates too?, flowers?,---

--as to trimming, is there a salon you could recommend that would shave us up to your expectations?, it could be that you are looking for little boys as clients, not men. I have heard it all now, who is paying who here.

As to the great time, I always thought that was supposed to be your department.

Mr. Miller,
I wrestled with your comment all day to an SP who is genuinely trying to help a newbie get past his first experience. Ms. Anna provided a very thoughtful response to help the originator get past his nervousness, get great value, and share in a very special moment.

So now I am going to follow your line of thinking. There are some ladies out there who may suit your brand of "take the money", "suck my cock", "lie back, spread your legs, and let me fuck the shit out of you" and oh yeah, "smile because I am the paying customer". However, I don't think you will find too many of those types of ladies on this board.

Going back to Anna's final comments "...Don't forget to call to confirm, be on time (not early), call if you're more than 15 minutes late, trim any extraneous bit of hair and nail, follow the rules of good hygiene, be a gentleman and most of all, have a great time!" Her reasoning is sound.

Nookie and a ton of the other members of this board get good oral gratification from ladies who do not want to swallow a mouth full of hair. We also get intimacy from ladies who are not holding a 250lb of sweaty flesh that hasn't bathe in 24hours. If the newbie wants sexy french kissing, what's wrong with telling the man to brush his teeth and follow good hygiene and avoid garlic and onions?

What you might have failed to grasp in your pooning career versus mine and some others is in order we get treated with class, we gratefully give them generosity and manners with women who have class and dignity. Yes ocassionally a little present like flowers, chocolates or a bottle of wine and something even as simple as placing the donation inside a hand written card is ALL that is required to show the lady that the time that is about to be spent is a special one.

Mr. IMTOAST, it really is up to you what sort of experience you want to have the first time. I would rather have Anna's and my idea of fun versus Mr. Miller's anyday, anytime, anywhere.

Nookie Monster

 

[Nookie Monster]

Young man... you will do fine

...

So I look you and ask any words of wisdom, I could have so that I don't:

A) Embarrass myself.
B) Make the situation even more awkward
and
C) Not have a good time.

The business end of it is not in my mindset and I am approaching this like two strangers getting to know each other.

IMTOAST

IMTOAST,
the very idea that you are putting so much thought into your first encounter will take you far indeed. When you place the phone call, don't jump into it after one phone call if that will make you feel better. In fact, I would suggest perhaps if its easier for you ask for the lady's email to correspond with your reservations, your ideas, your questions that could make your time with her go more smoothly. If you are considering any lady from this board, all of them certainly check their private messages. Start there and proceed to email and/or phone. Sometimes, I find it easier to overcome my shyness by throwing a few 'get acquainted' emails first before consumating a session.

(Nookie Monster did just that when he courted the lovely Yummy Loni over a month of regular chats before he met her one evening for a very spontaneous enjoyable session. Loni... if you are reading this "I still will not dance like Mr. Bean for you!!!")

Nookie

 

[imtoast]

I Started this...

Mr. Miller,
I wrestled with your comment all day to an SP who is genuinely trying to help a newbie get past his first experience. Ms. Anna provided a very thoughtful response to help the originator get past his nervousness, get great value, and share in a very special moment.

So now I am going to follow your line of thinking. There are some ladies out there who may suit your brand of "take the money", "suck my cock", "lie back, spread your legs, and let me fuck the shit out of you" and oh yeah, "smile because I am the paying customer". However, I don't think you will find too many of those types of ladies on this board.

Going back to Anna's final comments "...Don't forget to call to confirm, be on time (not early), call if you're more than 15 minutes late, trim any extraneous bit of hair and nail, follow the rules of good hygiene, be a gentleman and most of all, have a great time!" Her reasoning is sound.

Nookie and a ton of the other members of this board get good oral gratification from ladies who do not want to swallow a mouth full of hair. We also get intimacy from ladies who are not holding a 250lb of sweaty flesh that hasn't bathe in 24hours. If the newbie wants sexy french kissing, what's wrong with telling the man to brush his teeth and follow good hygiene and avoid garlic and onions?

What you might have failed to grasp in your pooning career versus mine and some others is in order we get treated with class, we gratefully give them generosity and manners with women who have class and dignity. Yes ocassionally a little present like flowers, chocolates or a bottle of wine and something even as simple as placing the donation inside a hand written card is ALL that is required to show the lady that the time that is about to be spent is a special one.

Mr. IMTOAST, it really is up to you what sort of experience you want to have the first time. I would rather have Anna's and my idea of fun versus Mr. Miller's anyday, anytime, anywhere.

Nookie Monster

Nookie Monster it seems you and I are on the same wavelength on the comment posted by Mr. Miller, with exception I chose to disregard the comments as not being worthy of a thought or rebuttal and risk a flame war on the topic. I THANK YOU for being a considerate and a intelligent person on my situation and provide your words of wisdom and especially taking a stance on SPs whom should be treated as ladies and not as an object or toy to thrash around with.

Anna, If you were my FIRST, I would be there with a box of the best chocolate, a bottle of your favorite vintage wine, a dozen of your favorite flowers, me with a light flashing bowtie saying "KISS ME" (BOWTIE IDEA COPYRIGHT) , and of course trimmed in the usual places. When I am in town I will definately look you up.

IMTOAST

 

[imtoast]

IMTOAST,
the very idea that you are putting so much thought into your first encounter will take you far indeed. When you place the phone call, don't jump into it after one phone call if that will make you feel better. In fact, I would suggest perhaps if its easier for you ask for the lady's email to correspond with your reservations, your ideas, your questions that could make your time with her go more smoothly. If you are considering any lady from this board, all of them certainly check their private messages. Start there and proceed to email and/or phone. Sometimes, I find it easier to overcome my shyness by throwing a few 'get acquainted' emails first before consumating a session.

(Nookie Monster did just that when he courted the lovely Yummy Loni over a month of regular chats before he met her one evening for a very spontaneous enjoyable session. Loni... if you are reading this "I still will not dance like Mr. Bean for you!!!")

Nookie

Wow... Thanks!! I think its much more easier to convey my thoughts through an email with the SP than discussing it over the phone given the fact I may get tongue tied and not express my true intentions correctly. I have made the call but haven't set a date yet and its looking like next week sometime before I can see her. I will be sending her emails so your suggestions are already being put to good use.

Thanks Again.

IMTOAST

 

[yummy_loni]

Nookie, my Cookie !

Mr. Lover....... Lover............. I am sure the music in your pants will do the dance I need............... Mr. Bean though I would love to f**k him... weird fantasy I guess........ he know's how to dance to Shaggy... he likes to get his freak on I guess just like me!
Loni xx

 

[H.Miller]

Mr. Miller,
I wrestled with your comment all day to an SP who is genuinely trying to help a newbie get past his first experience. Ms. Anna provided a very thoughtful response to help the originator get past his nervousness, get great value, and share in a very special moment.

So now I am going to follow your line of thinking. There are some ladies out there who may suit your brand of "take the money", "suck my cock", "lie back, spread your legs, and let me fuck the shit out of you" and oh yeah, "smile because I am the paying customer". However, I don't think you will find too many of those types of ladies on this board.

Going back to Anna's final comments "...Don't forget to call to confirm, be on time (not early), call if you're more than 15 minutes late, trim any extraneous bit of hair and nail, follow the rules of good hygiene, be a gentleman and most of all, have a great time!" Her reasoning is sound.

Nookie and a ton of the other members of this board get good oral gratification from ladies who do not want to swallow a mouth full of hair. We also get intimacy from ladies who are not holding a 250lb of sweaty flesh that hasn't bathe in 24hours. If the newbie wants sexy french kissing, what's wrong with telling the man to brush his teeth and follow good hygiene and avoid garlic and onions?

What you might have failed to grasp in your pooning career versus mine and some others is in order we get treated with class, we gratefully give them generosity and manners with women who have class and dignity. Yes ocassionally a little present like flowers, chocolates or a bottle of wine and something even as simple as placing the donation inside a hand written card is ALL that is required to show the lady that the time that is about to be spent is a special one.

Mr. IMTOAST, it really is up to you what sort of experience you want to have the first time. I would rather have Anna's and my idea of fun versus Mr. Miller's anyday, anytime, anywhere.

Nookie Monster

nookie,, What you may fail to grasp, is I do get treated with class, but unlike yourself I don't have to suck up to get it. I don't trim and prim in order to get good service ,I get it because of who I am, and no SP tells me how to behave and groom, ever.

As to how I treat the ladies do a search of a review I wrote on the Great Saraphina, which she replied to, and I quote, "If I remember correctly, with your all your well tuned skills it is I who should be writing the glowing review Mr. Miller."

Can you boast the same? Sure Anna said you were a gentleman etc., but she never said you were ANY GOOD.

I am in Sask. burying my Dad ,but of course had to check PERB,and rest assured Mr. Nookie I'll be back. BTW, Mr. Nookie do you ever pay for two hrs. and get four and a half I do and on a regular basis and it is with the most popular SP on this board to boot,and it isn't because I mistreat anyone.

Step off the high horse nookie, the reality is I pay $75 per hr. for the service I get where as you pay $250 and probably always will, chocolates and flowers in hand, and your little boys shaved clean, just like a little boy.Just like you were told to do by the woman who also took your money.

 

[GoodKat]

As to how I treat the ladies do a search of a review I wrote on the Great Saraphina, which she replied to, and I quote, "If I remember correctly, with your all your well tuned skills it is I who should be writing the glowing review Mr. Miller."

LOL!! They say this type of stuff to everybody and you actually try to brag about it?

Mr. Nookie do you ever pay for two hrs. and get four and a half I do and on a regular basis

Proof please. Otherwise you're just another anonymous bullshit artist.

 

[H.Miller]

LOL!! They say this type of stuff to everybody and you actually try to brag about it?



Proof please. Otherwise you're just another anonymous bullshit artist.

To the first,--- not publicly as a response to a review-- at least that I have seen ,I could be wrong, and if they do show me, or you are the bullshit artist.

To the second I have PM'ed you her name, ask her if you wish.

 

[GoodKat]

To the first,--- not publicly as a response to a review-- at least that I have seen ,I could be wrong, and if they do show me, or you are the bullshit artist.

I took this from one of Nookies reviews:

I have to say that our time together on BOTH occasions, has been one of the most exhilerating sessions I have had in this Business. You made my cupcake VANILLA CREAM. (grin) MMM...You are a great Professor It is nice when a man takes the time to show A "amateur Painter" lol, like myself special little techniques on how to really get a man to squirm. This session today was especially quite ummmm, educational for me.

 

[Nookie Monster]

...I am in Sask. burying my Dad ,but of course had to check PERB,and rest assured Mr. Nookie I'll be back...

Mr. Miller
I send my deepest condolescences during your time of loss...

Nookie Monster

 

[H.Miller]

Mr. Miller
I send my deepest condolescences during your time of loss...

Nookie Monster

You Sir, are indeed a gentleman, and tks. to hubba for his kind words as well.