I, as my handle implies, have recently scored a (?potential?) sugar daddy.
I've never taken a donation for the joy of play before, but recently after hanging out with a friend after a pretty grueling work week I mentioned something about really wanting a sugar daddy to make life a little easier. Tuition is a bitch, especially when a girl's on her own in sunny Van, land of the outrageous C.O.L. Doesn't help much when you're also the kinda lady who knows how and when to send back improperly prepped fois gras and Looooves custom hippie embroidery, both of which being in absentia from life for the last few years. (yes, I am aware of the implied ethical paradox...what can I say, I'm a strange kid)
Anyways, the universe provided and the first date was good. He seems very respectful of my boundaries, open to me keeping my academic schedule a priority, put his money where his mouth was, and to my initial surprise, a hell of a lot of fun to be around. At the end of our date, the only thing that made me feel just a little strange was taking cash and that disappeared once it hit the bank.
I'm don't see myself being an escort, I polish up well, but can blend into any setting business/prof, academic, etc...I take decent care of my body but definitely am not in escort 'fit'. I am also fortunate to be pretty sexually realized for younger lady. Some of the most well put together ladies I have known are trade workers and I think that if society was a little more put together it would/should be a respected profession. At this stage though, i don't think it will be a full time job for me.
But, If you want to learn CPR you take training from a paramedic with experience. I can see the logic being applicable. I'd appreciate some feedback from you 'perb'ites about the following questions re: my situation.
1.) I really don't care about what daddi's been up to, but he has a solid grasp of some of the trade lingo and has made reference to not being interested in SPs on a GFE level because he really hates the drama.
Am I out of line to ask for a safer sex contract, initial/regular testing, condoms? I have an IUD to take care of the obvious calamity, but copper ain't a viruscide...
2.) I'm not a professional SP, I'm self sustainable (barely) so it's not survival. I don't want to feel cheap with a lowball req. for donation, at the same time, I've just started to put a price on something I always thought of as something to be shared and never put out as a service (?by me till now?) under scarcity economics.
What are your thoughts on an arranged donation menu?
Where do I start with that?
Do I factor in the tab for other expenses on our date? (ie dinner...)
Do I factor in presents?
If something starts to go sideways how do I broach the subject without saying "Buddy, not enough," or "baby, can we work out an advance so I can clear up that tuition bill before I hit the classroom?"
3.) Should I take charge on the 'presents' front and set up a few wishlists at some of the local shops for his convenience and my joy? or is that way too presumptuous.
4.) Would he be way too presumptuous to say that I can't keep my play-buddies? Should we even really go there?
5.) Our styles jelled really well. I'm ambitious, he's self made. I'm actually kinda floored how smooth things went. At the same time, i don't have illusions about this, I like him, he likes me, that's where it's gonna stay. I do however respect myself, him and the arrangement.
Any etiquette/pre date prep pointers that I should make a part of this arrangement?
6.) Because this is not my primary trade, do you think I could get away with just asking him to set up an account and wire the donation to me so neither of us really handle cash during our dates?
7.) What should I be watching out for?
8.) Is it fair to ask him to give me advance notice of a date/ compensate me for keeping large time windows open for dates?
9.) Any final words of wisdom before I rev for round 2?
Thanks for your consideration and the time you took out of your days to slug through that post! I'd be happy to volunteer some work hours at a charity of an SPs trade related choice for the privilege of honest and detailed responses via PM.
Much Luv;
-
Newb
I've never taken a donation for the joy of play before, but recently after hanging out with a friend after a pretty grueling work week I mentioned something about really wanting a sugar daddy to make life a little easier. Tuition is a bitch, especially when a girl's on her own in sunny Van, land of the outrageous C.O.L. Doesn't help much when you're also the kinda lady who knows how and when to send back improperly prepped fois gras and Looooves custom hippie embroidery, both of which being in absentia from life for the last few years. (yes, I am aware of the implied ethical paradox...what can I say, I'm a strange kid)
Anyways, the universe provided and the first date was good. He seems very respectful of my boundaries, open to me keeping my academic schedule a priority, put his money where his mouth was, and to my initial surprise, a hell of a lot of fun to be around. At the end of our date, the only thing that made me feel just a little strange was taking cash and that disappeared once it hit the bank.
I'm don't see myself being an escort, I polish up well, but can blend into any setting business/prof, academic, etc...I take decent care of my body but definitely am not in escort 'fit'. I am also fortunate to be pretty sexually realized for younger lady. Some of the most well put together ladies I have known are trade workers and I think that if society was a little more put together it would/should be a respected profession. At this stage though, i don't think it will be a full time job for me.
But, If you want to learn CPR you take training from a paramedic with experience. I can see the logic being applicable. I'd appreciate some feedback from you 'perb'ites about the following questions re: my situation.
1.) I really don't care about what daddi's been up to, but he has a solid grasp of some of the trade lingo and has made reference to not being interested in SPs on a GFE level because he really hates the drama.
Am I out of line to ask for a safer sex contract, initial/regular testing, condoms? I have an IUD to take care of the obvious calamity, but copper ain't a viruscide...
2.) I'm not a professional SP, I'm self sustainable (barely) so it's not survival. I don't want to feel cheap with a lowball req. for donation, at the same time, I've just started to put a price on something I always thought of as something to be shared and never put out as a service (?by me till now?) under scarcity economics.
What are your thoughts on an arranged donation menu?
Where do I start with that?
Do I factor in the tab for other expenses on our date? (ie dinner...)
Do I factor in presents?
If something starts to go sideways how do I broach the subject without saying "Buddy, not enough," or "baby, can we work out an advance so I can clear up that tuition bill before I hit the classroom?"
3.) Should I take charge on the 'presents' front and set up a few wishlists at some of the local shops for his convenience and my joy? or is that way too presumptuous.
4.) Would he be way too presumptuous to say that I can't keep my play-buddies? Should we even really go there?
5.) Our styles jelled really well. I'm ambitious, he's self made. I'm actually kinda floored how smooth things went. At the same time, i don't have illusions about this, I like him, he likes me, that's where it's gonna stay. I do however respect myself, him and the arrangement.
Any etiquette/pre date prep pointers that I should make a part of this arrangement?
6.) Because this is not my primary trade, do you think I could get away with just asking him to set up an account and wire the donation to me so neither of us really handle cash during our dates?
7.) What should I be watching out for?
8.) Is it fair to ask him to give me advance notice of a date/ compensate me for keeping large time windows open for dates?
9.) Any final words of wisdom before I rev for round 2?
Thanks for your consideration and the time you took out of your days to slug through that post! I'd be happy to volunteer some work hours at a charity of an SPs trade related choice for the privilege of honest and detailed responses via PM.
Much Luv;
-
Newb
