Is it just me

[shellen47]

Is it just me or are men becoming more and more weak when it comes to women?
Its like, on one hand, you have a HUGE amount of men that have just checked out. Zero interest in dating, sex, females in general.
On the other hand, you have all these guys that completely fall all over themselves for any woman that pays attention to them. You even see it here on the forum. Eg, an SP gets involved in a thread and all of a sudden all these guys jump all over everything they say and almost...beg(?) for some kind of interaction with them even just via the forum.
Am I going nuts or is this actually a thing people are noticing?

 

[westwoody]

It’s just you.

 

[taster]

Getting a good nights sleep is underrated

 

[Neelsmith1234]

Is it just me or are men becoming more and more weak when it comes to women?
Its like, on one hand, you have a HUGE amount of men that have just checked out. Zero interest in dating, sex, females in general.
On the other hand, you have all these guys that completely fall all over themselves for any woman that pays attention to them. You even see it here on the forum. Eg, an SP gets involved in a thread and all of a sudden all these guys jump all over everything they say and almost...beg(?) for some kind of interaction with them even just via the forum.
Am I going nuts or is this actually a thing people are noticing?

Dating has become extremely difficult in this age of social media, short attention spans, instant gratification and excess materialism. From my point of view, its rare to meet a genuine woman wanting to meet a good person. Many will say that they want to meet a nice guy, but in the real world, they will prioritize other things like how rich the guy is, appearance, .......... There also seems to be this expectation that every date will be fun and exhilarating. Money is another sore point. Too many times, im expected to pay and I'm not one to ask the woman to pay her share. Her silence gives a clear message. Im a saver and put money aside for old age and I've had women walk away from me because I dont "live in the moment".

Sometimes I wish we were in simpler times.

 

[Banged_Up]

Some people have been members here for two years, or more and what is their contribution to the REVIEW part of the board? You know, the actual purpose of the board and you contribute not a single review?
Social commentary is interesting. Slagging others that exist in worlds that I have no knowledge of or interest in is not valuable.
Studying the psychology of current humanity on a sex worker review board is akin to eating a banana with your asshole. It’s fun, it’s messy and it’s absolutely pointless.
I’ve said it before and now I find myself saying it again “don’t go into the lounge, never go into the lounge”.

 

[luvsdaty]

I just enjoy the peace of being single. I recently dated a dismissive avoidant and boy let me tell you what a shit show!!!
She enjoyed the validation of being pursued but didn't want the responsibility/accountability of diving in more seriously.
Not all her fault as she was emotionally neglected as a child ,so she had no coping skills when her nervous system was triggered.

 

[shellen47]

I just enjoy the peace of being single. I recently dated a dismissive avoidant and boy let me tell you what a shit show!!!
She enjoyed the validation of being pursued but didn't want the responsibility/accountability of diving in more seriously.
Not all her fault as she was emotionally neglected as a child ,so she had no coping skills when her nervous system was triggered.

Sounds like we date the same women!

 

[luvsdaty]

Sounds like we date the same women!

Honestly, the 1st time I've ever dated someone with an avoidant attachment style.
It was an eye opener..

 

[Pumped]

I just enjoy the peace of being single. I recently dated a dismissive avoidant and boy let me tell you what a shit show!!!
She enjoyed the validation of being pursued but didn't want the responsibility/accountability of diving in more seriously.
Not all her fault as she was emotionally neglected as a child ,so she had no coping skills when her nervous system was triggered.

At some point people need to start acting like adults regardless of the 'past/triggers' etc. It takes work to be an adult and too many people simply don't want to take on that responsibility and grow up.

No one is perfect, but we can all try to be better than we are now.

 

[luvsdaty]

At some point people need to start acting like adults regardless of the 'past/triggers' etc. It takes work to be an adult and too many people simply don't want to take on that responsibility and grow up.

No one is perfect, but we can all try to be better than we are now.

Yup,she said she was going to see a counselor (I did) then she went no contact for 4 months.
When she reconnected, I asked her if she had talked to a counselor and she said no,so it was bye bye 👋

 

[Newuser505]

You even see it here on the forum. Eg, an SP gets involved in a thread and all of a sudden all these guys jump all over everything they say and almost...beg(?) for some kind of interaction with them even just via the forum.
Am I going nuts or is this actually a thing people are noticing?

Naw thats in your head. Im replying to your post right now. Am i also jumping over everything you say and hoping to get interaction?

The girls here are smart too. They know its bad for business if they're confrontational, so they are usually charming and non-aggressive, which makes them easier to agree with.