Camaraderie among pooners—desirable? Achievable??

tantalizeme

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Just read a delightful post of 2 guys going out pooning together: https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=99463

Reminds me of my repeat visit to a favorite SP at a massage spa. We`ve another great session, but then comes a little surprise. In the hallway on my way out, she introduces me to a co-worker. "This is my friend Yumi", my SP says. "Next time you come, do me a favor. Can you please bring along one of your friends, for Yumi?"

I promise to try. Yumi is a lovely Asian lady, early 30s I`d guess, whom I`d love to ravish myself. I`ve been racking my brains whom to bring along—so far, none of my friends sounds interested. They`re all in monogamous relationships, or relying on freebies, or too shy or cash-strapped to see SPs. Only one of them is a semi-active fellow pooner.

Given that pooning has become my most joyous pastime, I`ve been thinking: perhaps I should look for new friends who share this interest?

About half a dozen times now, on my way in or out of an MP, I`ve bumped into fellow pooners arriving, leaving or waiting. Some averted their eyes or even their bodies, but several looked at me. What I do in this situation is always say, "Hey, brother, how`re you doing?" There have even been a few friendly handshakes and holiday greetings. What do YOU do when you meet other pooners?

There`s a wonderful meeting of kindred spirits here on PERB. But it`s not face-to-face. I`ve sometimes wondered what it would be like to get together for coffee with some of the male posters who sound like super-congenial guys.

We might just shoot the breeze, or perhaps get some useful intel off each other. Or possibly even go out to MPs or micros together the odd time. We don`t always have to take the lone-wolf approach. Some of these places have a lot of girls waiting who`re sure happier to see two customers rather than one. And it might be a lot of fun to compare notes after.

If anyone`s interested, feel welcome to PM me.
 

myselftheother

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Y'know, you have a good point there. Why not find someone to poon with? It usually would be with dudes outside your normal social circle, so really no risk of being outed....then again you might have to filter out a few here and there as with all social circles there are a few bad apples.
 

Bobo The Rabbit

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In all my years and many many visits to MPs I have only twice run into another guy going in/out and both times said nothing.
That's not the place to talk as people don't like it.
Though I have had lunch and will be going to Thailand with another PERB member.
In Edmonton they used to do PERB meets.
I have never gone to one. What you may want to do is try to organize one where you live.
 

wolverine

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When I've gone into MPs and encounter another guy in the waiting room, I will try to acknowledge him with a nod and a "hey" to break the ice. Sometimes that will lead into a conversation over who to see or whatever. We're all there for the same reason so there's really no point of discomfort.

I have become good friends with a couple of pooners, so it's refreshing to compare experiences face-to-face over a beer rather than over the internet.
 

FortunateOne

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You've noticed too. :cool:

Is it just me or do none of his posts ever seem like they're derived from the male mind?
:eek:

Well, if from the female mind, it is definitely NOT young, CAUCASIAN female mind, since he writes so negatively (even in "good" reviews) of white sps (whether he has seen them or not, lol)
 

Thatotherguy

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As far as I'm concerned, online, anonymous camaraderie between pooners is as far as I'm willing to go. I've come to respect some of my fellow pooners here on perb, and value their opinions, but I have no desire to meet any of the guys on this board. I don't know, maybe I'm strange, but I tend to compartmentalize my life. I've got my friends from work, I've got my friends from back in university, I've got my friends from back in highschool, I've got my friends from my drinking/smoking weed/occasionally doing other drugs days, I've got my friends from my other hobbies, I've got my family, and it's rare for any of the people from one of those categories to ever see anyone from a different category. It's similar with pooners. I'd prefer to only know them online. Otherwise worlds are colliding!
 

kalel

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i'll acknowledge another pooner in the same room. what the hell, we're both there for the same reason and i'm not shy. and there's only 1 buddy i'd go pooning with and we never have matching schedules. actually i pretty much go on a whim, rarely ever schedules anymore and most of the times i'm either coming from the gym or on my way afterwards. thus far my lone wolf approach has worked so i'll probably keep it that way.

i don't go out of my way to make friends as i'm already full in that department. if an opening comes up i'll keep you guys in mind. but i will always be conversational if i ever do run into other pooners, unless they prefer not to be.
 

Guardian Angel

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I have only met one pooner over the years face to face and it was actually quite interesting. We did share some tips on who we saw and what we liked and it was interesting to see what services we got from the same ladies we saw. Rarely did we both get the same extras, a perfect exaple of YMMV.

He is now in a relationship so we haven't met since.

G.A.
 

FortunateOne

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Originally Posted by tantalizeme
Or will I receive the lame, snotty service typical of a jaded, greedy young Caucasian primadonna?
https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=99399
Yes, I am afraid that is exactly of which I speak. And this was within a good review; but I have seen similar commentary in other posts re: other sps. HT is well-reviewed, therefore no such behaviour should have been expected (or noted) within this review. There have been neg comments about 300/hr rates, yet there are several extremely well-reviewed sps out there whose rates range from 180-220/hr. Why would anyone expect lame service from any of these sps just because they are not asian??
 

tantalizeme

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Just wondering how gregarious YOU are with fellow pooners...

I'm puzzled by several hostile responses to my attempt at gauging interest in face-to-face comradeship among pooners.

SeekSteadyRegSP—you seriously think I'm out to drum up business for "Yuki" here? Imrokhaard—who lays down the law about how a "male mind" should think? FortunateOne—whatever failings I may have as a reviewer, that hopefully doesn’t invalidate my question about whether there’s realistic hope for pooner camaraderie?

Thanks, myselftheother, Bobo, wolverine, Thatotherguy, kalel, Guardian Angel, verySexyNinaLeone and the two people who PMed me—for sharing thoughts that encourage me.

Isn't it a little ironic: pooning, much like couples dancing, is by nature a social hobby, the very opposite of playing solitaire; and yet, it's a fiercely individualistic pursuit in most pooners’ minds. Very few of us, it seems, go pooning together with male friends.

I’m a strong individualist myself; I listen to my own drummer and step to music I hear. One of my friends with whom I discuss this hobby is an occasional pooner, but we’ve never synchronized our actual “field work.” Of the pooners I’ve bumped into at massage spas only 1 so far was willing to chat. In some ways I regret this; sometimes I wish we could form a kind of fraternity, with occasional get-togethers.

Or at least, I'll try making a friend or two among fellow pooners in 2009. That would help normalize this hobby for me and make me emotionally regard it the way I think it deserves to be regarded: as a perfectly normal pastime, in tune with evolved male human nature—making up for a massive natural gap in male and female interest in casual sex.

I think we pooners, as a socially despised, ostracized and occasionally persecuted sexual minority, should stick together a bit and support one another, much like the GayLesbianTransgenderQueer community is doing.
 

MissingOne

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When I first discovered PERB there was a small group of members who would occasionally have get-togethers. As I recall pooners and sps were welcome. I think the gatherings tended to be at strip bars. Most of those who participated have since moved on or been banned for various infractions.

I never participated, but reading the posts in those days, I got the impression that some enjoyed the get-togethers.

If there are those on the board who really have a wish to meet other pooners, I imagine that one of the occasional parties put on by one the sps would be a good place to break the ice. Sandy Laine's recent Christmas party might have been such an opportunity.
 

fatboy2

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In a few micros I've seen other pooners, usually when I'm sitting in the living room area,before or after the session.

Invariably, the pooner&the lady are wrapped in towels, heading for the shower cuz he didn't get the rm with ensuite.

I've always extended a friendly wave,but my fellow pooner has always averted eye-contact&looked embarassed.

No need for embarassment, IMO, we're all in this for the same reason.Funny,whenever I've seen another guy at a micro or AMP,I wondered,could this be one of the guys whose posts I've read?
 

SeekSteadyRegSP

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I'm puzzled by several hostile responses to my attempt at gauging interest in face-to-face comradeship among pooners.

SeekSteadyRegSP—you seriously think I'm out to drum up business for "Yuki" here?

Hi, um, no, as you were advertising for "new friends who share this interest".

And I'm sure that if Yumi/Yuki is advertising on PERB, she is paid up.

Clearly you've mistaken humor for hostility.
 

neverwas

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I don't know anyone who has ever pooned. Some of my friends must have done so at some point but nobody talks about it at all. Even if I make a comment that might lead to a discussion and possible admission I get no response. Maybe I just have friends that are too socialy conservative.
I think it would be fun to share this hobby with a buddy. If I lived in Victoria I would be glad to take Tantalizeme up on his suggestion.
The only time I have ever seen another guy at an incall was at SU one afternoon. He obviously was comfortable, smiling and waving. The best I could do was an awkward smile and nod.
 

DQ Guy

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Of all the guys I've seen walking in or out of an Mp.
I have yet to have anyone say boo..
Sure I'll give the curtious nod, or head bob. but it would seem
most guys are a little uptight about it around here.

But who knows maybe one day I will share pointers in the waiting room:)
 
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Motioncar

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Today at the day job a couple guys were discussing weekend conquests, and one fellow casually mentioned that he braved the snow and went for the 'sure thing' at an agency. I asked him later, outside the room, who he saw and he told me he was supposed to see one girl and she canceled and he saw another and was quite happy. I'm sure we'll split a ride there some time soon.
 

manni

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i simply say – what's up buddy?

i'll acknowledge fellow pooners if we're both waiting.
nothing worse than awkward stares at the floor or ceiling
so might as well be neighbourly. similar situation in
apt elevators. it's not hurting anyone and validates the
pooning hobby even more so.

happy new year perbs.
 

HB40

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I have shared recommendations with one fellow pooner who is not a perbite and am never shy to chat with guys at an MP but do remain silent if they seem shy. I had a short conversation with one guy in a waiting room, mostly trying to convince him not to pick the girl I was there hoping to see. He did choose her and gave me a victorious smile as he left for the session. I discuss pooning regularly with guys I work with but they are mostly young, single with lots of money and seem trepidatious to try it.

I have met 2 perbites for coffee and lunch and would be happy to go pooning with them,
I would even suggest literally pooning together with the same girl....I mean I'm not shy and they are pretty good looking. :eek:
There are many perbites I'd like to meet, almost all of the Edmonton guys especially Trawler, just to say I have sat at the feet of the master. :)
 
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