I am losing interest in sex!

[maxx50]

WTF. it seems to be happening again .. i am losing interest in sex.. Here I was all stoked about the 4 some .. and pushing hard to make it happen... and all a long my sex drive is driving off. Sure I still can get it up for some good porn.. but something is missing ..and it has been for a while
A bout a month ago i had this great time an all night.. and since then it has not been the same.
I have seen my fav. a few times . but it has just been more casual then any thing else and quite honestly i have not even got excited.
I seem to be looking for some thing more . but i don't know what it is .. i like to just spend time with a girl . lay there talk ,hug and kiss and just enjoy the moment with out have to worry about the future or leaving in the next 15 min.
I know i am not going to find that to much by seeing escorts.. But the girls that are escorts are the only ones that i am comfortable with.. It is really quite a dilemma

 

[Commando]

WTF!!! AGAIN?? What do you mean again? This happened before? How did you overcome it the first time around?

Is this what you are feeling? It's not the sex and it's not the other person but there is a bit of an emotional spark missing. I'm sure you have a great time with your fav's and they make you feel special but at the end of the session, it's just that, it ends there. And you're right that you probably won't find what you are looking for in seeing escorts. I'm not saying that they don't care about you as a client but you are just that, a client.

If that is the case, you need to get out and find yourself a girlfriend or if you have a SO, give her a great big hug and appreciate her instead of pooning. At the end of the night, your SO will still be there for you.

 

[maxx50]

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Well where should i start... I have states a number of times ..I am 53..and i know a good part of this is the age thing ..there was a good article on it that i posted last year.
Now when i say again.. yes i mean again.. but in so meny ways . and I have shared a lot of this before here on perbs. I never realy had a big sex drive. Never really dated.. and when i saw the forty year old virgin a few years ago .. I had to laugh i had him beat by 10 years.. I guess they thought that making a movie about a 50 year old virgin would be unbelievable..lol
A few years ago I started to change emotionally and mentally.. I had been sick for a number of years .. and now was feeling a lot better was working out .. had more confidence about myself, I realized this was who i was and i better be happy with myself.. but the sex drive thing still was not really there ,sure i could allways find some one that i was attracted to ,but i could not do any ting about it ,i would just fall to pieces. Anxiety..stress and fear of rejection.. just made it s impossible for me to get any where with women. You can laugh but when you know nothing about how to do it then where do you go.
So porn was really my only release for all of my life. But even that was not doing it for me any more.. I was nearing 50 and things were not working that good any more..and i started to worry that i was going to die a virgin.
Then a few incidents in my life made me decide to see an escort.. and even then it was not my intention to have sex..I though it was some one i new ..and i wanted to save them.. It was not them .. and i ended up deciding to just go for it.. I guess in one way i ended up saving my self..from having a life of know sex.
So through a bunch of stuff that has happened in the last three years .. i have come to a point where i have found .one or two people that have given me what i have missed in all those years before...but for the most part it is one or two hours at a time . And then again i don't know if i can take being with another person . 24/7 or even 10 to 12 hrs of the day.. on an intimate ...emotional interpersonal level..No where have i been able to develop those skills
I have not given up on sex .. and I will try afew things to strengthen that drive ..some of which I all ready have tried...So maybe i just need to get back to the gym , look at the world for a bit .. and find what it is that will make me happy.and not forget those that I do care for and love.

 

[maximus]

sorry to hear about your situation,there are singles dances,that are run by asians,maybe you can start there,and find someone who will understand you and accept you for who you are.I dont think being 53 is the end,its just the beginning,check the province paper,under introductions,some dating agencys there might help.

 

[Wet My Noodle]

WTF. it seems to be happening again .. i am losing interest in sex.. Here I was all stoked about the 4 some .. and pushing hard to make it happen... and all a long my sex drive is driving off. Sure I still can get it up for some good porn.. but something is missing ..and it has been for a while
A bout a month ago i had this great time an all night.. and since then it has not been the same.
I have seen my fav. a few times . but it has just been more casual then any thing else and quite honestly i have not even got excited.
I seem to be looking for some thing more . but i don't know what it is .. i like to just spend time with a girl . lay there talk ,hug and kiss and just enjoy the moment with out have to worry about the future or leaving in the next 15 min.
I know i am not going to find that to much by seeing escorts.. But the girls that are escorts are the only ones that i am comfortable with.. It is really quite a dilemma

Go get a blood test, you could be either diabetic, or leaning towards "Gayness". Unfortunately, the blood test , won t tell you if your having a a Gay moment. It seems, your not intune with your emotional side of things. Your looking for "Wham Bam Thank You Mam". Which gives you the comfortablity. That's ok to.
Whatever works for you.

 

[Wet My Noodle]

sorry to hear about your situation,there are singles dances,that are run by asians,maybe you can start there,and find someone who will understand you and accept you for who you are.I dont think being 53 is the end,its just the beginning,check the province paper,under introductions,some dating agencys there might help.

WOW, a different approach then your last thread. Weren't you going to go to Asia or a different country, to find a girl. I am glad you can give advice on your own delemma.

Way to go?

 

[maximus]

this noodle,is in my opinion,the old rodney,trying to stir things up,yes i am still going to asia to find a wife,if that is for him,that is his decision to make,you limp noodle.

 

[SexyBoy]

I ask this question because as a male ages, the hormones shift & actualy you guys start producing more Estrogen then Testosterone- so the sex drive swings in another dirrection. Or, this is just your head telling you that you don't find happiness with straight up sex anymore & that you want true companionship first. Whatever, it's my two cents this morning to you....even if you're not as horny anymore, you can be just as happy- broaden your horizens.

Tell me about it I am only 30 and damn I started to cry really easily when watching a romantic love story. It was a different then any other time as the sensation was stronger and actually felt good. In a way a person could get off on that and want to watch and hear more romantic and sad things.

I do take testosterone pills and you have to be careful some of that stuff turns into Estrogen if you don't by the right kind and use too much.

I think some women need to take Testosterone to boost their sex drive also.

It makes since that when I meet a girl and all she wants to do is have sex and the relationship only kind of matters. She must have really high Testosterone in her. These girls are normally having no fat on them with small breasts. They can do things like leave to go traveling even after you have been with them for six months.

I would want to play around with hormones in my next long term relationship if the girl was game. I guess it can be dangerous for a woman though?

 

[Wet My Noodle]

this noodle,is in my opinion,the old rodney,trying to stir things up,yes i am still going to asia to find a wife,if that is for him,that is his decision to make,you limp noodle.

Elaborate? Wise Guy-

 

[ma1234]

I would say if it ain't broke don't fix it.

People live perfectly happy lives without having sex. They just focus on things other than sex.

If you crave intimacy, pooning is very unlikely to give you what you want.
There must be a reason why you never started a relationship.
You might go and get some councelling to find that out.

Stay away from drugs or hormones. They will screw your up in the long run.
Mother nature knows what it's doing. Don't mess with it.

 

[Krustee]

I ask this question because as a male ages, the hormones shift & actualy you guys start producing more Estrogen then Testosterone- so the sex drive swings in another dirrection.

Estrogen????


Estrogen!!!!!


Tell me it ain't so!


I pray someone pops a cap in my ass before I find myself watchin soap opera's & readin' Harlequin romance books.

Word to yo mutha.

Piece out!

 

[Nickthenoob]

I guess I'll cross all my children and days of our lives off my to do watch list now... Grrr