Caught in an affair

[FreeG]

Recently, two acquaintances of mine got busted by their SO's for having an affair. One got caught texting on the cell phone, then that SO called the other SO, who kicked their other half out of the house. Kinda sad, really - both have kids, both were pretty settled in their lives....

There's gotta be a million+ reasons to have an affair, but I'm guessing the risk of getting caught has got to be soooo much higher than (smartly) seeing an SP. I'm sure the thrills are great but with emotional ties and ill-defined boundaries comes potentially life-devastating repercussions.

Contrast that to seeing a professional SP - fun, exciting, thrilling (tho different, granted) and if done smartly, very discrete with little chance of discovery and the ramifications that come with that. And when I say "professional", that would include: not sending texts at all hours (unless the guy makes it clear he's comfortable otherwise, as I'm sure some are).

Clearly, my acquaintances didn't follow these simple rules.

 

[sdw]

Recently, two acquaintances of mine got busted by their SO's for having an affair. One got caught texting on the cell phone, then that SO called the other SO, who kicked their other half out of the house. Kinda sad, really - both have kids, both were pretty settled in their lives....

There's gotta be a million+ reasons to have an affair, but I'm guessing the risk of getting caught has got to be soooo much higher than (smartly) seeing an SP. I'm sure the thrills are great but with emotional ties and ill-defined boundaries comes potentially life-devastating repercussions.

Contrast that to seeing a professional SP - fun, exciting, thrilling (tho different, granted) and if done smartly, very discrete with little chance of discovery and the ramifications that come with that. And when I say "professional", that would include: not sending texts at all hours (unless the guy makes it clear he's comfortable otherwise, as I'm sure some are).

Clearly, my acquaintances didn't follow these simple rules.

She already suspected he was cheating, that's why she was checking his phone. So, she would have caught him if he was seeing an SP also. Also, consider that the woman texting him wanted him to be caught, that's why she is texting often at random times.

 

[meaghanmcleodDELETED]

One of the things I've seen over and over - guys not deleting their text history if using their personal phone. They forget to delete the address details - one of the reason I never text address details. Only via voice confirmation. I've heard of pissed off wives showing up at the incall, calling the building manager, etc.

Please, if you are not using a pooner phone, delete your text history, delete emails if using a personal email account. Even in this industry, guys sometimes make mistakes, and if the SO finds out, can make the SP's life very difficult.

There was a thread on the other board - she posted saying "just found out my husband is cheating with escorts - I want revenge". Everyone was replying - until her husband replied. Turns out, he hadn't cleared his browser history, she was able to log into his account. She saw all his reviews he had made, his posts - everything. I wish I had been a fly on the wall that night when he replied to "his wife", not knowing it was his wife, as she had created her own profile.

 

[Caramel]

How can you compare an affair, which is two horny parties both turned on by each other, where there is passion, the woman is enjoying and wanting it as much as the man and they know and like eachother....to an SP who is faking it for the money

 

[meaghanmcleodDELETED]

How can you compare an affair, which is two horny parties both turned on by each other, where there is passion, the woman is enjoying and wanting it as much as the man and they know and like eachother....to an SP who is faking it for the money

Bit cynical isn't that? I have some amazing relationships, that I cherish. Not everyone fakes it.

 

[Tugela]

One of the things I've seen over and over - guys not deleting their text history if using their personal phone. They forget to delete the address details - one of the reason I never text address details. Only via voice confirmation. I've heard of pissed off wives showing up at the incall, calling the building manager, etc.

Please, if you are not using a pooner phone, delete your text history, delete emails if using a personal email account. Even in this industry, guys sometimes make mistakes, and if the SO finds out, can make the SP's life very difficult.

There was a thread on the other board - she posted saying "just found out my husband is cheating with escorts - I want revenge". Everyone was replying - until her husband replied. Turns out, he hadn't cleared his browser history, she was able to log into his account. She saw all his reviews he had made, his posts - everything. I wish I had been a fly on the wall that night when he replied to "his wife", not knowing it was his wife, as she had created her own profile.

I am inclined to think that those people already know that their SO is likely cheating, after all, they do live with them and you would think that they would have a pretty good idea what they are like. These sorts of things don't just come out of the blue.

 

[Insatiable Appetite]

How can you compare an affair, which is two horny parties both turned on by each other, where there is passion, the woman is enjoying and wanting it as much as the man and they know and like eachother....to an SP who is faking it for the money

You reveal yourself with every post

 

[VancityDivas]

Bit cynical isn't that? I have some amazing relationships, that I cherish. Not everyone fakes it.

Well put! Many girls like some of the guys they book with be it conversationally, intimately, or both.

Especially over time with ongoing bookings a relationship/friendship forms and all parties like each other and are enjoying themselves

Also guess it really depends on the woman involved and her nature to take on the role and become a companion/lover. Some simply get lost in it and relish being that woman and with that man

 

[tiger69]

Before I found the pooning scene...about 15? years ago, I did try to have a few affairs, friends with benefits, on the side... But what I found was the guilt alone always made me pull out of them in only a few weeks. There was simply no way for me to keep them going while spending time with my gf whom I loved alot, still do since we are still together.
I never felt that way with an escort though, to me, that is simply a case of "eating out while there's no food in the house." Yes, we may enjoy each others' company, yes, we may care for each other as human beings, but when it's all said and done, I paid, we "do whatever," and by the end of two hours, we both go back to our own lives/family/attachments.
Of course, if my gf was to find out, she'd probably be hurt and throw a fit regardless... Some women are...unreasonable...that way...

 

[Sonny]

Always a separate pay-as-you-go anonymous phone apart from the one for ordinary use, and also kept away from home.
Steer clear of affairs as messiness is the almost inevitable result.
Much better to do SPs. No emotional hangups, just an hour or so of consensual sexual escape.

As for SPs faking it, my personal experience is the ones I see do not with me.
I don't accept fake and I do everything I can to make it real for my partner.

 

[erber]

Just use a two way radio instead of cell phone.
Love maybe blind, but marriage is a real eye opener.

 

[manni]

stay single and one won't have to worry about this 'affair' BS.

seriously though, I feel for both parties involved wether it's the guy cheating
or the girl. it's the hurt and the lie that can scar someone for years afterwards leading to anger, cynicism,
self-abuse, depression, etc.

the ones w kids have it worse. custody battles, legal fees, etc. a society filled w fragmented
family unit just isn't healthy.

 

[resercher]

Recently, two acquaintances of mine got busted by their SO's for having an affair. One got caught texting on the cell phone, then that SO called the other SO, who kicked their other half out of the house. Kinda sad, really - both have kids, both were pretty settled in their lives....

There's gotta be a million+ reasons to have an affair, but I'm guessing the risk of getting caught has got to be soooo much higher than (smartly) seeing an SP. I'm sure the thrills are great but with emotional ties and ill-defined boundaries comes potentially life-devastating repercussions.

Contrast that to seeing a professional SP - fun, exciting, thrilling (tho different, granted) and if done smartly, very discrete with little chance of discovery and the ramifications that come with that. And when I say "professional", that would include: not sending texts at all hours (unless the guy makes it clear he's comfortable otherwise, as I'm sure some are).

Clearly, my acquaintances didn't follow these simple rules.

It is not about logic it is about emotion i think.

As I have said before the worst case scenario survival Handbook Dateing and sex has some valuble advice on how to not get caught having an affair. Things like pay cash drive in seprate vehicles use seperate clothing etc.

But I dont understand it myself there is a segment of our population that finds it more sexually arousing the greater the risk . Personally I hate this stuff outdoor sex in public etc, Turns me off in a big way. But I used to work with a man who was into risky sex.

This is going to sound like a made up joke but I swear it happend I was working with a man who was bysexual The way I discoverd his sexual orentation was his insaneley jelous girlfrend came into our work space. One day to inform us that she would castrate any men who had sex with her boyfreind and would prefom a similar operation on any women who had sex with him. I asumed he was heterosexual as I always saw his girlfrend (another girl) pick him up from work. He said that he was seeing both a girl and a man behind the girl who had just left . After her threat castrate the man's co workers. I told him that From what i had just witnessed I thought it might be a wise idea to Dump .The crazy bitch who had just left. and to talk to the police about a possible restraining order if he had trouble with her . He said he did not want to do it becase quote" it made the sex so hot".

 

[deepflyball]

2 words...burner phone...for affairs or SP...just keep it safe and out of the house and don't list the number in your regular phone...

 

[CharlotteKing]

How can you compare an affair, which is two horny parties both turned on by each other, where there is passion, the woman is enjoying and wanting it as much as the man and they know and like eachother....to an SP who is faking it for the money

Definitely one of the biggest misconceptions, in my opinion. Sure, some girls fake it because they're only in it for the money.
But both of my clients made me cum yesterday, and the orgasms felt very real to me.

Find SPs that enjoy their job and don't have hangups about promiscuity and sexwork, and you'll have a much better time.

 

[nickcan]

How can you compare an affair, which is two horny parties both turned on by each other, where there is passion, the woman is enjoying and wanting it as much as the man and they know and like eachother....to an SP who is faking it for the money

You're right and wrong.
Some civilian women hook up with men they don't really like for the money as well, these are called long-term prostitutes, pay later when divorcing.

 

[Larry Storch]

Bit cynical isn't that? I have some amazing relationships, that I cherish. Not everyone fakes it.

True. :clap2:

When theres a genuine connection, the sex & conversation is good it's hard to avoid some sort of bond forming. But I suppose this can only happen when the people involved are being their genuine self. Being fake & putting on airs is a form of protection, Impossible for a real attachment to happen if one or both parties has their walls up.

But in regards to affairs, IMO they are wrong. Lying, manipulating and deceiving someone you say you love is wrong. The truth will come out eventually...and of course those relationships will likely come crashing down and fall apart, it's an unstable situation in the beginning when a relationship is based on lies. Kind of like all the shoddy construction work being done in Vancouver, when the foundation isn't set properly the entire building will shift and crack sooner or later. The monogamy illusion. When reality finally hits, it's not pretty.

Not trying to start anything, but this seems like a contradiction. Whether someone is seeing an escort or 'another woman', it's pretty much based on " Lying, manipulating and deceiving someone you say you love. . ."

I can almost guarantee that no married woman is going to see a difference between an escort and a civvie when it comes to something like this.

Personally neither do I. If you are in a sexless relationship and sex is important to you; either work out why there is no sex and correct it if possible, or leave. Why complicate you life and the lives of others?

Even though some of the ladies do enjoy their time with customers, we all know that none of it would be happening without the exchange of money. No problem with that, but let's not paint too rosey of a picture about this business.

 

[JimDandy]

Of course, if my gf was to find out, she'd probably be hurt and throw a fit regardless... Some women are...unreasonable...that way...

Are you joking tiger69 or do you really think it would be unreasonable on her part to be hurt and throw a fit? Just curious.

JD

 

[rlock]

As a single guy, maybe someone in a relationship will call "bullshit" on me for this, but...
It seems to me that whether you're having an ongoing affair with a "civilian" woman or seeing SP's for "meaningless" one-time encounters, when your significant other finds out, she's going to be just as angry either way. :fear:

 

[sdw]

As a single guy, maybe someone in a relationship will call "bullshit" on me for this, but...
It seems to me that whether you're having an ongoing affair with a "civilian" woman or seeing SP's for "meaningless" one-time encounters, when your significant other finds out, she's going to be just as angry either way. :fear:

Not only that, but if any "friends" know that you have seen SPs, you can count on them "helping your relationship" by telling her.