Disturbing...

[Iori]

Just had a session today.
The SP did a bit of bbbj, then she started sliding her kitty back and forth on my junior (w/o condom..). I pushed her away and she tried again :doh:
At the end, i told her to just put the cover on...

I found it disturbing... Does it happen to you guys?

 

[rickoshadows]

You need to get together with a better class of provider, or you are too paranoid for this hobby. Either way, if you are that uncomfortable with the possibility of incidental contact with bodily fluids, why are you seeing anybody? By all means, take precautions, use condoms, wash before and after, etc, but this hobby has a level of risk. I can't understand how you can enjoy yourself if you are so uncomfortable with physical intimacy.

 

[george.caruthers]

Just had a session today.
The SP did a bit of bbbj, then she started sliding her kitty back and forth on my junior (w/o condom..). I pushed her away and she tried again :doh:
At the end, i told her to just put the cover on...

I found it disturbing... Does it happen to you guys?

Yes, often, and it is very enjoyable.

 

[Holly Taylor]

Just had a session today.
The SP did a bit of bbbj, then she started sliding her kitty back and forth on my junior (w/o condom..). I pushed her away and she tried again :doh:
At the end, i told her to just put the cover on...

I found it disturbing... Does it happen to you guys?

It is very disturbing that a companion would initiate genital to genital contact without using a condom. Despite information about STDs being widely available, there are still many people who think that STDs are spread only if penetration occurs, or that ejaculation is necessary.

Unprotected genital to genital contact does put you at risk for some STDs. A doctor would be the best person to talk to about this, though.

I hope you go to get tested as soon as you can, and as awkward as it is, you may want to send this companion a text or email to let her know that this activity is riskier than she might realize.

I wish you all the best, and take care over the holidays!

-Holly.

 

[susi]

You are ok as long as long as there was no penetration your penis in her kitty . As for BBBJ as long as she has no gum diseases and good oral care, you should be fine. Wash, wash. wash.
I might ad if you did not like what she was doing communicate get up and leave. Seems mean but you have all the right to walk. you may not get your money back but if it would make you feel better then just walk away.

actually, its not ok as long as there was no penetration. its the fluid contact which can be a risk. wash wash wash is good advice though. whether a condom was used or not.

a woman once told me she new she had had sex with an hiv positive man but that it was ok she thought because she didn't have an orgasm....its amazing that these kinds of myths still exist. i guess people tell themselves whatever they need to in order to deal with their decisions...

love susie

 

[badbadboy]

Just had a session today.
The SP did a bit of bbbj, then she started sliding her kitty back and forth on my junior (w/o condom..). I pushed her away and she tried again :doh:
At the end, i told her to just put the cover on...

I found it disturbing... Does it happen to you guys?

Happened once to me. We then realized it had happened in the heat of the moment and got the condom on right away.

I have met the whole spectrum of SP from the ones who will have the occasional brush up against your uncovered penis to the one who stopped everything to inform me some of my precum had gotten on the outside of her thigh. Not passing judgment since we all want to be safe and each person has their own comfort level of safety.

 

[Iori]

Thanks for the replies.

In the future, I should explain the safety level I want before starting a session.
I have already sent her a message, letting her know the potential risks. Hope she understands.

Play safe everyone

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Thanks for the replies.

In the future, I should explain the safety level I want before starting a session.
I have already sent her a message, letting her know the potential risks. Hope she understands.

Play safe everyone

I enjoy your consternation about this event...as has been mentioned above, it is not rare at all, only it usually comes from the other side of the equation. Gentlemen who wish to delay the use of the condom as long as possible (see post #7)...correct me if I'm grossly misinformed, folks... :doh:

 

[Dgodus]

I find it disturbing she tried again after she was basically told "no". Unless the use of the word no is part of the play (and I'm assuming a safe word is employed) then no always means no regardless of which side of this equation you're on.

Personally one provider did this on me without being prompted (obviously she's alright with it I she does it unasked and I'm alright with it if I don't stop her). I didn't care for it because it was a little more rough and I prefer a softer touch when being handled.

I do find it a little odd that you'd see a provider who uses her mouth on unprotected penis' then you allow it on yourself. Did this lady also allow cim? But you're apalled she gave you a pussyslide. Don't get me wrong I'd never begrudge someone's right to draw lines in the sand or what level of risk they are willing to tolerate. I also don't know which would be riskier a bbbj or pussyslide (as the 2nd isn't something I really crave).

But yes the continuation after the denial bothers me a great deal.

 

[Iori]

I am not sure... but I thought pussyslide has higher risk compared to bbbj (I could be wrong tho), esp for HIV.

I find it disturbing she tried again after she was basically told "no". Unless the use of the word no is part of the play (and I'm assuming a safe word is employed) then no always means no regardless of which side of this equation you're on.

Personally one provider did this on me without being prompted (obviously she's alright with it I she does it unasked and I'm alright with it if I don't stop her). I didn't care for it because it was a little more rough and I prefer a softer touch when being handled.

I do find it a little odd that you'd see a provider who uses her mouth on unprotected penis' then you allow it on yourself. Did this lady also allow cim? But you're apalled she gave you a pussyslide. Don't get me wrong I'd never begrudge someone's right to draw lines in the sand or what level of risk they are willing to tolerate. I also don't know which would be riskier a bbbj or pussyslide (as the 2nd isn't something I really crave).

But yes the continuation after the denial bothers me a great deal.