How has this hobby affected the romantic relationship I’m in? Alix Turner`s recent threat about paid vs. unpaid sex got me thinking about this.https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthrea...r-differently-than-sex-you-have-with-a-nonpro
Surprisingly perhaps, pooning has—on balance—been good not only for my general health and happiness but for my relationship as well.
1. Pooning allows me to stay emotionally faithful.
Inevitably a relationship requires patience. It`s a lot easier to be patient when one’s SO isn`t in the mood for sex—or with other irritating aspects of her behavior—if one has other outlets. Most women in long-term relationships want sex maybe 3 or 4 times a week, whereas I like to have several orgasms a day, usually self-induced but ideally involving live play. If it weren`t for SPs, I`d be far more tempted to have affairs. But civilians usually want more than sex and make demands that are much harder to reconcile with a primary relationship.
2. Pooning helps keep my libido in high gear.
"Use it or lose it" certainly seems true to me with respect to sex: the more sex I have, the more I want. Often, when I`ve just had sex with an SP, I`m hornier than I`d otherwise be, and this arousal spills over positively into my sex life at home. Living with a high libido—and having sex with a variety of desirable women to look forward to in a given week—makes my whole life feel more joyous, adventure-filled and worth living. At the same time, having a relationship saves me from being a “hungry” pooner who risks blowing his life savings on this hobby.
3. Pooning is more physically intense for me.
Of course, my SO is more age-appropriate than most SPs who tend to have greater nubile appeal. Moreover, in a relationship the focus on sex tends to be diluted by all sorts of accumulated baggage and emotional undercurrents that make it harder to project my fantasies of being with a wanton slut. With my SO I don`t bother with things like rimming or CIM, even if she could be persuaded—simply because I know it`s not her preference. And, once you`ve "repeated" over a hundred times with an SO, it’s hard to keep things breathtakingly exciting rather than falling into a fairly predictable and comfortable rut.
I`m not saying pooning has no downside. There’s a need to keep secrets. There’s worry about passing on an STI. And there’s money spent that could have paid off the mortgage.
Still, personally speaking, the interplay between pooning & relationship has so far been harmonious and even synergistic; both are contributing greatly to my happiness. But if it ever came down to a choice between a romantic relationship vs. freedom to poon, I think at this stage in life I’d choose freedom.
Surprisingly perhaps, pooning has—on balance—been good not only for my general health and happiness but for my relationship as well.
1. Pooning allows me to stay emotionally faithful.
Inevitably a relationship requires patience. It`s a lot easier to be patient when one’s SO isn`t in the mood for sex—or with other irritating aspects of her behavior—if one has other outlets. Most women in long-term relationships want sex maybe 3 or 4 times a week, whereas I like to have several orgasms a day, usually self-induced but ideally involving live play. If it weren`t for SPs, I`d be far more tempted to have affairs. But civilians usually want more than sex and make demands that are much harder to reconcile with a primary relationship.
2. Pooning helps keep my libido in high gear.
"Use it or lose it" certainly seems true to me with respect to sex: the more sex I have, the more I want. Often, when I`ve just had sex with an SP, I`m hornier than I`d otherwise be, and this arousal spills over positively into my sex life at home. Living with a high libido—and having sex with a variety of desirable women to look forward to in a given week—makes my whole life feel more joyous, adventure-filled and worth living. At the same time, having a relationship saves me from being a “hungry” pooner who risks blowing his life savings on this hobby.
3. Pooning is more physically intense for me.
Of course, my SO is more age-appropriate than most SPs who tend to have greater nubile appeal. Moreover, in a relationship the focus on sex tends to be diluted by all sorts of accumulated baggage and emotional undercurrents that make it harder to project my fantasies of being with a wanton slut. With my SO I don`t bother with things like rimming or CIM, even if she could be persuaded—simply because I know it`s not her preference. And, once you`ve "repeated" over a hundred times with an SO, it’s hard to keep things breathtakingly exciting rather than falling into a fairly predictable and comfortable rut.
I`m not saying pooning has no downside. There’s a need to keep secrets. There’s worry about passing on an STI. And there’s money spent that could have paid off the mortgage.
Still, personally speaking, the interplay between pooning & relationship has so far been harmonious and even synergistic; both are contributing greatly to my happiness. But if it ever came down to a choice between a romantic relationship vs. freedom to poon, I think at this stage in life I’d choose freedom.
