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DoraVan

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I benefited quite a bit from perb and really enjoyed my time with many ladies around the city.

Many people probably read this site and are not sure how to start doing this (but really want to). I was really nervous the first time when looking for someone. I thought I should share some advice base on my experience. These advice maybe more Van specific, but some are also general rule.

1.) You pay for what you get. If this is your first time, don't cheap out.

Find a lady that advertises on Perb is often a safer option. Yes, they charge more, but they also usually offer better service. You are nervous and probably want a satisfying experience. Another option is the well reviewed agency with a decent website. I only tried WestCoastAngels and their booking should be relatively easy for first timer. Other people may have other suggestions.

2.) When you book, get to the point

Be polite! Let the SP know the date, time, duration you want to visit. Keep it professional. Try to avoid talking about donation on the phone unless it is not listed. If it is an agency, let them know who you want to see. Some SPs prefer email. Just use the same rule. Make sure you read the SP's ad very carefully for instructions before contacting

3) Check the reviews on Perb

Use their name and the last 4 digits of the SP's phone number to search. Highly recommend you visit someone that is well reviewed for your first time. If you have doubts about photos in the ad, google the picture to see if any match comes up.

4) Avoid Asian Micro if it is your first time

The asian micro in Vancity can be good and bad and it is difficult for first timer. Don't go until you feel comfortable doing this.

5.) Contribute back

Really appreciate if you can contribute on this site.

These are the few quick things I can think of. Feel free to suggest more points.
 
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raggetyandy

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Thank you this is very helpful. We are attempting to find a lady to join my wife and I and we are very nervous about this but excited.

The choices seem daunting and a little over whelming. Finding the right lady is so hard. Each is unique but we are a little fearful as well. We want it to be a special experience for both of us but mostly for my wife.

We have long looked at some ladies by now we are unsure as there are few reviews of what it was like. How does one "order" a lady? Just email I guess? It seems easy but yet it is hard. Sending a email with "date, time, duration you want to visit.", seems so impersonal on some thing that is so personal. Is it with out feelings? How does one find a lady that treats it more than a metered event. How does one find a lady that will make my wife and I feel connected?

Sorry so many questions when you have no idea what to do. Not sure other than to send out a few emails to see how the ladies respond. Is there a place on here that has a woman's review of other women they have seen? How it was or what it felt like?
 
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Lady Vanessa

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Hello raggetyandy.
I must say I find your openess to share your concerns and curiosity endearing. It sounds as if you and your wife have consciously made the decision together as well have already done some research in seeking potential providers to reach out to.
In that case, I suggest to just go for it and open the lines of communication however the lady you have chosen requests. Whether by email, text etc....
Begin with a detailed enough, but brief synopsis of your intentions and what you both would like to walk away with and if she is willing to partake in your preferred encounter.
You will know right away if she is the one for you if she can begin with empathy towards what you told her and continue from there. It should be a comforting encounter from the very beginning. (And nerves mixed with excitement are normal)
 
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raggetyandy

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Lady Vanessa said:
Hello raggetyandy.
I must say I find your openess to share your concerns and curiosity endearing. It sounds as if you and your wife have consciously made the decision together as well have already done some research in seeking potential providers to reach out to.
In that case, I suggest to just go for it and open the lines of communication however the lady you have chosen requests. Whether by email, text etc....
Begin with a detailed enough, but brief synopsis of your intentions and what you both would like to walk away with and if she is willing to partake in your preferred encounter.
You will know right away if she is the one for you if she can begin with empathy towards what you told her and continue from there. It should be a comforting encounter from the very beginning. (And nerves mixed with excitement are normal)
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Thank you for your kind introduction to this amazing world. We are concerned that contacting a lady we might be wasting her time if she is not what we want. The first contact is the hardest. Is it ok to contact the ladies we selected on our short list to ask if they would consider meeting my wife first. Since all the ladies see men and women. How do we know if they enjoy women and are good with women?

Sorry with all my questions.
 
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Ms Erica Phoenix

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raggetyandy said:
Thank you for your kind introduction to this amazing world. We are concerned that contacting a lady we might be wasting her time if she is not what we want. The first contact is the hardest. Is it ok to contact the ladies we selected on our short list to ask if they would consider meeting my wife first. Since all the ladies see men and women. How do we know if they enjoy women and are good with women?

Sorry with all my questions.
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If you don't ask, you won't know! I'd say it's a good idea to contact them, yes...
 
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raggetyandy

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Ms Erica Phoenix said:
If you don't ask, you won't know! I'd say it's a good idea to contact them, yes...
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Do you think it is ok to contact two or three of the ladies we have an interest in and share with them our fantasy? Maybe my wife should reach out to them because they might be better with her than me? I read someone saying they had them meet in the lounge of the hotel so they felt comfortable with people around. What if she is not what her photos and what we thought is a lounge a good.place to say no? Do we have to pay the full amount then? Sorry for the questions. I do not want to upset the lady or my wife.

For our first meeting is the out all where they met us at our hotel better. Not sure we would feel secure going to a place we do not know. Especially with my wife. Can we ask the lady to dress a certain way? Is that out of line? Same thing with toys. Do you have to ask for that? Oh this is very complicated. We are so new it is kind of embarrassing. This board is very helpful. We have learned alot. Oh yea do you play in the Lounge? Is that legal? How do you know these ladies are not the police?
 
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If you're a first timer - hygiene, hygiene, hygiene. FFS, providers are human too.

If you just recovered from a flu, don't go. If you have open sores on your mouth, don't go. If you have nasty teeth, get them fixed. Get a haircut, cut your fingernails and shave.
 
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raggetyandy

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wetnose said:
If you're a first timer - hygiene, hygiene, hygiene. FFS, providers are human too.

If you just recovered from a flu, don't go. If you have open sores on your mouth, don't go. If you have nasty teeth, get them fixed. Get a haircut, cut your fingernails and shave.
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Yes sir! We are both very clean and we will take our showers before meeting the lady. I will make sure my wife gets her hair and nails done and has a new dress. I guess I should get a new suit and we will both get new underwear for the event.

We have never been with anyone before. My wife and I got married early so we have only been with each other. So we are a little unsure about doing this together with another person. A little difference in front of our doctor. But we really want to live it out. Try it. We keep talking about it, thinking about it, and planning it out.

We have narrowed it down and a couple people on here have been very helpful. They gave us a couple recommendations. Big decision. But we are are narrowing it down. Nerves are kicking in. It is exciting as we open a whole new world we never thought we would experience.

Thank you to all of you for being so supportive. I am surprised at how nice people are here.

If this goes well my wife is writing a book and this might even be a chapter. Who knows.

Sorry what is FFS?
 
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DoraVan said:
I benefited quite a bit from perb and really enjoyed my time with many ladies around the city.

Many people probably read this site and are not sure how to start doing this (but really want to). I was really nervous the first time when looking for someone. I thought I should share some advice base on my experience. These advice maybe more Van specific, but some are also general rule.

1.) You pay for what you get. If this is your first time, don't cheap out.

Find a lady that advertises on Perb is often a safer option. Yes, they charge more, but they also usually offer better service. You are nervous and probably want a satisfying experience. Another option is the well reviewed agency with a decent website. I only tried WestCoastAngels and their booking should be relatively easy for first timer. Other people may have other suggestions.

2.) When you book, get to the point

Be polite! Let the SP know the date, time, duration you want to visit. Keep it professional. Try to avoid talking about donation on the phone unless it is not listed. If it is an agency, let them know who you want to see. Some SPs prefer email. Just use the same rule. Make sure you read the SP's ad very carefully for instructions before contacting

3) Check the reviews on Perb

Use their name and the last 4 digits of the SP's phone number to search. Highly recommend you visit someone that is well reviewed for your first time. If you have doubts about photos in the ad, google the picture to see if any match comes up.

4) Avoid Asian Micro if it is your first time

The asian micro in Vancity can be good and bad and it is difficult for first timer. Don't go until you feel comfortable doing this.

5.) Contribute back

Really appreciate if you can contribute on this site.

These are the few quick things I can think of. Feel free to suggest more points.
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All good ideas for sure. :nod:

I'd put research as the number one though because too many times newbs approach SP's who may not provide the type of service they want GFE vs PSE, vs Massage HE etc etc.

The Asian Micros are something that some need to check out because the low cost gives you a perspective of value when you approach an advertiser who is more than 2x the AMP prices. I did the AMP circuit long before I started posting here. Some great times but probably in retrospect a lot of WTF am I doing. At least it wasn't a large amount of $ to waste. At least with the advertisers the B & S is virtually nonexistent.

I would also like to add that it does make sense to use the PM system here to get intel from some of the senior members here about SPs in general. Many of us have more than a few hundred dates under our belts so we (not just me) can give a newb some guidance. If I have seen an SP and the experience was good, it will say so in my reviews. If it was meh, then I would also let them know that too. Bear in mind the old YMMV does play a part in any date no matter who the pooner was that saw her.

I do like the intentions of your thread. It is important to get newcomers accustomed to posting reviews. The Shill Police will sort themselves out if a number of us have seen the intended SP.
 
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mounty

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I would agree with Ms Erica Phoenix that its okay to ask. Just keep it simple I guess and be respectful. I wish you all the best in your search. I had found some great advise from this website. Communication is the key.
 
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MyahriPirgulyyewa

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Once you and your wife pick out a girl (or a few girls) that suits both of you, you can start emailing them about your intentions. If the lady is interested, then there would be follow up emails and you can talk about things more in depth. If the lady doesn't sound too interested, then move on.
If you sound sincere in your initial email, things should get rolling.

If you think nerves are kicking in because you have never been to place like a certain hotel that all 3 of you decide, then I suggest maybe you and your wife go do an onsite scouting a day ahead of time just to make both of you feel more comfortable.
I think once you see the girl in person, it is hard for you to reject if she is not what you were expecting; and walking out like that in public may cause a scene.

Hopefully everyone's advice is helpful for you, and good luck with your adventure.

raggetyandy said:
Yes sir! We are both very clean and we will take our showers before meeting the lady. I will make sure my wife gets her hair and nails done and has a new dress. I guess I should get a new suit and we will both get new underwear for the event.

We have never been with anyone before. My wife and I got married early so we have only been with each other. So we are a little unsure about doing this together with another person. A little difference in front of our doctor. But we really want to live it out. Try it. We keep talking about it, thinking about it, and planning it out.

We have narrowed it down and a couple people on here have been very helpful. They gave us a couple recommendations. Big decision. But we are are narrowing it down. Nerves are kicking in. It is exciting as we open a whole new world we never thought we would experience.

Thank you to all of you for being so supportive. I am surprised at how nice people are here.

If this goes well my wife is writing a book and this might even be a chapter. Who knows.

Sorry what is FFS?
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