I don't know if this is the right forum for this but here goes. I have been dating someone now for just over a year and in that year she has never had an orgasm. Not even when she masturbates. She claims she's only ever had 2 in her life and they both occurred in previous relationships that were with other women. There are times when we are having sex that I feel like she orgasms, her body shakes to the point of having convulsions and she pushes me away from whatever we are doing. Still she claims that she experiences no release. I know that she won't orgasm every time we have sex but I find it odd that she can't get there herself. How common is it for a woman to not be able to reach climax herself?
Hi Bob
This is a topic that is out of my expertise as people with this concern do not usually come to our clinic. They often go straight to a sex counsellor. What I can do for you is give you some general information about sexuality.
Shere Hite has done some great research on female sexuality, in her famous report she found that 82% of woman masturbated and that 95% of these woman could orgasm easily and regularly, whenever they wanted.
Shere also found that only 30% of woman could orgasm regularly from vaginal intercourse- that is, could have an orgasm during intercourse without more direct manual clitoral stimulation being provided.
It sounds like you are concerned about your girlfriend’s situation, I am just wondering if she is concerned about her situation and what would be a good outcome for you?
Here is a link to “The Hite Report”, it gives a great overview of the diversity of female sexuality.
http://100bestebooks.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/shere-hite-the-hite-report.pdf
HN
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