Fatal Attraction help

[BOBST]

Can any of the Sp's on the board help me with a Lady whom I have seen several times, but now phones me constantly! I like this Lady but I am not interested. I hate being rude and I am no good at confrontation. I cannot phone her boss as I'm sure she would lose her job.

I know a lot of the guy's on the board would just tell her to take a hike , but that is not my style, SP's have a hard enough job as it is!!

Any advice?

 

[mikey's here]

BOBST,

Pull the trigger and make it clear as day about where you stand!

Being a guy, hints etc. don't work for me as I am thick as brick and twice as dumb except to the blatantly obvious

So please do her the courtesy of being clear, thus avoiding any mis-interpretations etc.

Both you and her deserve to move it along if there is no prospects of moving it further along.

 

[Lauren]

My advice... be polite, but make yourself very clear on the issue. It's an uncomfortable situation for both parties, however deal with it now before it goes any further. Come right out and say it in the most respectful way as possible and if that doesn't work.... change your number and discontinue seeing her as a client.

Lauren

Good luck...

 

[rafterman]

Break into her house and leave a bunny bubbling away in a big stew pot on top of the stove.

If she has your work number thats harder to deal with, try telling her you are getting back with an old flame.

If its home or cell change the number.

Best to cut the relationship off now...don't keep seeing her. Will just send a mixed message.

 

[dbrw42]

Dude, this is coming from the voice of expeirience. A while back I got into my own Fatal Attraction situation. Because of a PHB(read Dilbert for this meaning) and losing four family members in a 3 year span, I missed all of the signals and stayed with this Non-SP to the point that I wound up losing a $50,000 a year government job and my FAC with two rifles.

So my advice is to do whatever you have to do to get this girl the hell out of your life. Be a complete,100% F$%^$&^ bastard if you have to, learn how to have confrontations, whatever. Just end it. NOW!!!

You might want to contact the police about how to get a restraining order. No need to get too specific, just say that you are having problems with a girl not leaving you alone and you want to know your options if the situation deteriorates.

 

[BS Detector]

What always confuses me is why

people confuse being honest with being rude. You can do either one without the other. Be honest with her without being rude. Wouldn't you want the same if it was the other way around???

 

[trawler]

BOBST, whatever you do, do it ...

quickly, clearly and decisively.